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To ask If you have terrible neighbours how do you cope?

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Ulysees · 28/01/2024 09:37

We live in a street with mainly rented houses. We own. They're good solid houses that people were keen to have years ago. Now they're rented out to mainly ok and decent people but some are dreadful.

I thought our new neighbour was ok. They've been there a few months now. They haven't done anything personally but the door is always being almost kicked in, windows broken. Yesterday we had gcs staying and as they were sitting watching a film next door and board (no window now) was being bashed and a man was threatening indoor guy and swearing. I actually phoned the police who came after. This isn't rare either.

We're not young and dh is a lot older. It's so stressful thinking about moving. We have been looking but would need to cash buy. We could sell ours too but obviously that won't be instant.

We're going to talk to the local councilor but doubt there's anything that can be done? Has anyone had success with this sort of thing? I pity anyone else going through it.

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socks1107 · 13/10/2024 09:03

My husband's mental health really deteriorated.

We moved, and have never been happier

user1471538283 · 13/10/2024 10:23

@Itsacrazyworldisntit - I did too. It did such a number on my mental health it took years to fully recover. I wish it happens to them (particularly as they were both very noise sensitive when others were just mowing the lawn).

Ulysees · 13/10/2024 11:40

Sorry you both had this. I'm glad you're out of it.

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TheaBrandt · 13/10/2024 12:30

It’s awful. Really awful and having experienced it I have extreme sympathy for anyone with awful neighbours. Sorry to sound melodramatic but it is like torture. You have no peace in your home then are on the alert for it starting up again.

TheaBrandt · 13/10/2024 12:33

15 years on still appreciate my lovely quiet
normal considerate neighbours. We moved to top of our budget area so live in a place where people know how to behave decently. Sorry if that makes me a snob but having experienced the alternative that’s how
it is.

Ulysees · 13/10/2024 12:39

I think there should be major implications for people who cause neighbourly distress. It's criminal.
We've also upped our budget and couldn't be moving to anything within a town/village that's as quiet. Hopefully 🤞

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Ulysees · 13/10/2024 12:39

Actually it is quiet as we know someone who has a friend in the street.

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TheaBrandt · 13/10/2024 12:53

We were so anxious before exchange we hung around in the road our current house is for a few evenings. It was blissfully quiet. The only sound we hear from our current neighbours is gentle conversations about plants and odd clink of glasses. As opposed to gangsta rap /screaming /out of control dog barking and loud drugged up gatherings of undesirables. I am extremely snobby about where I will live now.

InkySplott · 13/10/2024 20:51

user1471538283 · 12/10/2024 20:13

@bluewanda - it didn't happen so much years ago. We all still lived our lives but we had respect. Even when I was a student we were quiet at night at home because other people didn't want to hear the noise.

I always lived in terraced houses and we never heard our neighbors.

I've been through two nightmares with neighbors and the last lot were the worse.

Yes and if you didn't like each other you politely ignored each other .

user1471538283 · 15/10/2024 08:06

@TheaBrandt - I don't think it's being snobby we just want to live with quiet, decent, respectful people.

I was amazed with my last neighbours who made noise all day and night on one side and would scream from 3am the other side that they hated others noise. Noise like mowing the grass or someone's doorbell. So it was alright for them to disturb everyone and push me to a nervous wreck.

I wish them both the same now they've moved.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 15/10/2024 08:10

So much fun f this thread resonates with me ... and yes having to live with this makes you quite unwell both physically and emotionally. You begin to hate your home. Lots of helpful people will tell you to move but we can't all afford to do that. Plus, if like us the issues includes a neighbour who uses his front garden as a skip which never gets emptied ... as a buyer would you want to buy my house?

Its fucking miserable and I hope there is a special place in hell reserved for people who treat their neighbours with such disrespect

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 15/10/2024 08:10

I think there is an impact. I was always on edge and it's taken a long time not to be jumpy. I'm not quite there yet.

// absolutely this @zenzenz

Ulysees · 15/10/2024 13:05

@tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz I'm so sorry you're still not over it. That's terrible. There really needs to be a crackdown on antisocial neighbours.

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user1471538283 · 15/10/2024 17:47

@tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz - I'm really sorry to hear this. When I was going through it everyone thought they had an easy fix and as if I hadn't thought of it. In part because people are naive and also it's never happened to them. Even when people witnessed it they just left me to it.

I reported it, rang the police, begged with them to stop, sent my bf round, tried doing it to them. Nothing worked but my mental health got worse.

I sold and lost money to go but I appreciate not everyone can. It took me years to stop getting upset by loud music and shouting.

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