Boyfriend wants to take my friend out on a date

[MayNov]

So, trying to keep this one short. My friend from out of town is coming to stay with me for a few days. My boyfriend has met her and gone out with us the last time she was in town. My boyfriend has taken a couple of days off work to go out with us.

I've mentioned I was going to do a gym&swim on one of the days she's here (I can spend up to 4 hours gymming & swimming) and my boyfriend said he'll ask my friend whether she wants to go on a long walk and for a lunch at the local pub with him. I said that would make me feel uncomfortable, he said he doesn't see any reason why this would make me feel uncomfortable.

Aibu to insist this would make anyone feel uncomfortable?

How is it a date? Is he taken for walks or does he have to wait till you get home?

Agree @FatherOfSeven 😂

The boyfriend should just give OP and her friend space and not be clingy and annoying.

It's not a date at all

I assumed that the host wants to go to gym and swim with her friend...

@CharmedCult i find that odd too and I wouldn’t be happy! This is the reason that the lunch seems out of order as seems he is more excited than OP to have here over!

How nice of him. Have to say I find it odd that you are uncomfortable and I don’t see what the issue is .

Have read all the OPs posts. I think it's very odd the boyfriend took time off from work given they've only been together 6 mo and he hardly knows her. Also the staying up drinking until 2/3 am. I can see where the OP is coming from.

I mean hardly knows the friend. So weird.

Maybe he’s a bit embarrassed that you’re gymming and swimming for 4 hours when you have a guest in town, and trying to cover up for you so your friend isn’t offended!

Bad case of "cancel the cheque" going on here...

To be fair, the opening post was a bit unclear about the gym scenario, but OP helpfully came back to explain it's necessary for health reasons, that there is a guest pass for her friend and that they normally do this together when she visits. So absolutely no call for BF to take friend off for a walk/lunch. A subsequent post clarified that friend would actually prefer gym and swim anyway.

He could be after a bit on the side, could be trying to discourage her from visiting or OP from inviting her in the future, or at the mildest he could just be tone deaf and failing to realise this visit is Not About Him. Whichever it is, I'd lay odds it's not the only example of him galloping all over OP's boundaries with naily boots. I'd be having Words re inserting oneself into other people's activities without an invitation - gentle to start with, firm if he persists. Most of us learn this by the time we hit secondary school.

I'm doing him the honour of assuming he's young and over-enthusiastic. If he has no such excuse - run away, run away!

You are being very silly and provocative saying he wants to take her on a date. You are the one out of order here, going exercising for hours while she visits.

I have just seen there is 18 pages so I'll go and see what the back track is..

Waiting for this back track!

Honestly, this sounds like a made up scenario.

Very nice of him to offer to do this but why aren't you the one taking her out and doing the gym another time? When friends come to stay I wouldn't take myself off for a solo activity?

Christ on a motherfuckin' bike. Over two days later and people are still asking the OP why she's going to the gym.

TAKE ME AWAY, LORD!

This.

He's entertaining her whilst you donyoyr own thing for 4 hours

LORD, ANSWER ME!

@Anniegetyourgun

I couldn't like this more if I tried!!

It's only been a few minutes, Vole. The Lord is still getting up to speed with OP's updates😭

But yes, people are ridiculous!

That sounds like a lovely lovely thing for him to do!

Its not a date. You're being rude leaving your mate for so long when she's come to see you

I think everyone who posts having only read the OP's first post should get a mild electric shock when they hit the 'post' button.

Just a lil electric shock.

😂😂

Who invited your boyfriend to hang out with you two for most of the visit? Seems weird. However, your boyfriend entertaining your friend during your sounds ideal.