To be annoyed at partner for being tight with money

[lavenderlover01]

So my partner and I had a baby 9 weeks ago and we have our own places, the plan was to purchase a place together (which I am doubting now).

Since the baby he has spent every night at mine.
I received gas and electricity bill today for £200 for a MONTH!

Usually I only pay £51 as I live in a 2 bed apartment.

I asked him for half the money and basically he is saying he shouldnt have to pay half.
He will have lights on in the day, forget to turn lights off.
He will also put the heating on and use the gas to heat the water up so he can have showers.

He will go out and do the grocery shopping and I will always pay him half otherwise he will just be on my case and last month he got really nasty shouting "wheres my money?".

He has not worked since November to help but his own choice and somehow I get the blame and he is bitter at me for losing him three months money.

He has a lot more money and savings then me and yet all he does is complain about money and I give him half on everything for our child.

I have now asked him to start staying at his own place as no way can I afford to be paying £200 a month on electric and gas.

I am really annoyed and to be honest I am sick of him constantly being in my personal space.

I have told him this and he has said he is not going as he wants to be with our child every day, I just dont know what to do.

Get him to leave. If you want to stay with this man then go to his and don’t pay a penny for anything

Tell him to leave and stay gone, he's no good

Cocklodger.

Firstly he should be contributing financially when he is staying with you.

However with an extra person and a new baby you can't expect your energy bill to stay at £51 per month. We live in a 2 bed flat and pay £75 per month and that is just for two adults who are out a lot.

You’ve asked him to leave and he said no? Redest of the red flags. Kick the arrogant tight arse waste of space out of your home and I hope the door hits him on the way out.

I just can't with these threads...

What happened in your life that you have to question what you should do? Kick him the fuck out, break up with him, stop giving him any money, give the baby your surname and aim higher.

And don't say "he's a good dad", or "he's supportive in other ways". No he isn't. Not in any way that matters.

So basically he’s not working through choice, staying with you, so you pay all the bills and he can have basically none at his. So it’s a cash saving thing. What a twat.

LTB

He's not a partner in any real sense, he's a freeloader who is taking money off your baby because he doesn't want to pay his own bills

Fuck him off and change the locks. And give the baby your surname.

He even expects me to wash all his clothes here without even offering to pay a penny.

I understand with a baby and someone else staying that bills would go up but its gone up by £150.

He will moan at me for not washing the baby's clothes daily (I wash baby's clothes every other day) and he will moan saying I should be washing them daily.

I am just so fed up of him.
Next time when he asks me for halves on something I am not going to give him a penny as it seems he wont be paying me a penny from his response.
I have asked him to take all his laundry back to his as I will only be doing mine and baby's washing.

Saying no to requests for money and stopping his laundry isn't enough. You need your space back. It's your home. He needs to go home to his home.and give you some space to breathe and think.

What an utter waste of space. How can you even go near him?

Please, for the love of God, make sure your contraception is now water-tight.

Arrogant, tight-fisted arsehole. Tell him in no uncertain terms that he doesn’t have a choice but to leave. You aren’t his money sponge. If he refuses to leave or gets aggressive, you need to call the police.

He’s meaning at you for not doing laundry every day when you e just had a baby??!!?!

geeze

I can't actually believe what I'm reading.

Buying a place together? How?

And all the other nonsense!

Where do people find these men? And why, or why, do they always, always, suddenly find themselves pregnant to them…?

Please end this relationship. This man is exploiting you.

Did you not fully assess his character before you decided to have a baby with him?

He sounds dire.

Is he at least doing his share of caring for the baby?

He’s not being tight. He’s just a cocklodger.

Why pay money when you can you do it for free?

kick him to the kerb

You posted about this just recently and everyone said leave him. Why aren't you listening?

Your update is very worrying. You don't even mention considering leaving him. Get him out of your home and locks changed. He is a horrible man who will suck you dry. You are a mother now. You need to put your child first and having a useless father in the house that keeps money to himself and doesn't contribute is not beneficial to your child at all.

He is also mean to you. Firstly you do not deserve this and secondly your child does not deserve to be brought up witnessing this.

Big hugs. Am so sorry your journey into motherhood is being ruined by this low life. Only you have the power to change this.

Next time when he asks me for halves on something I am not going to give him a penny as it seems he wont be paying me a penny from his response.

Why would there be a next time?
Kick him out.
Make a claim for child support through cms.
He will not improve.

Is he point bank refusing to leave? Or is it just weedling annoyance? If it's the first, you can call the police.

He's an arsehole. Tell him to leave and if he won't, call the police