Christmas Present from In-Laws?

[PurpleRayne89]

Tell me if im being an asshole or not. We spent over £100 on in-laws this year. They got me a £7.25 present. How would you take this?

Who else in your family did they buy for? Do they treat your kids/your partner and give you a token?

What was the agreed spend limit?

Do you have DCs? Only asking to see if they've spent on them too.

Do they usually spend more? Perhaps money is tight this year? Did DH get a 'better' gift? How do you know it was that specific cost?

How many children, grandchildren etc did they buy for. What's their financial circumstances? Mine are pensioners. We like to treat them and only expect tokens in return. You sound a little grabby. Remember. You don't give to receive 😏

You don't give to receive...

Assuming they got your partner something as well? And any child?

Mil once bought me a bracelet for £2.75....been nc for 9 years!!

I don’t give to get but assuming…

a. You are in charge of gift buying
b. Your DH /DC got something less shit-tacular…

this gives you Carte Blanche to buy them a load of crap (boots 3 for 2 etc) next year

money saved ✅
low effort ✅
job done ✅

As a sign to spend less on them next year year.

They’re living mortgage free, household income of around £90k. Brought DD pjs, DH same gift as me. One other grandchild who they spoilt as their their daughter.

no agreed spend limit.

I knew as I came across the gift on Etsy. I was looking for secret Santa and found that. There were similar gifts for £10 and they chose the £7 which I thought was odd.

This happens to me every year. I put it in a lot of thought but as others have pointed out, they buy for the kids. I don’t overly care but I do think will they ever stop giving me hand cream? I’d rather have toothpaste! Soap! Fairy fucking liquid!

Did they give money as well? Perhaps they think you have shared finances so if they gave DH money it might be assumed it would be for both of you.

Obviously that only applies if cash involved too.

It really all depends on their income.

I had spent hours searching for mil's requested gift. Bloody cow...

@noooooooo hey now, fairy liquid is very expensive these days!

£100 could be a £100 load of crap and a £8 gift could be something really nice!

It's impossible to say without knowing what it was!

i’d be a bit miffed as well,you spend more on a secret Santa!

in many ways, the amount you spent on them was irrelevant, as there was no agreed spending limit. It was your decesion to spend a hundred pounds.

However, spending under a tenner is a bit cheap for your son and his wife. I’m guessing a. Bottle of wine or chocolates.

No cash gift.

@DisforDarkChocolate £90k household income and mortgage free.

Exactly! Buy people something they can’t afford to get for themselves😂

Tell them you're not doing presents anymore and will give to charity.

Or leave it to DH, do not get involved even if he buys them the most hideous and useless things.

Not your circus not your monkeys.

The gift was socks which don’t fit either of us, tea light candle and a kitkat.

@novhange 😂😂😂

Buy the same stuff they get you.

If they buy chocs you buy chocs.

If they buy Baylis & Harding you buy it too

What did the buy you this year?

Well that's why MIL can be happy when she gets socks from OP next year.