Would you ever leave a 15 yo home overnight?

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I’m going away with my 10yo in the summer for a weekend.

15 yo doesn’t want to come (was offered, and originally booked to come).

She can stay with her dad who lives around the corner or is more than capable of getting to grandparents for the weekend.

Shes suggested she’d like to stay home alone. Will be 16 a couple of months later, when I suspect I’d be unreasonable not to leave her. Extremely sensible and no chance shed trash the place.

Why does she want to stay alone? Sometimes finds Dad annoying, plus he has a baby and toddler, and just staying at home is easier than any other options. She likes alone time. I guess she might invite over a couple of equally sensible friends which would be fine.

Any thoughts?

@catelynjane As I said upthread, different people do things differently.

No I haven't.

But I'm 41 years old and have never encountered a burst pipe in my life - have just asked my mum who's visiting and she hasn't either, so that wouldn't be a contingency I was terribly worried about. If water started dripping through the ceiling if I didn't have a kid at 15 with the nous to go and check the taps in the bathroom first and turn them off I'd be concerned.

A true emergency, mine would call 999. Wouldn't yours?

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=G2UVsyVLLcE

just saying.

I got left at 15 for a weekend and I was very sensible. BUT I did get carried away, threw a massive party, house got trashed and I ended up grounded for a month 😅

@HamBone I really hope my kids feel comfortable enough to come to me whenever they need me. I would never want them to worry about burdening me. I am close to my parents so I guess it's different, they are like very close friends now, we spend loads of time together, holiday together and my DS even works with my dad in a business they set up together. We talk about everything with them. The point you were trying to make is that it's immature, when it's absolutely not.

@Legendairy Being emotionally close to your parents as an adult isn’t immature, it’s lovely. But yes, both DH and I were brought up not to discuss our relationships and finances with our families as adults
(I’d say past mid-20’s). No one does among the siblings and they’re all financially stable and in LTR relationships.

I expect other families do otherwise and perhaps we’ll be different as parents, although I’m always wary about getting too involved. My teenagers tell me pretty much everything right now though. 🤷

Yet many 25 year olds are married with homes and kids of their own

And yet I was a fully qualified mental health nurse at 22.

It’s against the law until they are 16 where u live

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It’s not against the law in the uk which is where I assume the OP is from.

So you are obviously an adult with home job and family but if you are under 25 the you are still not fully grown lol

Yes, I left my daughter alone the first time a month or so ago, she was just shy of her 16th birthday. I know 100% she would never have a party, she’s very introverted and spent the entire time studying for her GCSE’s. She cooks her own food anyway and I talked her through any emergencies with smoke alarms etc.

@Samlewis96 Yes, at 23, I was living in a different country to my parents. My Mum was the same, she took a job in North America at 23. We sort of had to be fully adult. 😂

Honestly, don’t we want this generation to grow up? My DD’s in her first year at uni and is very independent. We’re here if she needs us, but surely functioning as an independent adult is what we want?!