Ungrateful breakfast

[Jckf]

Name changed as I’ve mentioned it to a couple of people. I don’t know DPs Mum massively yet as we haven’t been together long, she’s come up to our city to visit and is staying at my house along with DP as I have a spare room.

Last night before bed she asked me if I wanted a hot breakfast making before work, I told her no thanks I will just have my usual weetabix. Woke up this morning to her at my door with breakfast… a weetabix with two poached eggs on top (no milk). I couldn’t bring myself to eat it because it looked disgusting. DP said don’t worry I will tell her you don’t like eggs on a morning and you can have your normal breakfast and took it downstairs. 5 minutes later she reappeared, two weetabix with crème fraiche and raisins. Again, vile. I just wanted weetabix with some milk in the microwave.

I don’t know her well enough to ask her to not fuck about with my breakfast and I want her to feel comfortable in my house, but I’m at work now and starving because I ended up leaving without eating. I do want DP to comment to her that I had said last night I didn’t want her making me breakfast. He just thinks it’s funny and started telling me the crap combinations they suffered as kids.

AIBU in wanting DP to nip this in the bud now or should I laugh along?

Get your DH to tell her exactly how you like your weetabix made and let her crack on I say.

Is the lady who made Weetabix with poached eggs on top from another country?

Did she perhaps think Weetabix were savoury things, a bit like big wheat crackers??

Surely you just say, "thanks but no thanks, I like making my own breakfast when I'm ready" I'm not even sure I'd be too bothered at their reaction over something so trivial, tbh, particularly in my own home, after telling her not to do it.

So you would eat poached eggs on Weetabix? 🙄

You’re hosting her in your house and cooking all the dinners? DP kindly got some crème fraiche for you - so that you could cook a meal for him and his mum? How good of him 🤔He’s doing quite well out of this arrangement.

Mentalist. You have my sympathies OP. Can you pretend you aren’t a breakfast person and leave the house early whenever MIL is on the prowl.

Just couldn’t get too fussed think it’s endearing couldn’t you have flipped eggs off or just made some more breakfast. You sound really fussy & hard work.

Take the eggs off, eat them, go downstairs and put milk on your own weetabix??

gross breakfast. but if i'm honest, she sounds like she really likes you. maybe laugh it off with her in the future one day when you make breakfast together :)

My MIL was endearingly bonkers like this until, a few years later (after marriage and kids), turns out she does actually have a personality disorder and mental health condition, and the ‘good’ ‘amusing’ bonkers turned into weird discomforting toxic bonkers.

I would put polite and respectful boundaries down now. And watch for how your boyfriend protects your boundaries for you.

I'm sorry, my mind just cannot comprehend two poached eggs on Weetabix that has to be the most out there combination ever.

I can see you are trying to be nice to your DP's mother and not rock the boat, perhaps he needs to be clearer with her regarding the boundaries in your house and that you get your own breakfast and not to interfere.

A quick google search shows the box has a weetabix and egg recipe! Who knew!

YAVU for putting warm milk on weekaboc! Yuk.

That is really properly mental. I would be changing the locks on that. But that might just be me.

Eggs on weetabix.... I can see why that's a hard no, but she is obviously looking for a way to reciprocate your hospitality. Could you give her something genuinely useful to do? Like a shopping list to pick up, or she could empty the dishwasher while you're out or something?

What an odd combination I love poached eggs and Weetabix never together. They would be too dry with crem fresch.🤢🤮

What's wrong with warming milk in a microwave?

OP warms her milk covered weetabox in the microwave together - who does that?

Me 🖐

Also me (with butter)!

Is it wrong that I am now contemplating replacing hash browns with weetabix and having them with poached eggs tomatoes and bacon tomorrow morning?

I think that sounds quite nice. i hear quite a few people eat porridge warm and it isn't a million miles apart.

Yes it is.

How weird after 2 days that you choose to randomly respond to that post - and no update of what has happened 🤔

Very bizarre

I like the idea of the PP that suggested you work with DH to find a useful role your MIL can play so she feels valued.

Not cleaning your house from top to bottom, but helping you out with dinner, or doing a run to the supermarket.

Despite her bizarre taste in breakfast, she is trying to help. Most people of Mumsnet seem to have MILs that are trying to kill them, or vice versa. Count yourself lucky yours might only kill you by accident if you eat breakfast!!!

It's HER house!
@Jckf Tell her to stop wasting your food, I don't like other people doing anything with my food so nip it in the bud now. She is in the wrong.

Porridge is cooked. Overnight oats (cold) is a recent thing.