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AIBU?

Airbnb owner keeps texting me WWYD

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Marniemo · 21/01/2024 21:24

Rented a cottage for a week and the owner is a lovely very kind woman. She keeps wanting to come over and meet my kids. I’ve been here two days and she has texted me every single day since. I have now agreed to Wednesday evening.

AIBU to think this is odd? Im sure she is very nice but it feels full on. I’m wondering if she just wants to check on her property?

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HighlandCowSaysBooNotMoo · 22/01/2024 14:49

That's fucking nuts. Is she definitely a nice old lady? Could be anyone...?

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GodspeedJune · 22/01/2024 14:58

Yes we had similar in Devon at a holiday cottage. Owner text every day wanting to meet up, the one day we relented and waited a couple of hours before she messaged saying she’d been held up and would be there soon, we went out!

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DeeLusional · 22/01/2024 15:02

LookItsMeAgain · 22/01/2024 12:07

You have given this person your details for the purposes of renting accommodation through AirBnB, or you gave AirBnB your details and they passed them along to this person for the purposes of you renting accommodation.
No other purpose.

This person should not be texting you to meet up as that is not what your details were for.

I would be very uncomfortable in how my personal details are being shared and used.

Very true. Report to AirB&B.

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BlueGrey1 · 22/01/2024 17:01

She is probably old and lonely, I would let her meet the kids

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Tomatina · 22/01/2024 17:08

This is another reason why we prefer hotels!

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Pookerrod · 22/01/2024 17:24

Junipergray · 22/01/2024 12:01

How do posts like this get to over 100 replies (and counting) when the OP has never returned with a single response?

Perhaps the Airbnb owner is holding OP hostage and she can’t get to her phone

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Marniemo · 22/01/2024 19:47

apologies all had a long day! I’m staying in the same area I live in im only here due to the fact my tenancy is up and waiting to move again.

When I collected the keys she did mention she is sad she didn’t get to meet the baby because he was with his dad and texted me hoping to meet him during the stay.

How weird is it that I feel bad saying no!

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CroccyWoccy · 23/01/2024 16:00

It's a bit intrusive but she sounds sweet and well intentioned!

To be honest I miss the days when I had small children who got cooed over by strangers so perhaps you should embrace it! If you're not on holiday and might be there a while, it's maybe not a huge imposition to let her drop in?

We had to stay in an AirBnB for a few weeks with a toddler and baby when our house was being renovated. The owner met us a few times and thought the children were delightful - which was something of a bonus when the baby was sick on the sofa, toddler smashed a cup etc!

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Cazareeto1 · 23/01/2024 18:00

Check for hidden cameras watch YouTube videos how to find keep the txts/ messages and report on to air b and b this is not normal

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Bellaboo01 · 23/01/2024 18:05

Marniemo · 21/01/2024 21:24

Rented a cottage for a week and the owner is a lovely very kind woman. She keeps wanting to come over and meet my kids. I’ve been here two days and she has texted me every single day since. I have now agreed to Wednesday evening.

AIBU to think this is odd? Im sure she is very nice but it feels full on. I’m wondering if she just wants to check on her property?

So she has text you the past 2 days and i assume you have text her back.

This is simple:

If you and your kids would like to meet up with her - then do it.
If you don't want to then - just say you can't meet up with her as you have plans.

:)

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Bloomingroses0406 · 23/01/2024 19:01

Wow!! 😂😂😂😂 you sound terrifying

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BlueFlowers5 · 23/01/2024 19:38

This is why I don't use AirBnB or B&B's because of the intrusion of any owners. Self catering every time for me.

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NotMyFirstChoiceofName · 23/01/2024 20:08

BlueFlowers5 · 23/01/2024 19:38

This is why I don't use AirBnB or B&B's because of the intrusion of any owners. Self catering every time for me.

Most air bnbs are self catering. Very few are actually bed and breakfasts.

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soupfiend · 23/01/2024 20:12

BlueFlowers5 · 23/01/2024 19:38

This is why I don't use AirBnB or B&B's because of the intrusion of any owners. Self catering every time for me.

Its the same thing? Airbnb is self catering, its not a hotel

Even when you only rent a room, you're still self catring

These threads always have some misunderstanding about what this is about. Airbnb is just a platform for people to advertise their self catering rental properties, like any cottage site

There are a few airbnbs where you rent a room in someones house, have access to the bathroom and kitchen etc

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Shessyillinbed · 23/01/2024 20:15

I'm a host and provide some breakfast stuff in the accommodation, most people are pleasantly surprised ! I never intrude though.

