To think it's odd my husband didn't eat the roast meat because my dad had touched it

[LaviniaLee]

Just before Christmas, my husband and I went to visit my family for the weekend, for an early-christmas celebration. My sister did a big roast for us (for my parents, siblings & families).

The meat was a lovely roast lamb. My dad was helping by carving the meat. He put his hand on the skin of the joint and carved. So he had touched the edges of the meat.

My husband loves meat but he didn't take any of it. When I asked him later, he said it was because he didn't think my dad had clean hands, because he once heard him (at a different time) flush the loo and come out quickly, and he suspected that he hadn't washed his hands. So now his general assumption is that my dad doesn't have clean hands.

AIBU to think it's odd that my husband didn't eat the meat for this reason? (given he normally loves it).

I do. I am profoundly left-handed and my right hand is basically useless. I carve with the left hand and holding the carving fork in my right to use it to steady the roast is really awkward. I find it easier holding the roast with my right hand, than using the fork. I have better grip and control of the roast with my actual hand.

Ooo I haven’t had Daddies Brown Sauce in years.

So people don’t clean their phones?? That’s gross. No idea on light switches as we have a smart home system so just shout at the room to turn on the light 😅 or for more needed areas have motion detection for automatic lights such as the landing and stairway.

@Calliopespa

no. The restaurant should be shut down cos a member of staff spat in the glass when it was sent back!!

your poor friend.

the restaurant should be shut down and whoever did that should never work in hospitality again, the minger.

I think phones and light switches would be much cleaner if people washed their hands more regularly, and always after using the toilet. Stands to reason that the filth is coming off people’s hands rather than arising spontaneously on these surfaces, doesn’t it?

You may not get sick from eating the food but are still ingesting nasty germs from poor hygiene.

You surprised me lol. I'm stunned after your husband told you, to you it's still weird to say no. I'd be grossed out he let you eat it and didn't tell you before hand.

I have a friend with questionable, personal hygiene and I can’t touch anything she touches. She has dreadful habit at shared meals, sticking her hands in my food and taking it such as naan bread and other picky stuff, it put’s me off my dinner.

I can relate to your husband. My f.i.l. never ever washed his hands, claimed water was for fish. He didn't wash much either, only his face when shaving and the rest once a week (at best) on saturday. I knew that! Once we were dining with them, and m.i.l. divulged - during the meal, oh yes - that f.i.l. had a severe stomach bug ánd that he had washed the lettuce and the tomatoes. All of this after I saw him go to the bathroom and come back without washing his hands, and after I had eaten a good serving of said vegetables (their other vegetables were so overcooked I never ate them). I became very ill, not the usual "a day with the runs" but really sick with fainting and fever. I still feel faint thinking of it.

Your husband and half the people on this group clearly have no idea what goes on behind the scenes in restaurants!! 😂

Yes but we don't witness them leaving the toilet without washing their hands.

Yes but we don't witness them leaving the toilet without washing their hands.

And the whole point of the thread is that the OP's husband didn't witness anything either. He's assuming and drawing conclusions based on his own skewed idea of what is normal hygiene.

@Bargello it's normal to wash your hands after touching your genitals. If he's that lax with toilet hygiene he's likely lax with food hygiene.

There's not a chance that I'm eating meat that has been touched by the same hand that has just held an old man's meat.

listen to all these mental people.
if you watch ANY cooking show, Masterchef even....the chefs ALL touch the food to slice it once it's cooked. It's totally normal for a family member to touch the meat while carving. Mumsnet is full of weirdos.

in what universe? Never see Jamie Oliver do that on his show.

???????? Chefs in high end restaurants....ANY restaurant.... are NOT using carving forks. This thread is hilarious. Chefs use their hands. Have you never watched Masterchef??

Did your DH, or you, consider the possibility that your dad flushed after washing his hands?

Agree it's normal to wash hands. OP's DH has NO REASON for believing that her dad is not washing his hands. No proof that he is "lax" about anything. Just the suspicions of a sanitiser-fan based on timing of a toilet flushing.

I mean I tend to get a steak in a restaurant and you can bet your ass it’s come in pre cut in most restaurants 😂 unless it’s an Indian then I get the chicken madras and that’s chopped before cooking.
Toby carvery sometimes they use the big carving knife and fork.

My fiance does a few things like this...probably way more extreme actually.

He won't use a glass or cup even after it's been washed if he knows any visitors used it that day

He won't sit on the sofa after my family or anyone else has just left unless he turns all the cushions round

He won't touch door handles after certain people

Won't share drink bottles unless it's me

Won't eat food if someone else other than me has had one out the packet if it potentially means they've touched the others. Eg box of muffins fine as they're separated a bit, but pack of doughnuts not fine as the remaining ones could have been touched!

Yup. Worked in restaurants when I was younger, one of the chefs used to piss in the kitchen sink because he couldn't be bothered to walk to the bathroom.

This is why I don't like eating out as I've known servers to spit in food whilst perhaps scratching their sweaty balls

I’ve heard loads of horror stories from employees. Can’t tell because they are well known establishments! It’s not nice but the point is we are more robust than we think we are. Case in point: OP. She seems to have survived the touched lamb.

*MN is full of people who are appalled by anything vaguely unsanitary. I don't know how they leave the house TBH.

I'd have eaten it.*

This.

People on mnet are weird.