Argh, look at this awful text from a date!

[londonisnotme]

AIBU to think it's just bloody awful?

'Hi L! How are you? Sorry I haven't replied , busy few days in the office. Listen, I really enjoyed our time together but I think your caring roles are a different world to mine. It just doesn't seem right for me to, and I thought you needed to know. You ARE beautiful (yes you are!) , but I can't get past this. I needed you to know so you knew why sometimes it won't work , but I'm sure there's a very nice guy out there just for you 😌'

I go from thinking it's cringe, to patronising. To maybe making for of me?!

For context, went on a few dates. Kissed and asked to have sex. I did. I wanted to. Wasn't very good but we move

He's then text this. Whilst I'm on a date with someone else Saturday night

I still haven't deleted the text so me and a few friends can have a laugh.

"Completely understand Rob, thanks for letting me know" - if his name is John

But it's an established phrase. Your later post asking her to explain her incoherent explanation makes sense. Only OP can explain her own typos and thought process. But anyone can explain parent carer because it's a general thing, not OP's invention.

She's the one who slept with him then ghosted him!

He was sensing you weren't interested so he needed to stroke his own ego whilst simultaneously trying to dent yours with this patronising drivel. In his mind now he can tell himself he let you down nicely and you're at home pining for him. Guarantee that if you replied saying something nice about him he would engage and try and get one more shag out of you. Not that you would of course because he's clearly a prick.

And as it goes, despite my disagreeing with you about defines parent carer I entirely agree with you here!

Yet plenty of us had never heard it. Hence asking for clarification. Do you really need to go on and on and on derailing the thread over this?

OK? Can you drop the parent carer thing now? It's not relevant?

I think the repeated asking a question already answered is just as much of a derail but there you go. I'm going to sleep anyway so no more derailing from me.

That's great news, good night.

😘

I think he was just being honest. That’s good in my view.
Sorry but I would prefer a message like this than no further communication. May be clumsy but that’s sometimes how it is.

Seems ok to me - slightly clumsy but at least he texted and didn’t ghost.

I wouldn’t give him or the message another thought - you could be off having fun with someone else.

👏well said

I like this one

There was a thread recently where people were saying 'but the op has to be told all the reasons'

So whatever this person texted could be considered wrong

Definitely this 😄

I’m a parent carer but wouldn’t call myself that as I have never heard the phrase.

I would just have replied "same 😌" , personally.

Then he could have taken offence or not depending on whether it was intended.

I am surprised that so many people are unable to see how patronising this guy is being! Subtext is all, this guy is a twerp.

I still haven't deleted the text so me and a few friends can have a laugh

Perhaps he sent that instead of telling you he does not want any more dates because you are a bit of a a knob not very nice.

Tbh it sounds like he was just trying to be nice and lighthearted 🤷🏻‍♀️

he has been honest and up front with you yet here we are tearing him apart for it?

he’s had a lucky escape.

I'd message him back with "your absolutely right we wouldn't work out;I realised this after we spent the night together as the chemistry wasn't really there was it?;wishing you well with finding someone who is so desperate they'll even put up with mediocre sex is more suited to you.Farewell fuckwit.

The only way I can read this post as making sense is if you thought OP was using “pussy” as an insulting term for the bloke? Which seems like a bit of a reach.

I think OP was just making a joke at her own expense? On the basis that they had sex and he wasn’t up for another date.