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s4usagefingers · 23/01/2024 20:15

I’ve stayed in an airbnb where socialising with the family was involved, we sat for a couple of hours in the living room chatting with them and their teenage kids and we also went out for a drink one evening with the parents. However it was made fairly clear at the beginning on the listing that there was a bit of a cultural exchange involved rather than just renting a room.

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T1Dmama · 23/01/2024 21:49

If you’re not on holiday and in the area you’re going to be living in I would just let her pop round for a bit and be pleasant x

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ClassyJen · 23/01/2024 22:06

LlynTegid · 22/01/2024 07:34

I would suspect it is to make sure you have children who you parent as opposed to letting them run riot.

Make it your last use of Air BnB please- think of those who are struggling to buy a property.

I never understand this attitude.

If we didn’t have properties available for short term rental, where would families go for holidays? Hotel rooms are generally either made for 2 or bonkers expensive.

And if we didn’t have property available to rent long term where would all the people live who can’t afford to buy?

Or is long term ok and short term not ok? Which doesn’t make sense as neither type would be on the market!

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Cherrysoup · 23/01/2024 22:15

Only ever used 2 airbnbs. The first was great, owners lived down the hill, had a barn at a distance that they were in and out of, but the property was completely private and we only saw the owner at the start. She showed us the path to access the lake and that was it.

The second was built between the owner’s house and his garage/driveway which he was on a lot 🙈He had a very bouncy, untrained dog that got in our dog’s face. So frustrating. We just made our excuses and left.

You’re not there to entertain her, OP. If you don’t want to meet her, message the woman, tell her you’ve changed your mind and want to make the most of your time on holiday by being with your kids-alone!

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CharlotteMakepeace · 23/01/2024 22:20

Marniemo · 22/01/2024 19:47

apologies all had a long day! I’m staying in the same area I live in im only here due to the fact my tenancy is up and waiting to move again.

When I collected the keys she did mention she is sad she didn’t get to meet the baby because he was with his dad and texted me hoping to meet him during the stay.

How weird is it that I feel bad saying no!

Black face paint and black clothes and present yourself as a family of Goths even the baby.

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LikeagoddamnVampire · 24/01/2024 01:15

CroccyWoccy · 22/01/2024 07:49

We've had similar before and after we were initially a bit unnerved by the attention the host was an absolute delight, she treated our children like her own grandkids, even babysat them while we went for a drink at the local pub. It felt like leaving family at the end of the week! I'd give her a chance OP.

Abroad we've also been invited into the host's family home, given food and drink and generally treated like honoured guests. To me it's a bonus of choosing a 'genuine' AirBnB rather than a generic holiday rental.

You seriously left your children with someone you'd just met as a business contact and went off to the pub?!

You sound like a child abuser's absolute wet dream. She could have had anyone there with her while you were away.

I can't imagine ever being so naive and trusting with my own dc. I'm shocked.

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OldPerson · 24/01/2024 01:44

She sounds new to the rental situation. I'd just reply "on further thought, thanks, but enjoying the peace and quiet and family time without interruption, please don't come check on your property, it's in safe hands".

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choc1cheese1 · 24/01/2024 02:17

My sister in law has been doing Airbnb for a few years now. She always extends an invitation to meet & greet over a cuppa/glass of wine at some point during their stay and quite a lot of her guests book again and/or leave great reviews! On the receiver side, this happened to us in Croatia and it was lovely! Agree that persistence & it’s to “meet the kids “ is a little odd but it sounds like she’s new to Airbnb & she’s just a bit anxious & “over welcoming”. Hopefully you saw her & will visit again another time xx 😍

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Boomboomshakeshaketheroom · 24/01/2024 03:07

Our AirBNB hosts, after a brief chat with XH when we arrived, realised they had friends in common... they called these friends and INVITED THEM AROUND!

We'd had a long drive, we were jetlagged and absolutely exhausted. We made polite conversation then went to bed, leaving our hosts and their guests to party on for hours in the next room. Even when we popped out about 10pm and asked them to be quiet, they didn't get the hint.

The stay was organised through work - long story but I wasn't able to say what I really thought, at the time or afterwards.

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Boomboomshakeshaketheroom · 24/01/2024 03:10

Another horror story from another trip - I was woken from a nap in my AirBnb by a strange man walking in the hallway.

He was a past guest - no idea how he got in! - looking for something he'd left behind. He did not believe me when I told him it wasn't there. I managed to usher him out and found out later he'd keyed my car.

The host wouldn't give me his details for a police report.

Can you tell I hate AirBnB!?

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