To not be thrilled about these tattoos?

[MrsHoney123]

Just wondered how others would feel if their DH of nearly 30 years whom they’d raised three kids with decided in his late 50s to get both his upper arms completely tattooed? Pictures are a skull, a load of roses and a snake.

I'd hate it. Hate tattoos. They make a person look mucky

Nothing as such (I am both) but it doesn't tend to be aspirational to look rough. A lot of young people on low incomes/council make a real effort to try not to.

I’d be fucking horrified if my husband did this but I’ve always hated tattoos!

For those asking, no he hasn’t actually had them done yet. I hadn’t realized it wasn’t realistic to get all that done in one sitting. That makes me feel a little better.

Oooh @MrsHoney123 You still have chance to put him off. I would suggest just not letting him have the money you earned to pay for them. If he really wants them, he can earn the money.

And really spell out to him that you don't want him to get them. Ask him not to. No harm in asking.

Well I have heard of worse mid life crisis!!

Ah, you seem to be automatically equating being on a low income and/or living on a housing estate with looking rough

How narrow minded

I’d say cool, love it!!

Much better than if he had bought himself a grandad cardigan with co-ordinating slippers, yes?

I'm sorry but people who describe others as looking "rough" or "chav" are such Hyacinth Bucket types. You're not superior to people who have tattoos, just so you know.

I don't like tattoos, so would struggle to accept it. Also, recent studies have shown that the ink could be carcinogenic.

I'd ask him how he's going to pay for it? It would definitely not be coming out of joint finances!

Yes, good point. OP says he hasn't actually got any yet.

Tattoos used to be quite edgy, a little act of rebellion, and deeply personal. Nowadays it's SO mainstream and boring. I remember Adam Lambert who used to be brave and different and seeing him with his first sleeve and feeling so disappointed because he'd become like everyone else. Plus they become that smudgy blue after a while

I'm not anti-tattoo but those are seriously clichéd 😂. I'd probably be questioning his choice rather than the tattoos. Luckily I don't think our local place would let anyone be that cliché.

This is so ridiculously dramatic. 😂 "Brave and different" because he didn't have a tattoo? Get a grip, honestly.

His money, his choice. Family money, a choice to be discussed, not a unilateral decision.

😂😂 to the council estate, mucky, generic comments!! I have deeply personal tattoos, run my own professional company and hate mess/dirt. My mother is the same and my MIL comes from a very well to do background, so none of us conform to the stereotype, sorry.

Should a woman make sure her partner is OK with a change of hairstyle or colour or a piercing?

@Beezknees@JustanotherMNSlapperTwat I was responding to a PP's comment who was the one saying that, not me. And I am council. Plus have tattoos (not skulls and roses or whatever though.) Learn to read a thread and when someone is replying to comments by someone else.

You said it looks rough, no?

I don't like tattoos however I appreciate that the skill in drawing on skin is incredible (if done well). I agree his body etc however hair style, colour, clothes, and even weight can all be changed, but tattoos are permanent. They also deteriorate over the years. The main thing with any tattoo would be what it's of, a rose, yes, skulls, no way, and I'd hate seeing them. It's possibly a deal breaker like smoking.

He’s having a mid life crisis 🙄

You said its not aspirational to look rough

If you meant that in some other way and multiple people mistook you maybe it's not our ability to read that is the issue

@twnety I get your point, but things such as clothing, hairstyles, cosmetics etc are more ephemeral than tatts and are easily changed. I doubt many people would decide to choose say, a long sleeved t-shirt and wear it for the rest of their lives, donning casual and formal clothes over the top.
And how many people wear the same earrings, etc forever.
It is also interesting that society is so diversive in it’s views for and against tatts. Reading the comments on this thread illustrates that many posters have much stronger views than its usual to hold about certain hairstyles, clothing or jewellery

And how many people wear the same earrings, etc forever.

Its incredibly normal for the majority of married people to wear the same ring for the rest of their marriage, which traditionally was for life

You said it looks rough, no?

I was replying to and quoted some PP's. IDK about rough- they just sound naff/cheesy if it's skulls etc. I obviously don't think all tattoos are rough, as I have plenty. Nor am I particularly anti anyone council, seeing as I am council. You must've misunderstood me or mistaken a PP's comment for mine or something.

Perhaps you quoted the wrong person then as the only person using the word rough in this chain is you

It’s not your body