To not be thrilled about these tattoos?

[MrsHoney123]

Just wondered how others would feel if their DH of nearly 30 years whom they’d raised three kids with decided in his late 50s to get both his upper arms completely tattooed? Pictures are a skull, a load of roses and a snake.

Yeah this. ^ And yes of course someone needs to consult their life partner before making dramatic changes to themselves (and particularly permanent ones like tattoos!)

Just doing it, and not giving a flying fuck what their life partner/spouse thinks shows a horrible lack of consideration for them and what they think. It also shows you don't care about them very much, and shows there are some huge cracks in the relationship. You really can't think much of your life partner/spouse if you don't give a shit about them saying 'please don't do this. I don't want you to.'

And as you say, what else are you going to hide from them/surprise them with?

Really? So you take up sewing in your 30s and it's a hobby, you take up sewing in your 60s and it's a hobby but if you are in your 40s and 50s it must be a midlife crisis?

You get your ears pierced in your 30s it's normal, in your 60s it's fine but in your 40s and 50s it's a midlife crisis?

You do a degree in your 30s its normal, you do a degree in your 60s and that's fine, in your 40s or 50s its a midlife crisis?

Is it really pretty much always true? Are you really doomed for two whole decades of your life to not be able to try anything new without it being deemed a midlife crisis?

How depressing. And how utterly ridiculous

Some things may be a midlife crisis and I agree a tattoo when you have never wanted one before and have none probably tends more towards that end, but also may not. But it's certainly not "pretty much always true" in their 40/50s must be a midlife crisis.

No it’s used as a lazy dismissal when a man does something new but a woman doing something for herself is usually applauded.

people are allowed to do new things after 50 without it being called a crisis and it being proof of mental instability

Their body.
their choice
their tattoos.

Her money!

I thought all money was family money

whilst I agree that large purchases should be discussed, I’m not sure it’s right for the higher earner to pull the “I earn this money so I decide whether I approve of what you want to spend it on” is a good attitude. It certainly wouldn’t be tolerated from a man

Lol wouldn't bother me but I know mine wouldn't. If he wanted to then he should go for it, whatever makes him happy 😊

How is having a tattoo "copying" everyone else? Are you copying all blonde women if you dye your hair blonde? Do you find that disappointing as well?

Theres lots of negative comments on style and beauty about the prevalence of long hair over variety. It is a bit sad when a new fad is everywhere.

Also tattoos do date. It used to be Celtic bands, stars, those ones on the lower back etc. The full sleeve will date too. Unlike going from blonde to dark it’s a lengthy and expensive process to get them removed.

Why do you care though if it's not on you?

I have over 50 tattoos and will never get them removed. I have am aware that they may date, and I have also thought about how they will look when I'm older, funnily enough. It's as if people think we aren't intelligent enough to consider these things. I can assure you, most of us do.

His body, his choice. I’d also find it extremely off putting if my partner started trying to dictate what I did with mine.

Because someone else has to look at them!

And what?

Are you saying other people should only do things for other people’s viewing pleasure?

My reply was to the point about copying.

I’m sure you have thought them ( although some people who hit names tattooed on clearly didn’t), it’s your body and your choice. But in the same way that some love them, others don’t.

No it's not. Not even close.
People carry on developing new interests throughout their lives. I certainly have and do.

What a small and restricted way to think. That's it, you're 40...nothing more for you.

And? I have to look at plenty of things I don't like. That's part of living in a society.

I don't care if other people don't love them. I do however think it's out of order when people use words like "rough" or start telling me I'll regret them, as if they know me better than I know myself.

One of the most ridiculous comments o here.
We've both got tattoos, been to plenty of nice places , even in France 🇫🇷 😳

Probably a couple of thousand 😬

Lol

My son is in an industry where visible tattoos would cost him his job.
It is naïve to believe that tattoos are accepted everywhere.

Presumably though OP's DH isn't, or he wouldn't get them.

I just had a large piece done from hip to knee. It took 6 hours in one sitting, I'm not sure why people think this would take lots of appointments, my husband had both upper arms done in one sitting too. Mine cost £300 as I bought a voucher from them for a New Year's deal, should've been £400 for the full day. This is with an award winning, sponsored tattoo artist. People seem to be getting very dramatic talking of £1000's and days of appointments to get just his upper arms done. To be fair though, much like anything, the more that is paid to the better artist the better the tattoo will be. If anything I'd be more concerned about the basic nature of the design, rather than it being something personal.

Their money

Ooh can we see pics?!

Don't like, don't look