To not be thrilled about these tattoos?

[MrsHoney123]

Just wondered how others would feel if their DH of nearly 30 years whom they’d raised three kids with decided in his late 50s to get both his upper arms completely tattooed? Pictures are a skull, a load of roses and a snake.

To be honest, I probably wouldn't be impressed. Not about the tattoos but that he didn't discuss it with me first. He'd feel the same if I wanted to get a tattoo. Neither of us would stop the other in any way at all but we tend to discuss things before we make decisions whether or not they are individual decisions or not.

I'm more likely to get a tattoo than DH though as I've wanted one for a while but never got round to it. Maybe for my 50th later this year...

My partner is similar age. He lost over 20kg and put on a stack of muscle. Everything from his face to his muscles changed. He then decided he wanted a sleeve tattoo which i paid for for his birthday. I dont like tattoos but thats what he asked for.

In the end he didnt go ahead with the tattoo but it was his choice, as it was when he decided to go in the gym and get himself into shape. He is still the same person he has always been and i support his decisions

The cost would put me off, tattoos aren't cheap. I wouldn't be bothered about how they look, they'll be covered up most of the time.

My DH is already covered in tattoos so it really wouldn't bother me 🤷‍♀️

Wouldn’t bother me, but DP would have spoke to me about it beforehand and told me why he wanted that design etc. If he’d randomly come home with a tattoo without having told me he was going to get one I’d be wondering what was going on though

It wouldn’t bother me but I’d assume it was part of a mid life crisis.

I know many people, especially women, choose to get tattoos when they’re middle aged.

I would advise him to get one and then wait a few months before getting another one, but at the end of the day he’s a grown adult and it’s his mistake to make.

I would ask him when they would wash off.

There is no way on this planet or galaxy that my DH would do this for real.

He would hate the pain, the cost and the aesthetic.

I would probably find them cool.

Horrible

I have a one of those husbands - same age, children, marriage and I'd think he had lost his mind.

But it is better than a motorbike.

Wait a second. Has he had these tattoos already? There are no pictures so i presumed this was him telling you he was getting them done. Has he gone out and got tattoos without even mentioning it... Wow thats quite surprising that he couldnt even discuss it with you regardless of your opinion.

I think he'd taken leave of his senses/was having a midlife crisis tbh. Not his style at all.

But I'd let him get on with it. Same as he would if I did it.

I don’t like tattoos and think they are rarely done well or are original designs. I wouldn’t like the look and as long as the tattoos aren’t offensive it’s his body so he can do what he likes to it.

I mean the reality is that he won't have gone out and got two half sleeves done in one sitting. So I'm assuming this is either a conversation to let the OP know what he's considering, or she was aware of them being done and is working through her feelings about them now

I’d be furious and happily tell him he looks like a twat. His body, his choice, blah blah blah.

I don't think I'd be too happy either if my DH did that. I don't find lots of tattoos attractive, especially the sort of ones you describe. Of course it's his body/ his choice but still doesn't mean you have to like it.

In your case it would piss me off hugely.

1. You work he doesn't so you are paying for them, it is not family money for the family
2. I hate tattoos, and I would not necessarily choose to be with someone who had full sleeve tattoos. A couple of discreet ones wouldn't bother me.
3. Where by I except it is his body his choice, I have a choice whether I want to be with and this would make me question that. No regard for my feelings.

do you say the same about women. (I had my first at 50)

I’d be surprised and probably not in a good way. It wouldn’t mean the end of things, but I’d be disappointed it hadn’t been discussed.

Surely it’s similar to men growing beards ( or shaving them) or people drastically changing hair colour or style, except it’s permanent.

I loathe tatts so for me it’d be a dealbreaker.

However, I would never marry a man who would consider it anyway. My husband can’t stand them either.

Cue the outraged responses 😂

Depends if they were skilfully done by a proper tattoo artist. If they looked shit and tacky then I'd be pissed off.

This. I was thinking about replying to pp with tattoos who said only if it’s personal and means something, and not something he’s picked off the wall. There is meaning to that imo, the meaning is he liked it and he wanted it

I wouldn't be bothered in the slightest. I would try to talk him out of neck, face or hand tattoos but anywhere else I wouldn't care. I do think the style sounds quite generic and would try talking to him about something more personal maybe?

It wouldn't bother me but I would think midlife crisis for sure.

I’d assume my DH was having some kind of midlife crisis

They sound very cliché. Two of my adult DC have tattoos but they are all highly individual and meaningful. At 50 your DH must have plenty of special things to commemorate, he could do so much better.