Husband has put an apple airtag in my car!

[ZeeB68]

Don't know if I Abu or not but my husband has gone abroad for 3 weeks for his brothers wedding and left me at home with the kids, our youngest is only 13 weeks old.
He's been gone since Sunday evening and today as I had just arrived back from doing the school run dropping off my older 2 children I had an tracker alert on my phone that says an airtag tracker has been detected and it showed me every where I had been that morning on the map. I was very confused at first as I didn't know what it was as i didnt know what an apple airtag was up until a few days ago, when my husband bought some to put in his suitcases before travelling, I know it 100% in my car, one because it showed everywhere I'd been that morning, and when I pressed " play sound" I could hear it beeping inside the back of my car! He's obviously hidden in it the day before he travelled when he went to fill my car up with petrol before he left.
I'm just so upset and don't know why. Surely if it was for safety with him being away from home he would have told me before putting it in there?
He doesn't know I know, I'm pretty sure he also doesn't know that my phone would detect it and give me an alert. I haven't said anything to him yet, I don't know what to say.
Aibu to think he is spying on me and tracking me or could it really be he's thinking about safety? But then I just think he would have said something. I'm really upset about it all knowing he's hid a tracker in the back of my car.

Not just controlling, but a cold-hearted witch, with a pathetic excuse for a son. I’ve never felt sorrier for a MN poster after reading the other thread. I really hope OP can escape with her children.

Can everyone please stop posting this thread. OP is not coming back.

Why do people need to stop posting?

The OP could well be reading responses, or someone in a similar situation could be reading them.

hugs

Is there an update? How did it go when he came home?

I’d screenshot the warning on your phone, send it to him and tell him you’ve contacted the police because someone is tracking you.

Hi, I have been reading responses but forgot to update. I didn't bring it up to my husband straight away, I wanted to see first if he would say anything himself - he didn't!
Every time I would get into my car it would bring up alerts on my phone and I would press "ring" and I would be able to hear it but I never ended up finding it.

I did eventually bring it up to my husband, the first time I told him " I keep getting these weird alerts coming to my phone saying their is a tracker in my car" he changed the subject.

I brung it up again telling him I know he's put a tracker in my car because I keep constantly getting alerts of an apple air tag being in my car every time I get in my car ( I do know it was my husband because he bought apple air tags before his trip)

My husband didn't actually believe me I was getting alerts to my phone and that it was possible phones give alerts ( i didnt know this either or know what it was at first), he didn't give me a reason why until I kept asking him, he said it was for safety incase my car ever got stolen, I told him I didn't believe this because why didn't he just tell me about it, I'd hinted and brought it up many times too and he didn't tell me. I've never found out the actual reason why from him but I don't believe it was for safety incase my car got stolen because he would have told me about it.

So the tracker has gone now, right?

Is the tracker still there and are you really still with your husband after all this @ZeeB68 ?

If it's still there, mess with his mind next time he goes away by lending the car to a friend and persuading them to drive it all over the place, including casinos and wine bars. If he comes back to interrogate you about it, it will be clear that he's not actually bothered about theft.

Go to a garage that would not know your husband or go to the police. When they find it you have the choice of keeping it all the time in your car or leaving on the driveway when you want to do private things, like see a solicitor Good luck.

Love this idea. Start parking in front of hotels and dogging areas.
I would have got rid of the car by now. This would dive me nuts.

@ZeeB68 Are you really aware that your husband has been tracking your every move since January? You have no autonomy in your marriage?

Please find someone to look for it properly. Ask them to meet you somewhere you will normally go but without your older child. Little people have a habit of noticing things and then talking about them later.

Your update is deeply concerning to many on Mumsnet. You don’t seem to feel the same concern.

Wait, you’re still just driving around with the tracker in your car?? It gives you the alert for precisely this reason, to stop stalking which is what your husband is doing to you. And he lied to you repeatedly about it! Please do something to get this removed or tell him to remove it while you watch, since he must know where it is.

You're still driving around with the tracker and still married to the person who put it there? Why?

Why on earth are you just accepting this?? Bloody hell.

I thought the air tag would have to be connected to your husband’s device, not your one.

I'd leave it on a bus

I say this because my husband did an event and I wanted to track him… with his knowledge. I asked if he could put an air tag in a pocket. He said it was connected to his device so I could not see it. We set up “Find My Phone” instead.

However, just found this;

He brought a tracker to track you while you were away.

He was too incompetent to do the research which would have told him that it beeps iPhones to let them know they are there. A competent creepy arsehole would have bought a different tracker.

The most likely reason he is tracking you is because he doesn’t trust you. The most likely reason for that is that he is not trustworthy. There is every chance he is having an affair.

To stop him tracking your phone, open the FindMy app and remove his permission. If he is listed, he probably took your phone and added himself.

When you confront him ask to see his phone. If he cites violation of privacy laugh in his face. You can check his order history for the tracker and if he’s having an affair, find out about it.

I have just found my planted Airtag and it was easy.

Download the tracker detector App (Airguard) It will lead you to the Airtag. When you find it hold the white side to the back of your phone, you will need wifi signal, and it will read the trackers ID and the last 4 digits of the owners mobile number. Screenshot both if you need for future.
To disable the Airtag twist the base and white together and when it opens the battery will fall out. TaDa disabled.

This only shares info it will not locate the Airtag.
See my post on how to locate it.