Are my expectations too high?

[jackinthebox75]

Long story short I am someone who is very romantic and my love language is little gifts and surprises. My boyfriend’s is quality time.

I spoke to him the other day about how I felt a bit forgotten about - I love flowers and little notes etc but often when I bring these up he’ll do it once and never again. He said with the notes he never has the chance (he does) and with flowers he’s been worried about money.

Anyway yesterday he offers to cook dinner, so goes to the shop. He was over an hour. Because we only chatted the other day, I thought maybe he was buying flowers for our dinner, but he didn’t at all.

I can’t help but think he doesn’t do these things because he doesn’t want to and he’s not romantic which makes me sad. I always see things like “if he wanted to he would”.

An I being a spoilt brat?

YABU.
And I'd love to be cooked for! If that's a love language then I'm all for it

Everyone is different and if you wanted a partner who would make spontaneous romantic gestures then you’ve picked the wrong guy

If you have to be this specific then it loses all meaning anyway. Any romantic gestures need to be by his own volition and from the heart or it’s pointless. He’ll show you his own way. If he loves you he should want to make you happy but it should be done spontaneously, not 2 days later just because you’ve mentioned it.

Notes like this OP?

This.

You're being a bit bratty and immature IMO op. Tic Toc is not going to show you how to have a healthy, mutually supportive relationship. If you reacted negatively to him making you dinner because flowers weren't involved I think you should apologise.