I'm apoplectic with rage for my assistant

[jennyswoke]

I can't even explain why I'm so full of rage because it's not my business but we work closely in our office.
She is a wonderful worker, mother , runs the home and everything in between ..

He works full time on shift. Earns big money. Pays the bills.

BUT she in anger told him how overwhelmed she was raising their kids single handedly , running the home single handedly, working around her kids nursery and school hours . On call single handedly for sick kids and appointments .

He told her to get up earlier if she was that stressed.

That's it folks.

He is not alone or unusual.
One post after another here is representative of this.
These fucking men.
They make me vomit.
Sadly she has no legal rights as she is not married to this prick.
Never been so happy to be divorced .
Pig

Well I think it is.

And I come from the view that it’s not unreasonable to equip people ( in this case women) with the means to protect themselves from harm.

What I do object to is the over riding tone of your post, which is to say that all this would stop if women were taught some common sense and it would all stop if women weren’t so ‘naive’ as you put it.

Look at fraud- we all know people continue to be vulnerable to it- we tell old people what to look out for, but it still happens. But we’re happier to put the blame on fraudsters and the emphasis on stopping them rather than telling victims to stop being so silly.

I’d also add that many women ARE perfectly capable of spotting those red flags ( I know of one abusive man - a relative- who went through a lot of girlfriends before he got one that believed his BS ) But people can be vulnerable for a whole host of reasons. But we seem to have less sympathy for women who fall prey to this.

@MalcolmsMiddle above post in response to your last one!

Because she doesn’t?

It’s entirely possible to protect yourself even if you aren’t married, as long as you are sensible about it. I’m not married and either my partner or I could leave tomorrow and neither of us would be any worse off financially.

My post says "too many". Not "all". And your bottom paragraph is irrelevant as it describes the exact situation I've acknowledged where the man is totally to blame, just as there are surely other situations where the woman shares some of the blame. 😴