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To think it's tragic if Michael Jackson was indeed innocent

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pregahes · 08/01/2024 21:53

It's a real shame for someone who created incredible music to have their legacy at risk. It’s just tragic, considering the impact his music had on so many. It's tragic either way, if he's guilty for the victims and if he's innocent for himself.

I'm a huge fan and at one point t thought he was guilty but kore recently change of heart. I think there would be more victims if he weee in fact guilty. Somethings doesnt add up.

It's tragic

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DazedandConfused1234 · 09/01/2024 10:31

StopTheQtipWhenTheresResistance · 08/01/2024 23:54

@KarenNotAKaren I didn't write them in any particular order, was just thinking of my reasons and then typed them out.

I agree it doesn't mean he was innocent, it also doesn't mean he was guilty of sexual assault and rape. I'm a very evidence based person, as in physical evidence that can link a person to a particular act without any shadow of a doubt.

I believe it would be bad parenting because no one can truly know someone's intentions and it shouldn't be a risk parents should take.

His behaviour is certainly odd but can we really go as far as saying he had sex with these boys based on what information is available?

Well, the boys say he did, and when did we stop believing victims?

AnonnyMouseDave · 09/01/2024 10:31

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 08/01/2024 22:00

Why would he be innocent….because he could dance and sing?! I’d bet my house on him being guilty!

So would I.

But, to be honest, any man who is so stupid (best case) as to sleep in the same bed as children should accept that - innocent or guilty - they're likely to need to wear the label "paedo" forever more.

The right of men to share a bed with kids and not get called a paedo is not a right that I am willing to fight for even if he was provably innocent.

DocOck · 09/01/2024 10:32

Catsbreakfast · 08/01/2024 22:18

What kind of innocent person pays parents (who are as guilty) to surrender their children to a stranger for weeks on end?

I do agree, but I've also thought what kind of parent accepts PAYMENT for their child being abused. If I honestly thought my child had been sexually abused I'd want to see that fucker rot in jail. Not pay off my mortgage.

JanewaysBun · 09/01/2024 10:52

By "throwing him in jail" you are putting your child in the witness stand to be cross examined by expensive and agressive lawyers. It's difficult enough for an adult let alone a child. I wouldn't do that unless my child really wanted to. Better to use the money for therapy than expose the child to more trauma.

Karensalright · 09/01/2024 10:56

@Lambiriyani

The safety of children would always be my priority over some wacko Jacko fan apologist, who is prepared to disbelieve a child because it did not fit her narrative.

I was not going to risk her applying her skewed thinking to my service users.

the issue is that the MJ’s and the IDK brigade really don’t understand firstly how child abusers operate (even the not famous ones)

I had over the years dealt with many disclosures by children, and mothers in denial. They were always things that we could do to safeguard. But there was rarely enough evidence (to meet the beyond all reasonable doubt test) to prosecute these people.

The general public really don’t understand how safeguarding works. An enhanced DBS will throw up any suspected crimes and the police chief can disclose assessed risks of individuals to other adults and children.

And it is up to the safeguarding lead to make a determination as to wether to employ such a person.

Guilt and innocence is always the wrong test when it comes to safeguarding, it is the assessed risk that matters.

DocOck · 09/01/2024 11:00

JanewaysBun · 09/01/2024 10:52

By "throwing him in jail" you are putting your child in the witness stand to be cross examined by expensive and agressive lawyers. It's difficult enough for an adult let alone a child. I wouldn't do that unless my child really wanted to. Better to use the money for therapy than expose the child to more trauma.

I very much doubt any of the parents involved, who willingly let their children sleep in bed with a stranger, used the money for therapy.

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:02

negronicake · 09/01/2024 01:55

He was innocent and exploited for money - & he’s been found innocent at trial
watch the documentary ‘Square One’

WHat the ‘documentary’ commissioned by his family and company in an effort to protect their interests that proved absolutely nothing?

You REALLY think he never touched a little boy? That 8 men are telling big fat whoppers?

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:04

TravelInHope · 09/01/2024 07:18

Er, I think it does!
There is a presumption of innocence in UK and US courts so NG means you are still innocent.

No, it doesn’t.

”Innocent until proven guilty l is not the same as “If you are not proven guilty it means you are legally innocent”. That’s not how the legal system works

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:06

Lambiriyani · 09/01/2024 09:04

"if he was indeed innocent"

The verdict was not guilty.

As are the vast majority of sexual abuse verdicts.

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:09

App13 · 09/01/2024 09:51

I believe he is innocent. At that time in the 80s and 90s he was the most major star around.

And I think that led to greed to pursue him.

My favorite song of his is Man in the Mirror.

I have used those lyrics in my life to set at example to others and behave as morally as I can. I feel , if someone is able to write those lyrics, they cannot do any wrong.

So you think 8 children and men with compelling stories are telling outright lies? All because he had good song lyrics?

