To be annoyed at partner for being tight with money

[lavenderlover01]

So my partner and I had a baby 9 weeks ago and we have our own places, the plan was to purchase a place together (which I am doubting now).

Since the baby he has spent every night at mine.
I received gas and electricity bill today for £200 for a MONTH!

Usually I only pay £51 as I live in a 2 bed apartment.

I asked him for half the money and basically he is saying he shouldnt have to pay half.
He will have lights on in the day, forget to turn lights off.
He will also put the heating on and use the gas to heat the water up so he can have showers.

He will go out and do the grocery shopping and I will always pay him half otherwise he will just be on my case and last month he got really nasty shouting "wheres my money?".

He has not worked since November to help but his own choice and somehow I get the blame and he is bitter at me for losing him three months money.

He has a lot more money and savings then me and yet all he does is complain about money and I give him half on everything for our child.

I have now asked him to start staying at his own place as no way can I afford to be paying £200 a month on electric and gas.

I am really annoyed and to be honest I am sick of him constantly being in my personal space.

I have told him this and he has said he is not going as he wants to be with our child every day, I just dont know what to do.

Lock the door when he leaves and do not let him back in!

Jesus!

I just feel bullied and abused in my own home, I darent mention this to the Health Visitor as he says he will get my son taken of me and make up stories about me which is why I havent reported this to the police as I know this must fall into some kind of abuse?

These sorts of threads are so depressing. There’s always so much more going on than is portrayed in the first posts.

He is far too selfish, a user and a nasty personality. He needs to change if he ever wants the bliss and blessings of a happy family. He should be volunteering to share the energy cost solely on account of the fact that his child is being kept warm and thus safe in this climate and weather. Some men don't know when they are well off and lucky. Sorry that you have to endure this unpleasant agony on such matters when you should be thinking of the joys of motherhood and the life of a young family.