DS being bullied for his coat! It’s not that weird is it?

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DS turned 7 in dec and I brought him a new coat something different.He absolutely loved it and had lots of compliments from his friends at footie. But his school friends seem to pick up on everything and are so critical.

His school friends keep asking him why his coat is like that. It looks silly and it’s not a proper coat. He stopped wearing it for a little while and then wore it again on Friday and it’s the same stupid questions from them again.

https://www.napapijri.co.uk/shop/en-gb/npj-gb/sale-kids/rainforest-pocket-anorak-jacket-na4gna?variationId=041

He’s been odd all day today so withdrawn sitting in his room all day wouldn’t come to the park with me and his siblings. Refusing to get dresssed and sitting in his pyjamas and seems to get tearful really quickly.

I don’t know what to do!

To be clear I was referring to fatandhappy’s comment about coat not the issue.

What difference does it make to anything or anyone? Also, how would anyone know how much the op paid for it unless they also have one?

Also, demographics of schools differ, different ones have different norms.

Quite. Why do people find anyone being or having something different to them so threatening?

I would spend this much on a coat for me, I don’t see a difference between that and my child (except they grow… but I buy things big and hand them on to friends afterwards).

I just listened to a podcast about the oscar winning actor Daniel kaluuya, who was brought up in london, who said as a kid he dreaded no uniform day as they were so poor - puts another perspective on the need to flaunt wealth

This has zero relevance.

its not flaunting wealth. Why should they spend money on a second coat just to appease people like you?

Essex, who said it was people like me? When there is such wealth inequality in the world I don't see flaunting wealth as beneficial

Might be worth bearing in mind, OP that those bullying your son probably have the type of parents who are likely to declare that its horrible, its flaunting wealth, its got a yuuuuuge logo, and its not for children (despite being available for ages 4 and above)

Nothing like drip feeding your own toxicity on to the young.

Very true.

Yes and op is the sort to slag off normal supermarket coats and the people that buy them as she has done quite nastily in one post.

And tbh it is flaunting wealth, or at least showing you don't really give a shit about poverty. Some of the recent posts are way out of line. Desperate to show off for some reason.

It's a fucking coat.

Remarkably enough, the world doesn't owe anybody a good long hard navel gaze about "poverty" and the financial circumstances of others when buying a coat for their child.
What they do usually consider is is it warm, is it waterproof, can I wash it and will the kid wear it.

If you think that buying a branded coat known for its waterproofing and insulation is "showing off" then the problem is you and your chip, which is nobody else's to bear.

@Boomboom22 I think you are making a lot of assumptions, most notably that owning this coat is a sign of having wealth to flaunt.

My son has it- I paid £3 in a designer outlet wearhouse sale that I happened to walk past one day. Should I have not bought the cheap coat because other people would see it and might think I’m wealthy?

My son also has a beautiful calf length moleskin coat which was very expensive BUT I paid £11 pounds on SecretSales (it was the last one and only in a women’s size 4 so £100s off). It’s beautiful and will last years, then go to both my nieces.

Perhaps people aren’t flaunting wealth so much as being savvy shoppers? Why would I spend £25 in Asda on a coat that won’t last as well, look as nice and my child doesn’t necessarily want, just so other people don’t make assumptions about me?

labels are for people who need to feel they belong to a tribe

So I should have spent more on a coat so that it didn’t have a label?

Kids are weird and pick on others for the oddest things. This time it's the coat but there will be another thing and another thing. Teach your son it's the bullies the problem not him. My daughter has been bullied for what lunch box she has, her shoes, hair style, about the food in her lunch box!?! (Apparently ham sandwiches are vile and make other people feel sick and spag bol in a thermos looks like diarrhoea). Buy him a cheap school coat and save the other for home and football where he doesn't get picked on but those kids will find a different thing because bullies enjoy doing it.

It’s no wonder the children are being bullied for having more expensive clothing when even adults are objecting on here. Cheap clothing is one of the things driving our ecological difficulties as a planet. There’s nothing wrong eigh people who can afford it veering towards sustainability by buying things that last and pass on to other users.

I agree with buying things that will last, but on the sustainability note, Napapijiri is awful quality. I bought a couple of items (for myself) and immediately returned them. Definitely paying for the huge logo, not quality.

It doesn't look weird, but I wouldn't call it a coat/jacket, more a funnel neck hoodie? Not a reason to bully anyone, regardless.

Ours lasted ages! We got the anoraky things like OP and a duffle that has done years of service. I think these are their classic items. Maybe the other items are not their sweet spot? But these padded anoraks last and last…

It’s waterproof and has lasted really well. Mine has dyspraxia and adhd- he is hard on his clothes and this holds up well!

I agree!

This particular coat I bought at an outlet store (like Cheshire oaks or Bicester village) and I think there was a fault on the till- it was marked as £100 ish in the sale but scanned for £3… the guy serving scanned it twice, said it’s not his problem if the system is wrong and there isnt a manager in the store, and told us to take it for £3 🤷‍♀️. A £600 handbag also scanned for £250… I was worried the lad would get in trouble but he was adamant he wouldn’t.

I would have presumed they fell off the back of a lorry if it wasn’t a reputable chain shop in a proper shopping village!

They are just nasty bullies. If it wasn't the coat it would be something else. I'd report to his school. If it carries on it will impact his self confidence.

It's a lovely coat. I have 2 pre-school age DCs and this thread is turning me into an anxious wreck at the thought of navigating years of kids being absolute arseholes to each other.

It’s super expensive for what it is, but it just looks like a regular black anorak. Half the kids will be wearing similar. I can’t work out what he would be getting hassle for.

Bravo! And excellent shopping 👏👏👏

Maybe they are Jealous- maybe theirs came from George (nothing wrong with George BTW)