Argh, look at this awful text from a date!

[londonisnotme]

AIBU to think it's just bloody awful?

'Hi L! How are you? Sorry I haven't replied , busy few days in the office. Listen, I really enjoyed our time together but I think your caring roles are a different world to mine. It just doesn't seem right for me to, and I thought you needed to know. You ARE beautiful (yes you are!) , but I can't get past this. I needed you to know so you knew why sometimes it won't work , but I'm sure there's a very nice guy out there just for you 😌'

I go from thinking it's cringe, to patronising. To maybe making for of me?!

For context, went on a few dates. Kissed and asked to have sex. I did. I wanted to. Wasn't very good but we move

He's then text this. Whilst I'm on a date with someone else Saturday night

I still haven't deleted the text so me and a few friends can have a laugh.

only one way to reply to him:

👍

The OP explained what it meant in her post at 21.44 yesterday.

This thread is so depressing.

So basically it's a self applied label for 'I have a disabled child'.

Multiple people asked. Not sure why the need for all these unnecessary and baffling made up labels people give themselves but nevermind 😔

Its the subtext of using capitalisation "ARE" as if this was ever in question and then the pantomime aside of (yes you are!) sounds like the sender is expecting the recipient to reply "no I am not". It is patronising, derogatorily assuming and twee. I wouldn't be angry, but I would fully laugh out loud and congratulate myself on dodging an absolute loser who thinks this is a nice way to speak to anyone.

No, it's a fairly common term. As a pp mentioned, the information/definition is readily available through Google.

I don't see the issue at all, he's not ghosted and he's said some nice things. And surely it's better to know why than not know and be left wondering.

I'm not sure I've ever managed to be that patronising when I was deliberately trying.

Do you think he offers zoom seminars on it?

I think he’s just a natural!

Tbf I like this dude he may have gone into too many details some of which irrelevant.... but he left dlno doubt it was done

This is a choice response.

What an unpleasant comment. In fact, I’m not sure why I singled this one out, because this thread is full of them.

I’m not sure what’s more depressing about this thread; the low bar some posters have for men, or the eagerness with which they’ll pull down the mother of a disabled child about the way she describes her role.

Mind-boggling. We need to lift other women up, and call out bullshit from men when we see it, for God’s sake.

I think he’s dodged a bullet.

Well said, some of the comments has been really unpleasant! Why are people being horrible towards a parent carer?

Yeah wanker. Assume he knew about your circumstances before having sex, but waited til after to end things. The comments about being beautiful are just 'ick' and patronising. Its like he's patting you on the head like a child...'yes, you are beautiful...really you are'. Gah.

Afraid I couldn't resists responding with 'oh I'm so relieved to get your text, was trying to figure out how to word a 'it's a no from me' message'.

I think the text is fine. Isn’t it better to know rather than him ghosting you and you forever wondering what you’d done wrong? At least he was honest. I think he’s probably right, the right person will be ok with your caring responsibilities. He however, didn’t want to take that on and had the right to be true to himself 🤷‍♀️

Yeah but there's honest (this set up isn't for me) and there's patronising (but you have worth and value, because I said you do).

Has the OP clarified what a Parent Carer is?

CANCEL THE CHEQUE

I wouldn’t care what they thought as they’d be blocked anyway.

Same. OP is screaming 'I'm petty and bothered' why would you screenshot and snigger at it like school children?

Just a simple 👍, block and move on.

He thinks he is being nice. You had a lucky escape.

I posted this too early. This isn't directed at the OP..but one of the disgusting posters on this thread.