to cancel completely because of this?

[Blomdd]

Was due to go on a date on Friday eve. He cancelled Friday morning because he was offered a shift at work and couldn't turn it down. Gave me plenty of notice and said we can meet up next weekend instead.

For some reason I just really don't want to go now. Was really excited and looking forward to it and suddenly, just not interested. I'm not annoyed or upset, just a bit meh.

There were a few things that bothered me a bit: he can't drive, lives an hour away (mainly this) but it wasn't a deal breaker as he seems nice.

Met on OLD.

AIBU to just sack it off?

Absolutely agree with you on this. Of course it’s your business!

Yes he's asking to keep my number and be friends.

Completely pointless. I've learnt this from experience.

Honestly don't see the point in mindless messages about onions. I'd block him.

I suspect this is not the point of OLD!

Sounds like you have been let down in the past so you are kind of like here we go again... and you have lost interest. Which is a good response tbh..However I would wait and see what happens just in case it's all innocent and he is dependable.

He’s friend zoned you without ever even meeting you.
Keeping your number so when he gets pissed, he can dial you up for a bootycall.

I think you’ve swerved a time waster here!

@Blomdd

The thing is though, something is now putting you off. There's nothing wrong with not want to date/couple up with someone in a different phase of life.

its going to get old fast if you always have to drive to his/take him home or have him stay over sooner/more often because you'd like a glass of wine/not be late to sleep/ just want to be alone.

if he needs the extra shifts you're probably going to get 'postponed' a lot (whilst understandable, it's not much fun). If he needs to take extra shifts (again understandable) he's probably not going to then want to spend that money going out (again...)

it's not a 'judgement' more of just incompatibility of life stages)

you're allowed to date people who are meeting YOUR needs in a relationship.

No thanks 😅

I think listen to your gut. Something is telling you to sack this off for a reason.