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:11

Karensalright · 09/01/2024 10:15

I had a newish employee (Charity sector children’s worker) came to my attention via her manager that she had stated on more than one that she believed that M.J was innocent.

Called her in and interviewed her under a probationary investigation. Terminated her on the spot no notice, keys back, out the door.

No reference for her either. End of.

I was CEO and safeguarding lead, could not trust her to act appropriately, on a child’s disclosure.

Good for you! People with no adverse knowledge of child protection should not work in a child protection charity

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:14

DocOck · 09/01/2024 10:32

I do agree, but I've also thought what kind of parent accepts PAYMENT for their child being abused. If I honestly thought my child had been sexually abused I'd want to see that fucker rot in jail. Not pay off my mortgage.

What if you lived in a country where you had to pay for healthcare, where you sexually abused child doesn’t get anonymity and is receiving death threats, and you need to move far away change your identity and spend an absolute fortune on therapy for your abused child?

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:16

DocOck · 09/01/2024 11:00

I very much doubt any of the parents involved, who willingly let their children sleep in bed with a stranger, used the money for therapy.

Why do you think that?

It certainly didn’t make them happy. Jordy Chandler’s dad committed suicide

DocOck · 09/01/2024 11:21

What if you lived in a country where you had to pay for healthcare, where you sexually abused child doesn’t get anonymity and is receiving death threats, and you need to move far away change your identity and spend an absolute fortune on therapy for your abused child?

Even then. I don't live my life in fear. Being paid off, is not justice.

Pfpppl · 09/01/2024 11:26

Well of course you're not unreasonable to think it's tragic if he was innocent. Surely anyone being the subject of a miscarriage of justice is tragic? (I know he was never found guilty in court, but you know what I mean). Equally it's tragic that if he was guilty, he never paid for his crimes. Not sure what the point of this thread is if you don't want to debate his guilt/innocence 🤔

nolongersurprised · 09/01/2024 11:29

DocOck · 09/01/2024 11:21

What if you lived in a country where you had to pay for healthcare, where you sexually abused child doesn’t get anonymity and is receiving death threats, and you need to move far away change your identity and spend an absolute fortune on therapy for your abused child?

Even then. I don't live my life in fear. Being paid off, is not justice.

It would be your child, though, not you.

And their word against, in this case, a powerful and rich abuser. There’d be no proof - no DNA, no pictures, no video. Your child would be vilified. It’s not like a movie where justice prevails - money and power protect the abusers.

Lambiriyani · 09/01/2024 11:29

What does UK libel law say about this?

Anyone know?

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:30

DocOck · 09/01/2024 11:21

What if you lived in a country where you had to pay for healthcare, where you sexually abused child doesn’t get anonymity and is receiving death threats, and you need to move far away change your identity and spend an absolute fortune on therapy for your abused child?

Even then. I don't live my life in fear. Being paid off, is not justice.

You would if people were threatening to murder your 12yo.

It is absolutely a form of justice. What kind of innocent man pays £16m to someone he didn’t abuse

KarenNotAKaren · 09/01/2024 11:31

Lambiriyani · 09/01/2024 11:29

What does UK libel law say about this?

Anyone know?

About stating he’s a pedophile you mean?

SerafinasGoose · 09/01/2024 11:33

It's a tragedy if young boys were abused.

The way some people carry on you'd think being accused of abuse was far worse than being subjected to it.

Wrong. The damage it does is irreversible, as is society's invariable propensity to protect adult males to the cost of all else.

Karensalright · 09/01/2024 11:37

He is dead so he cannot “sue”. Libel laws allow a person to make a claim against something someone else has said, but, that someone else, can state that they think or believe something about a person as long as they dont state it as a fact.

MJ didn’t sue anyone because the defence to liable is that a statement is true. It would be on MJ victim to prove on the balance of probabilities that what they said about him was true.

MJ didn’t sue anyone because the risk was too high for him.

Bibisitsnow · 09/01/2024 11:39

Well good new for you! He was a pedophile so you don’t have to feel bad for him.

Karensalright · 09/01/2024 11:39

Finding that on the balance of probabilities what a victim says was true, would been a disaster for him

Bibisitsnow · 09/01/2024 11:40

‘What does UK libel law say about this?’

he’d have to be alive for starters, but I would have loved for him to have his day in court - rather than buying everyone off- because he deserved to rot in prison, like every other child sex offender and rapist.

Bibisitsnow · 09/01/2024 11:44

‘I very much doubt any of the parents involved, who willingly let their children sleep in bed with a stranger, used the money for therapy.’

For me this is the most mind boggling bit. I can’t think of a world in which my parents - who financially struggled my entire childhood - thought it would be okay for me to go off and stay with a rich stranger, alone, and sleep in his bed when I was a child. For what? So they got some cash, nice trips, to ride in a limo, claim their 11/12 year old was ‘friends’ with MJ? Utterly bizarre.

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