Husband has put an apple airtag in my car!

[ZeeB68]

Don't know if I Abu or not but my husband has gone abroad for 3 weeks for his brothers wedding and left me at home with the kids, our youngest is only 13 weeks old.
He's been gone since Sunday evening and today as I had just arrived back from doing the school run dropping off my older 2 children I had an tracker alert on my phone that says an airtag tracker has been detected and it showed me every where I had been that morning on the map. I was very confused at first as I didn't know what it was as i didnt know what an apple airtag was up until a few days ago, when my husband bought some to put in his suitcases before travelling, I know it 100% in my car, one because it showed everywhere I'd been that morning, and when I pressed " play sound" I could hear it beeping inside the back of my car! He's obviously hidden in it the day before he travelled when he went to fill my car up with petrol before he left.
I'm just so upset and don't know why. Surely if it was for safety with him being away from home he would have told me before putting it in there?
He doesn't know I know, I'm pretty sure he also doesn't know that my phone would detect it and give me an alert. I haven't said anything to him yet, I don't know what to say.
Aibu to think he is spying on me and tracking me or could it really be he's thinking about safety? But then I just think he would have said something. I'm really upset about it all knowing he's hid a tracker in the back of my car.

If OP's husband is tracking her car its also possible he is monitoring her gadgets and social media use. I'm concerned about her, and hope she is OK.

I think that’s the case too.

she did tell him previously she’ll leave so he’s concerned she will enact her plan now.
I would also not be surprised IF he actually lied about when he’s back (as in sooner than he said to her).

Unfortunately OP hasn’t been back and sh è may be burying her head in the sand as others pointed out a previous thread of hers where there were a lot of 🚩 🚩🚩 and she also disappeared. 😔

Found the husband!

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hope your ok OP!

Thanks!

Everything ok OP?

I keep coming back to see if OP has posted. I hope she's OK.

Same, I keep thinking about her. I do hope you are ok.

Same as above replies, hope you're ok@ZeeB68

I would post it to the address he's staying at. That will make him sweat awhile.

😂 I love it

Incidentally I gave the air tag I strongly suspect my ex husband planted on my car to a friend whose husband drives lorrys who has friends who drive overseas then I hid my car round the corner and watched the fireworks start best part was he couldn't admit he tagged my car so initially he was driving past then he was contacting the school to see if the kids were in (they told him to show up with his id and they wouod speak to him in person) then casually texted me if everything was OK it went on for days

OP, I’ve read your other threads and I’m really worried for you.

Your MIL is a piece of work and they way your husband treats you when she’s around is also shocking…

I hope you’re well 😢

I also wanted to point out… your husband and your MIL are NOT respecting your rights in Islam.
I think you know that, but I really felt the need to echo the many other posters who told you that.

I wish you and your babies the best and I will be making Du’A for you ❤️

How are you doing @ZeeB68 ?

@ZeeB68 let us know you’re ok ❤️

I check every day to see if OP has posted. I vant help but worry for her.

@ZeeB68 Sweetheart, if you’re still reading this thread, please let us know you’re okay if you are able. Having RTFT and your previous thread about your appalling MIL and DH, I am in tears as I am so worried about you.

I can only echo the previous advice to get all your legal documents - especially those pertaining to your DC eg their birth certificates and passports if they have them -and get a burner phone and as much money as you can then GET THE HELL OUT.

I know divorce is the last thing you want, and you STILL may not be able to see this, but you are in a controlling and abusive marriage to a cruel misogynist. This will only get worse. Please - I BEG YOU - do not go to Pakistan or allow your DC to go; you will never see them again. I think your DH has used the 3 weeks there (and the £2.5k) to make arrangements to relocate there.

There are resources and advice in the thread to help you escape and make a better life for you and your DC. Use them. As soon as you can. Sending love and strength xx

Just ask him. I'd call him up and say 'WTF is an air tag doing in my car?'

I know people lie, but all this talk of divorce proceedings without a conversation is (typically) MN dramatics.

@mjf981 I think you need to RTWT

@mjf981 36 pages of “MN dramatics”, yet you’ve clearly not read any of it! Thanks for your informed and helpful contribution.

Airtag = control
Your H doesn’t respect you .
I wouldn’t trust him an inch

If you read @ZeeB68 ‘s previous thread you’ll get more context about her very controlling mother-in-law and totally unsupportive husband

I’d be absolutely raging and I would reconsider my marriage.

Yeah then she's got 52 weeks alone with kids. That would be shooting herself in the foot a bit

Not for everyone, though. Not everyone wants 50:50. I wouldn't have got divorced if it had meant that.