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AIBU?

Airbnb owner keeps texting me WWYD

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Marniemo · 21/01/2024 21:24

Rented a cottage for a week and the owner is a lovely very kind woman. She keeps wanting to come over and meet my kids. I’ve been here two days and she has texted me every single day since. I have now agreed to Wednesday evening.

AIBU to think this is odd? Im sure she is very nice but it feels full on. I’m wondering if she just wants to check on her property?

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Gymmum82 · 22/01/2024 08:12

We had an owner just turn up in the middle of our stay to show another prospective renter round! She then proceeded to complain the house was a mess (it wasn’t we had just cooked a meal so things were out in the kitchen and the kids shoes were left by the back door where they’d been running in and out of the garden)
I was so angry. It’s put me off using air b&b to be honest

I would cancel Wednesday on the day, just say you’ve made plans as you’re on holiday. If she tries to rearrange just say you’re busy

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Conkersinautumn · 22/01/2024 08:13

I've only ever.met one air bnb owner, he had a basement flat in the property but we only met him because the neighbour was grumbling about parking (it wasn't our car in her space) and he popped out to take over and grumble with her, he then checked in on us to apologise, didn't come in to the place just stood in the doorway and bonded with my husband over their hobby (why we were there). It's weird to shove in like that of her. It'd be mentioned in my review of the place, worded.to show she's pushy but not be catty about it.

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HairyQueenofSnots · 22/01/2024 08:19

Yep, I also now avoid Air bnb since I stayed in an apartment for a week and the bloody owner popped round FIVE times to 'pick something up'. By the last time, he'd started just letting himself in with a key.

I shouted at him for it and from then on deadbolted the door when I was home - but I was still on edge for the last 2 days and left very early on the last day just to get gone.

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oakleaffy · 22/01/2024 08:24

(why tf would she want to meet a strangers kids?)

That was exactly my thought, too..Stranger's kids are of zero interest to people generally.

If one sees a well behaved child somewhere {eg, sitting nicely on a delayed train, reading a book, one might think ''What a good child'' in one's mind, but wanting to meet stranger's kids?.... nope!

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ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 22/01/2024 08:25

I'd say she is checking that your kids have not damaged the property rather than her being 'overly friendly'.

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oakleaffy · 22/01/2024 08:28

HairyQueenofSnots · 22/01/2024 08:19

Yep, I also now avoid Air bnb since I stayed in an apartment for a week and the bloody owner popped round FIVE times to 'pick something up'. By the last time, he'd started just letting himself in with a key.

I shouted at him for it and from then on deadbolted the door when I was home - but I was still on edge for the last 2 days and left very early on the last day just to get gone.

Jeez Louise, that's really creepy.
What a cheek!
A long time ago, I rented out two rooms after husband left to students and never, ever went into their rooms unless specifically invited in while they were present.

A strange man barging in is completely out of order.
Like something out of a horror movie...waking up to see a figure standing over you..urgh.

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soupfiend · 22/01/2024 08:32

LemonLymanDotCom · 21/01/2024 23:08

Yeah, I had that at a recent Air B&B stay (New Forest). The host and her husband said they needed to give me a tour of a 2 up, 2 down. While pointing out the facilities such as the toaster and cassette player. They made no reference to the weird art though… alas. Some of that really needed explaining.

I think they just wanted to check me and my friend out, to verify us. It was very annoying.

Oh god we had this once, with Sykes cottages I think, lovely couple but this was like the smallest cottage you've ever seen, up in the Yorkshire Dales, after a 6 hour drive I just want to kick my shoes off, have a massive wee or something more, shut my eyes and get a cuppa. But no, had to be led round the miniscule kitchen, miniscule bathroom, shown things like toasters etc etc

Honestly!

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NotMyFirstChoiceofName · 22/01/2024 08:36

Shessyillinbed · 21/01/2024 21:56

I'm an Airbnb owner/host, they haven't as far as I'm aware. I don't ever hassle my guests, they know I'm here if they need anything

This.

Owners have the option to do check in or check out in person, if they want to meet their guests. Some do a personal check in as they like to explain how the heating works etc.

If they have had a bad experience / property damaged / multiple guests not booked for / fraudulent booking, they might do this to check that eg your detailed match the person who booked or you haven’t booked for your party of 6 as couple.

But that’s not about “ meeting your kids “, it’s not a social event, just a brief hello.

Of course it’s often different if you are renting a room in the hosts home, but not for stand alone, self contained accommodation.

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Rocketpants50 · 22/01/2024 08:36

We had this on a recent trip, once when we arrived with homemade bread, she was wonderful and then she brought us homemade cakes, told us all about local places to go and eat and visit. She then invited us to her house. Which we did and she took all the children horse riding.

Sometimes people are just being lovely people!

She still messages us now that we are home as we live in different countries as she is interested in where we live.

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waterrat · 22/01/2024 08:40

I stayed in an airbnb that was overlooked by the home that the owner was staying in - awful. Any airbnb owners should be so aware that this is not relaxing. She came in and actually said 'please don't walk around while brushing your teeth I don't want water spots on the carpets' ....aargh

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Saytheyhear · 22/01/2024 08:40

Why would you want a stranger to meet your children knowing that they not only know where they're sleeping that night but also likely have a second key?
Also, does PayPal give your postal address? So they also have access to your children's address.
It's a no from me.

