Man on school run

[Frisps]

I see a man every morning on the school run and he stares at me. Like a really intense look and what I can only describe as an ‘evil’ sort of angry glare look on his face. I’ve no idea why. Never spoke to him, never had any issue. He doesn’t know me or anyone I know on the school run. His children are in a different year group to mine so there is no issues there. I just always see him every morning. The first few times he did it I just smiled but now I keep trying to avoid eye contact when I go past him but I can tell he’s still doing it as I feel his eyes on me as I go past. I did think I was being paranoid but I’m definitely not. the last couple of days he’s also walked past my car when I’ve been parked and I’ve been sat in it minding my own business. I’ve looked out my windscreen and then as he’s passed my window I’ve felt his eyes on me so looked and he’s staring at me like that whilst looking into my car window at me as he passes. I’m starting to feel quite annoyed and intimidated by this. What would you do?

"Hi,excuse me for being so direct and I hope you don't mind but I'm under the impression you know me or might be confusing me with someone else as you always look at me a lot?"

See what he says.

I've had this happen twice:

1. Mum at school with murderous resting face (big thanks to the person upthread who introduced me to that useful phrase) - we'd met before and I thought I'd offended her somehow but when I finally plucked up the courage to say hi and strike up a conversation didn't ever remember meeting me and clearly had no idea she'd been staring daggers at me for months
2. A guy who, for no reason at all, took against me in a weekly toddler music group and was properly horrible to me. Practically hissed with rage at me and I shouldn't come back to the group etc. We'd never spoken before. In every class after that he greeted me with this big creepy smile. It was really sinister and I was really shaken by it at the time.

So, in summary, it might just be his face, or it might be that he's a bit creepy. I'd second the idea of asking him for the time.

So now you are a victim if you think someone is looking at you? We all need burkas.

There is a big difference to someone looking at a you and someone staring. We all know the difference surely.
There are posters all over the tubes to warn men not to stare at women

What the OP is describing sounds unnerving and I don't know why so many people are belittling her or making excuses for him.

It's even more likely he isn't paying the OP any attention at all and is just doing the standard 100 yard stare that we have all perfected while waiting for school to kick out.

Stare at him back angrily or grimace at him to let him know he's been clocked

Stare right back at him, unblinking, then slowly blink to show him you've written "hello" on your eyelids with eyeliner.

Make friends with him

😂😂😂😂😂

I honestly wouldn't even notice someone staring at me on the school run as I don't bother trying to make eye contact with anyone except the parents I know.

@Frisps I would definitely do the 'is everything ok?' or something, like a PP mentioned. If nothing else, it can make people stop it.

Do you drive when it’s walking distance?

This is very true tbh it IS far more likely he just will have absolutely no clue what's going on while op is marching over to him with a gang of protection officer friends in tow taking his picture whilst asking what time it is 🤣

I would do this, ask a friend to keep an eye out from a distance.

I can just picture it and I can't stop laughing.

My child is nightmare. You can hear her before you see her. A dad appeared to physically flinch if he saw us. Or he would appear to manoeuvre away from us. It was and continues to be my dd. I think he doesn't want his child to catch "brat" from my child. Love my dd, but honestly I can't blame him.

Amazed that so many women don't seem to think it's possible that this man is being deliberately intimidating. Maybe you think that sort of thing Is a rarity?

It's possible he's mistaken you for Lady Penelope. Once he realises he can learn none of the secrets of International Rescue from you, he'll turn his attention elsewhere.

[not read the whole thread] Are you of a different ethnicity to him or wear a religious identifier? If so, it'll be that I'm afraid. I've experienced this too for the first time, since recent events.

Yes, I find it surprising too.

Strange man staring at me would freak me right out.

Just ignore him? Why do you care so much?

Same. I have been stared at intensely and it is frightening.

Presumably because it's a bit intimidating to have someone repeatedly staring through your car window at you when you're just minding your own business

Have you tried glaring back?

Thanks everyone for your comments. I don’t think it is to do with my car or parking. I don’t park bad or leave the engine running.

He does it even at the school gates and walking through the school grounds. He has done it from the first ever day of school back in reception. I don’t live close to him to my knowledge. I only ever see him on the school run

I know people say I have to be looking to notice but even just walking past and not making eye contact if I happen to look up (he’s very tall) then he will be doing the stare. It is more than a dirty look, honestly looks like he wants to kill me!! And I have no idea why