Ungrateful breakfast

[Jckf]

Name changed as I’ve mentioned it to a couple of people. I don’t know DPs Mum massively yet as we haven’t been together long, she’s come up to our city to visit and is staying at my house along with DP as I have a spare room.

Last night before bed she asked me if I wanted a hot breakfast making before work, I told her no thanks I will just have my usual weetabix. Woke up this morning to her at my door with breakfast… a weetabix with two poached eggs on top (no milk). I couldn’t bring myself to eat it because it looked disgusting. DP said don’t worry I will tell her you don’t like eggs on a morning and you can have your normal breakfast and took it downstairs. 5 minutes later she reappeared, two weetabix with crème fraiche and raisins. Again, vile. I just wanted weetabix with some milk in the microwave.

I don’t know her well enough to ask her to not fuck about with my breakfast and I want her to feel comfortable in my house, but I’m at work now and starving because I ended up leaving without eating. I do want DP to comment to her that I had said last night I didn’t want her making me breakfast. He just thinks it’s funny and started telling me the crap combinations they suffered as kids.

AIBU in wanting DP to nip this in the bud now or should I laugh along?

@NuffSaidSam
Mrs Cropley and her cooking 😁😁

This. I would be furious and she wouldn't be staying again.

Bless her

OP you’re being unreasonable. Just look at the pdf of RECIPES on weetabix’s website…

just as you described!!!!

https://weetabix.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/weetabix-digital-recipe-book.pdf

Just get up earlier and let her see what you have.

I wonder if the OP managed to use her big girl words and actually speak to her mil.
It would have taken about 2 sentences.
"Thanks for breakfast but it was an unusual combo. Don't think I'd want that again because I just like milk on mine"
The mil would probably say "Oh ok dear"
🙄

How is it being kind to ignore the person who is allowing you to stay in their home?

OP said that she would have her usual weetabix. MIL could have ASKED her how she liked it if she was really trying to be kind and wanting to do something for OP or she could have just left it alone and once again ASKED OP if she could do something as a thank you and ACCEPT the answer given.

Helping and being kind heavily involves LISTENING to the person you’re trying to do those things for.

This reminds me of when I had some friends from Australia staying. Having cooked beef in red wine for dinner the night before, there was some left over. Next morning this was put in a pan and reheated for breakfast with an egg the middle for all of us!!! My husband’s face was a picture when Australian friend presented his breakfast to
him!!

“Big girl words?” Just to clarify, I’m not 6, I am a big, grown up girl. I just don’t want to inadvertently cause an argument unnecessarily when I could seek advice from others…. But if that makes me immature or whatever you at hinting at then yes, I am a mess that needs patronising, fire away my love 😂.

"Kind"?? So if someone tried to force feed you weetabix with poached eggs on top would you see that as an act of kindness? I think not!

@Jckf apologies if I sounded rude towards you.
I just don't understand why you can't talk to her - and why it would cause an argument?
Talking about food likes and dislikes with your family members is just normal conversation.
Telling someone that you didn't like a particular food combination and you don't really want to have it again is just a normal conversation.

Could you ask her to just bring you up a cup of tea in the morning, no food at all. You prefer to get yourself breakfast when downstairs. Hope she has no weird tea making combos!

Now, I'd eat that but weetabix and eggs - no!

This, though she may try to embellish it to impress you.
I'm sure it's done with love, and a need to be liked

Kind? No. Endearingly bonkers? No, just plain fucking rude. Why, when someone who hasn’t stayed before suddenly makes breakfast with random frankly stupid and unappetising combinations, would you thank them and eat it? She’s wasted eggs, weetabix (my favourite current breakfast) and been searching round in a virtual stranger’s kitchen then wants her to eat in the bedroom. Really weird and a massive overstep. Huge!

@Jckf are you going to come back to this thread - pretty please?

What's wrong with warming milk in a microwave?

Nothing. I always heat milk this way. It's easier than having to clean a pan afterwards.

I see massive red flags here. This lady who delivered the weetabix/eggs combo clearly has some issues, including (but not exclusively) boundaries and listening

Yeah I do! Such a ballache trying to get milk off a bloody saucepan! I just heat it up in a mug. (Put it in the microwave for about one and a half to two minutes.

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That's a bit of an over reaction. I wish @Jckf would come back and let us know how the rest of the visit went.

YABU for not just saying “oh thank you so much for making that for me, I actually just like weetabix with milk for breakfast though. Don’t worry about it, I’ll make some for myself in a mo 🙂”

I have no idea why this is an issue or why it would become an argument.

If this was my narcissistic dad I would take that he was offended that I said no to his breakfast and he was messing with me and getting his own back. Maybe it was just a strange funny prank - but def don't ignore any red flags.

Serve her a “Rachel” trifle for dinner and see how she reacts to weird combinations 😂😂

Sounds slightly bonkers.
Reminds me of first breakfast with my DH. He was shocked when I put milk on my cereal. My MIL had brought him to believe that cereal was served with water. She was such a tight wad.