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NotMyFirstChoiceofName · 22/01/2024 08:41

HairyQueenofSnots · 22/01/2024 08:19

Yep, I also now avoid Air bnb since I stayed in an apartment for a week and the bloody owner popped round FIVE times to 'pick something up'. By the last time, he'd started just letting himself in with a key.

I shouted at him for it and from then on deadbolted the door when I was home - but I was still on edge for the last 2 days and left very early on the last day just to get gone.

You need to report this to Air BnB. It’s against their policy, it’s a breach of your privacy and a safety risk - you ( or your kids ) could have been wandering around naked.

Hosts should only let themselves in if it’s an emergency eg gas leak, burst pipe. Or by arrangement with you eg to deal with an urgent repair eg cooker / heating not working. Not “ the joiner is coming to repair a kitchen shelf” or “ I need to borrow a casserole “.

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HairyQueenofSnots · 22/01/2024 08:52

You need to report this to Air BnB. It’s against their policy,

I did. I got a fairly generic 'thanks very much' email back (which didn't fill me with a huge amount of confidence but I might be doing them a disservice) and then asked them to delete my account/data because I was sure I was never going to feel right booking with them again.

This was about 4 years ago.

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Gallowayan · 22/01/2024 08:54

Obviously judge for yourself and cancel if the texting seems off andyou don't feel comfortable.

Unwritten social rules are situational to a degree though and this would be fairly normal in rural Ireland for example. Last time I went there we were invited to meet the hosts entire family for a drink which we enjoyed doing.

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Dogstar78 · 22/01/2024 08:56

We were talking about this at work the other day. We were saying, there a probably a cohort of people that get lured out London, swapping their houses for houses with land/ swimming pool in the country. When they get there they realise no-one wants to leave London to visit them regulary and thet are on the middle of nowhere (relatively speaking). They therefore want to socialise with guests. We had it happen, although ours was just very enthusiastic hosting which was actually lovely. Someone else said they went to the Cotswolds, where the wife of the owner basically said she was crying our for human contact and never really wanted to move.

Maybe it would be worth doing a quick hello in this scenario and then she will over on. I understand wanting to eyeball people that are staying. I probably would. Then I would leave them be. Dis you see her when you arrived?

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SkaterGrrrrl · 22/01/2024 09:05

soupfiend · 22/01/2024 08:32

Oh god we had this once, with Sykes cottages I think, lovely couple but this was like the smallest cottage you've ever seen, up in the Yorkshire Dales, after a 6 hour drive I just want to kick my shoes off, have a massive wee or something more, shut my eyes and get a cuppa. But no, had to be led round the miniscule kitchen, miniscule bathroom, shown things like toasters etc etc

Honestly!

Soupfiend, we had this last year in an Airbnb in Spain ....we arrived after a super long journey, ferry plus three hour drive with kids. The Air B&B hostess stayed for about 40 minutes walking us through every room in the house, the contents of every cupboard.... I could have killed her. We just wanted to dump our stuff, have a wee, make a cup of tea and get in the shower.

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PanettonePudding · 22/01/2024 09:06

I had an overcommunicative Airbnb owner once. Now I won't book anywhere where the owner is on the same plot or next door.

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SparklyOwls · 22/01/2024 09:07

I remember going to a B&B near Cambridge and the owners would not leave me alone. It was very stressful!

Also did a holiday with TUI/First Choice and the rep kept contacting me every day to meet downstairs at hotel at 5/6pm. We just wanted to be left alone to enjoy our holiday!

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tanstaafl · 22/01/2024 09:09

She probably just needs to change the sd cards in the hidden listening devices and cameras.

🕵

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CroccyWoccy · 22/01/2024 09:14

oakleaffy · 22/01/2024 08:24

(why tf would she want to meet a strangers kids?)

That was exactly my thought, too..Stranger's kids are of zero interest to people generally.

If one sees a well behaved child somewhere {eg, sitting nicely on a delayed train, reading a book, one might think ''What a good child'' in one's mind, but wanting to meet stranger's kids?.... nope!

Believe it or not, some people just actually like children

Particularly when my DC were younger, I have had numerous experiences of them being temporarily 'adopted' by older people - whether it's invited over for a chat in a cafe or taken round to feed to chickens on a farmstay.

We're not living in a Roald Dahl story, some people are just nice!

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MermaidEyes · 22/01/2024 09:16

I remember staying in a villa abroad once where the owners popped in to do a quick clean and a bit of gardening. Six bloody hours they took. At one point they were sat outside, having lunch and chatting to each other, and then their son rocked up. Not the most relaxing of days for us.

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Mariposistaaa · 22/01/2024 09:17

No way! It’s your holiday. You’re busy every day, 24/7. Or ok you can meet them but not at the property please.

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Newestname002 · 22/01/2024 09:21

@Gymmum82

We had an owner just turn up in the middle of our stay to show another prospective renter round! She then proceeded to complain the house was a mess (it wasn’t we had just cooked a meal so things were out in the kitchen and the kids shoes were left by the back door where they’d been running in and out of the garden)

What did you say to this rude host? Did you put this in your review when you left? 🌹

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starfishmummy · 22/01/2024 09:28

I hate intrusive owners. Years ago we booked a cottage that was next to the owner's home and due to the parking layout (long gravel drive right next to her back door) she always managed to be around wanting to chat when we were going out for the day or coming back.

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HalloumiGeller · 22/01/2024 09:32

I'd be politely telling her no, it's weird and intrusive! Don't make excuses as she will only ask to reschedule it for another day, just tell her that you don't want to!

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