Do you think men seeing escorts is common?

[JaneyGee]

I was just reading the ‘do you think affairs are common?’ thread, and it made me wonder about sex workers. Do you think it’s more common for married men to visit escorts than to have full-blown affairs? Maybe I’m completely wrong, but I’ve known several women (all friends of friends) who’ve caught their husbands messaging or googling local escorts. It’s just so ridiculously easy these days. A man can lay in bed and scroll through dozens of local prostitutes on his phone. His wife could be asleep next to him as he does so. If a married man wants more sex, an escort is a much quicker and easier way to get what he wants. He’s also less likely to be caught.

I’ve heard married men at work joke about visiting escorts. Whenever one of them has to go abroad for a few weeks on business, the others joke about looking up the local escorts, or having escorts come to the hotel, etc. Somehow, they don’t quite feel like jokes. Sad thing is, I generally like these men. They have always been very pleasant to me, and don’t come across as seedy or lechy.

@Lolla38 Honestly, get rid of him. Do it today, right now. He doesn't care about you. You do deserve better. You've just happened to catch him out this one time. Normal men wouldn't have that on their search history at all. The most obvious explanation is usually the right one... That he is ok with it, that he has done it before. Him ignoring your request to see his bank and phone history is a BIG red flag, and makes it even more glaringly obvious that this man has things to hide. What a piece of shit. He's not a loving partner, he is not worth your time.

You're left with a future hating yourself for choosing to stay with him, or choosing freedom and not having to wonder if he's paying women off to pretend they consent to having him use their bodies. Choose wisely because no man is worth that pain.

Also, to all the people on this thread who live in blissful ignorance... It's everywhere. Part of the thrill for a lot of men is the secrecy, so of course they are going to hide it in plain sight. What would they gain from admitting it? And what might they lose? Of course it's secret.

Think of the worst thing you ever did. Cheated on someone? Stole a packet of nappies on your buggy when sleep deprived? Accidentally got too much change and didn't take it back to the shop? Maybe even ran someone over accidentally, or hit someone whilst drunk? But would you go around broadcasting these upsetting things you did? No you wouldn't. And neither do these men. They are just men, your men, lots and lots and lots of different men. Prostitution is easy, cheap, accessible and they compartmentalise it like you wouldn't believe.

Men often think they are owed sex. They often see women as lower than them. OBVIOUSLY not ALL men, but waaaay more than you'd think. All kinds of men..It's not all stereotypical seedy kerb crawling of poor drug addicted women in mini skirts any more; it's in airbnbs, cheap hotel rooms with some poor woman installed, shared houses full of them, it's online booking, it's easy and transactional. It's a multi billion pound industry fuelled by gangs who traffick the women, children, men involved. It's twenty minutes out of their day and then on to the gym or to pick the kids up. It's been rebranded. Onlyfans is deemed acceptable, massages, gay spas, "escorts" instead of uglier terms like "hookers" etc etc.

We will never know the true amount of men paying to assault these women, but open an Incognito tab and see just how many are available right now, in your area. Yep... Supply and demand. It's huge. It's very stupid to try and pretend only the one loser guy you happen to know is doing it. It's laughably more than that.

You’re so right,. I am so glad I found this no rather than years down the line. We were looking a planning on a. House a baby and yet I find this on his IPad and he dare lie where it’s come from. I wouldn’t mind but this was not just the front cover of the website it was a profile of the woman and her profile information so whew did they come from exactly. The website is called Eva Escorts and on the tsb it shows the age name then when you press you get the profile showing: I just can’t believe he would do this to me in all honestly I am gutted and always thought he loved me

My only down fall is I have no trace of numbers I wish I could speak to the woman in question and ask her but she wouldn’t be able to tell me

It’s extremely common. True statistics would be far more than 1 in 10 and it’s nothing to do with lack of sex or unhappiness at home. It’s far less complicated for a man, especially one in a long term relationship, to pay for sex then leave. As one escort told me “they pay me to go away”.

Women just don’t understand men. They’re biological and in an ideal man’s world men would have a harem. It’s nothing to do with love, it’s a purely physical drive.

The ones on here denying this reality vociferously don’t have a clue I’m afraid.

I recall reading something suggesting 1 in 4 men at least once in their lifetime, perhaps it was at the time the Belle De Jour (?) memoirs were turned into a tv drama.

I think you're really asking several questions here.

1 - Do you believe that a significant number of men go?
2 - Are you ok with the 'concept'?
3 - Could you understand it/accept it if sex has disappeared since kids/menopause, etc? (providing he takes precautions and doesn't blow the bank)

4 - If sex is a requirement for an individual in a relationship, would you always break up/divorce if they say they couldn't live without it. What would you offer as an alternative if you did not want them to leave?

2 men i know were talking about their recent divorces and how they are both getting on with Tinder and Plenty of Fish, they were both meeting a lot of women in their 40s/50s and slept with many of them casually and no protection.
They both said it was incredibly easy to sleep with different women on these apps.

Wired differently my arse, I’d bet he’d soon discover the problem with it if his wife started fucking random men.

I think it’s more men than we’d like to think and I also think very, very few of them actually care about if the woman is trafficked/forced or not.

Not in my circle, no. None of my friends have discovered their partner doing this to my knowledge and the men in my life have never told me about someone else doing it. Obviously by nature it tends to be kept under wraps, but within my demographic there is an attitude and culture where its looked down on. Not for the right reasons/concerns of exploitation you understand, but more from a male pride perspective that ' having to pay for it' is the preserve of sad men who can't 'get it for free'.

None so blind as those that will not see.