To not be thrilled about these tattoos?

[MrsHoney123]

Just wondered how others would feel if their DH of nearly 30 years whom they’d raised three kids with decided in his late 50s to get both his upper arms completely tattooed? Pictures are a skull, a load of roses and a snake.

As long as he wasn’t having Hate across his forehead then ok

I'd be really annoyed and think he was having a mental health breakdown.

I'd be trying to stop him in your shoes

Why though? I’d never marry someone who believed they could dictate to me what I could do with my body and I’m so glad my husband never would.
You’d be welcome to leave if you didn’t like it, but why one earth anyone thinks they have the right to tell another human what they can and cannot do with their own skin is bizarre to me.

My husband is heavily tattooed so I am not unbiased but ultimately I wouldn't care. He has over the years had haircuts I didn't like, has had some tattoos and piercings I'm not a fan of (but they are well done and do suit him), had had tattoos on his neck which I was not totally overjoyed about and has shaved his beard off which I was sad about. But it is his body and he can do what he wants. I have no doubt he's not always appreciated me changing my hair colour or style, the weight I've put on or some of my outfit choices but he has always built me up and made me feel good.

edited to add, if it was an offensive tattoo then that's different as I would question where these attitudes had come from.

Would ask him when's he's going for the piercings next? Screams mid life crisis but whatever- do what you want.

If not you, exactly who is he trying to impress?

I would shag him more often 😁

I cannot believe people would leave their husbands over something as trivial as a tattoo. I hate stretched ear piercings and would hate it if my DP got one – but there's no way I would leave him over it?!

I was camp tat until this update

Two upper sleeves will have cost a small fortune. And he isn't earning.

Tattoos - tattoos are.hot on most people, IMO, I'd be fine with it. Plus, his body - his choice

BUT

Your fucking money while he dosses about and does volunteer work? I don't think so.

Also, my right not to like them and to be utterly devastated that my dh had chosen to permanently change his appearance, and to question ending my marriage!

It would be a deal-breaker for me op, I hate tattoos.

I would think my husband looked ridiculous but it would be entirely his decision and nothing to do with me, although I would probably point and snigger for a very long time.

Really?! You would end your whole relationship and break up your family just because someone did something they wanted with their own body? That seems a very extreme reaction. Also a really controlling and self-centred way to think.

I can understand that people would be disappointed, upset or angry, but I would have that that would be a passing emotion before accepting that another adult has autonomy over their own body. I can't imagine telling another adult what they want to do with themselves is "unacceptable". I would find it unacceptable if someone said that to me.

Don't get me wrong, I have some tattoos (which are bad enough, and I always regret them as soon as I have one done.) So I'm not massively anti all tattoos. But those particular ones sound tacky and naff.

Well I'd love it!

I would not care. Not something I would choose to do or pick but up to him.

I'd laugh and ask him if he was having a mid life crisis. But they wouldn't worry me

Well, he isn't doing it for you. So, himself? Ok. Someone else? Not ok.

I think it'd be bold to leave someone over tattoos on their arms (though the amount he's got/getting is a lot) but that at some point it'd be reasonable to leave someone if they did a lot of freakish things to their appearance and changed their look a lot. Like, nasty facial tattoos, ear expanders, horns, marilyn manson style contacts or something.

If they had one or two bits I don't like, I would cringe over those but they probably wouldn't alter every single part of them I found physically attractive.

I love tatts so I wouldn't mind unless they were of something silly or ridiculous. And as long as they weren't on his face or neck. Otherwise I'd be good with it.

Major turn off, OP 😂

I also don’t like tattoos… and whilst I understand that people are [mostly] free to do as they wish with their own body, I still wouldn’t like it. Worse if I have to look at the damn thing.

If that's what he wants then there's not a lot you can do - although saying may be different. I would be staying plenty about his getting a tattoo to match his ex's.

On the scientific basis big tattoos take several visits with the outlines being done first, I may succumb to the temptation of playing with my felt tips while he was asleep.

My sisters husband started getting tattoos ( small ones though ) at 65 but I think they have a very different type of marriage to myself and my husband. I’d be very concerned about my husbands health if he went and got tattoos as disliking them is one of the things we agree about .

Personally it wouldn't bother me in the slightest regardless of how old he / we were.

But if it did bother me, I hope I'd be sensible enough to consider how I would feel if he tried to influence something I wanted to do with my own body - and then keep my trap shut

I might not like the tattoos but I like (very much) my husband so wouldn’t care.

Have you had a conversation about it? Why he did it and why he didn’t mention it before?

My DP did, I'd think he'd lost his mind