Ungrateful breakfast

[Jckf]

Name changed as I’ve mentioned it to a couple of people. I don’t know DPs Mum massively yet as we haven’t been together long, she’s come up to our city to visit and is staying at my house along with DP as I have a spare room.

Last night before bed she asked me if I wanted a hot breakfast making before work, I told her no thanks I will just have my usual weetabix. Woke up this morning to her at my door with breakfast… a weetabix with two poached eggs on top (no milk). I couldn’t bring myself to eat it because it looked disgusting. DP said don’t worry I will tell her you don’t like eggs on a morning and you can have your normal breakfast and took it downstairs. 5 minutes later she reappeared, two weetabix with crème fraiche and raisins. Again, vile. I just wanted weetabix with some milk in the microwave.

I don’t know her well enough to ask her to not fuck about with my breakfast and I want her to feel comfortable in my house, but I’m at work now and starving because I ended up leaving without eating. I do want DP to comment to her that I had said last night I didn’t want her making me breakfast. He just thinks it’s funny and started telling me the crap combinations they suffered as kids.

AIBU in wanting DP to nip this in the bud now or should I laugh along?

MIL is clearly a bit doolally. Who in their right mind puts eggs on top of weetabix (or any kind of cereal for that matter)? 🤢

Because people like this don't listen. OP told her she didn't want her to make her breakfast, and twice she didn't listen and did it anyway, and served up a nauseating concoction at that. People like this don't respect boundaries and always seem to think they are helping but they're actually doing the opposite.

As a guest I’d never think it was OK to go into the host’s kitchen and cook something with their food, unless we’d agreed that I would do that.

Exactly. I don’t see how she was being kind by ignoring OP’s wishes. Also agree with @MrsTwatInAHat, why ask if she was just going to ignore.

It is one of the things that bugs me about having guests/visitors that I rather just not have them at all.

This is endearingly bonkers… as long as it doesn’t happen TOO often. I guess she wanted to compensate for you missing out on the breakfast outing.

I think you should speak to her, not DH. Explain again that you do not want her fixing breakfast. Maybe suggest she could fix dinner?

Poached edgs on weetabix?! Hahaha! If Heston Blumenthal did it there'd be rave reviews.

If you didn't die laughing at that hilarious combo....then you're not the woman for that man!

I wouldn't bring it up at all, I'd just think she was hilarious (and I'd have probably ate it as well lol)

"He just thinks it’s funny"
No, it's not fucking funny John, I had no breakfast this morning because of your mother's buggering about. Sort it! I do not want her pushing her shit ideas of food onto me, and if she does it again I will NOT be polite.

You are doing your DP a favour here, it is therefore beholden on him to make it clear to his mother that she should listen when you say you don't want her to make an inedible breakfast for you.

Anyone fucking about in my kitchen is liable to my deathstare, frankly.

She sounds like my MIL. She desperately want to be useful. Her own mother used to come and clean for her while she was at work, and she always wants to
put on a wash or put away clothes when she is at our house. But I just don’t like it and I have to be quite firm with her! She can get angry back - “I JUST WANT TO
HELP!” But I have to be firm
and tell her to and play with the kids etc.
My DH will tell her too, but I am the one who Doesn’t like it so I need to deal with it really, I don’t need him to speak for
me.

This is very sensible advice.

This is surely some initiation test and she is waiting to see how you respond.

They've not put one of those daft serving suggestions on the box have they??
If so, be grateful that she omitted the vegetables!!

https://www.weetabixusa.com/recipes/weetabix-breakfast-scramble/

Apparently it's....exciting!!

I think she doesn't like you hence the breakfast and given the drama you've made of it, she might be right.

Seriously, was this so stressful that it ruined your day?

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/shortcuts/2017/jan/11/weetabix-with-ham-and-eggs-i-nearly-choked

She sounds like Mrs Cropley from The Vicar Of Dibley 🤣
What's in this sandwich?
Chocolate spread.
Chocolate? You sure? Oh ok.
With a bit of taramasalata!.

Ask her to make dinner and you can come home to a lovely plate of sausages and custard 🤣

You sound lovely and she sounds lovely. She is trying too hard and you are being diplomatic. No one is unreasonable.

It's vomit inducing vile 🤮

Oh that's so bad..... tragic even!

I think she’s endearing and wanting to form more of a relationship with you and it’s just a little too much and a tad bananas. Ask DP to have a word and leave it at that. I’m sure she means well but I don’t hold out much hope for her, you sound a tad stuck up and too tightly wound if this pisses you off 🙄

She’s trying to be kind!! Missing breakfast does not equal starving. FFS.

Not starving but hungry. Why should OP be hungry because her boyfriend's mum made her miss a meal and wasted her food? How is that kind?

She is obviously absolutely bonkers !

This

I might be wrong but it sounds a little immature to me. Like your MIL wants attention.
These acts of kindness are made with selfish intention. If she wanted to actually help you. She’d make you a tea or coffee. 🤷‍♂️

She’s trying to be kind!! Missing breakfast does not equal starving. FFS.

Eh? She’s trying to be kind! Which caused you to get no breakfast! So suck it up! You ungrateful besom!

OP is not some kind of nasty meanie for not being keen on having her own breakfast made inedible and her own food wasted in return for inviting her dp’s mum to stay. She’s absolutely entitled to ask her not to do that.