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Christmas Present from In-Laws?

141 replies

PurpleRayne89 · 08/01/2024 21:42

Tell me if im being an asshole or not. We spent over £100 on in-laws this year. They got me a £7.25 present. How would you take this?

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Am I being unreasonable?

398 votes. Final results.

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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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NancyJoan · 08/01/2024 21:44

Who else in your family did they buy for? Do they treat your kids/your partner and give you a token?

Honeyglazed · 08/01/2024 21:44

What was the agreed spend limit?

Fionaville · 08/01/2024 21:45

Do you have DCs? Only asking to see if they've spent on them too.

Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 08/01/2024 21:46

Do they usually spend more? Perhaps money is tight this year? Did DH get a 'better' gift? How do you know it was that specific cost?

Hobbesmanc · 08/01/2024 21:46

How many children, grandchildren etc did they buy for. What's their financial circumstances? Mine are pensioners. We like to treat them and only expect tokens in return. You sound a little grabby. Remember. You don't give to receive 😏

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 08/01/2024 21:46

You don't give to receive...

Assuming they got your partner something as well? And any child?

Needtogrowsproutsfordecember · 08/01/2024 21:47

Mil once bought me a bracelet for £2.75....been nc for 9 years!!

GreatGateauxsby · 08/01/2024 21:48

I don’t give to get but assuming…

a. You are in charge of gift buying
b. Your DH /DC got something less shit-tacular…

this gives you Carte Blanche to buy them a load of crap (boots 3 for 2 etc) next year

money saved ✅
low effort ✅
job done ✅

Spirallingdownwards · 08/01/2024 21:48

As a sign to spend less on them next year year.

PurpleRayne89 · 08/01/2024 21:48

They’re living mortgage free, household income of around £90k. Brought DD pjs, DH same gift as me. One other grandchild who they spoilt as their their daughter.

no agreed spend limit.

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PurpleRayne89 · 08/01/2024 21:49

I knew as I came across the gift on Etsy. I was looking for secret Santa and found that. There were similar gifts for £10 and they chose the £7 which I thought was odd.

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noooooooo · 08/01/2024 21:49

This happens to me every year. I put it in a lot of thought but as others have pointed out, they buy for the kids. I don’t overly care but I do think will they ever stop giving me hand cream? I’d rather have toothpaste! Soap! Fairy fucking liquid!

Dacadactyl · 08/01/2024 21:49

Did they give money as well? Perhaps they think you have shared finances so if they gave DH money it might be assumed it would be for both of you.

Obviously that only applies if cash involved too.

DisforDarkChocolate · 08/01/2024 21:50

It really all depends on their income.

Needtogrowsproutsfordecember · 08/01/2024 21:51

I had spent hours searching for mil's requested gift. Bloody cow...

PurpleRayne89 · 08/01/2024 21:51

@noooooooo hey now, fairy liquid is very expensive these days!

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Falkenburg · 08/01/2024 21:51

£100 could be a £100 load of crap and a £8 gift could be something really nice!

It's impossible to say without knowing what it was!

Riverlee · 08/01/2024 21:52

i’d be a bit miffed as well,you spend more on a secret Santa!

in many ways, the amount you spent on them was irrelevant, as there was no agreed spending limit. It was your decesion to spend a hundred pounds.

However, spending under a tenner is a bit cheap for your son and his wife. I’m guessing a. Bottle of wine or chocolates.

PurpleRayne89 · 08/01/2024 21:52

No cash gift.

@DisforDarkChocolate £90k household income and mortgage free.

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noooooooo · 08/01/2024 21:53

Exactly! Buy people something they can’t afford to get for themselves😂

novhange · 08/01/2024 21:53

Tell them you're not doing presents anymore and will give to charity.

Or leave it to DH, do not get involved even if he buys them the most hideous and useless things.

Not your circus not your monkeys.

PurpleRayne89 · 08/01/2024 21:53

The gift was socks which don’t fit either of us, tea light candle and a kitkat.

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PurpleRayne89 · 08/01/2024 21:54

@novhange 😂😂😂

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novhange · 08/01/2024 21:54

noooooooo · 08/01/2024 21:49

This happens to me every year. I put it in a lot of thought but as others have pointed out, they buy for the kids. I don’t overly care but I do think will they ever stop giving me hand cream? I’d rather have toothpaste! Soap! Fairy fucking liquid!

Buy the same stuff they get you.

If they buy chocs you buy chocs.

If they buy Baylis & Harding you buy it too

What did the buy you this year?

Dacadactyl · 08/01/2024 21:55

PurpleRayne89 · 08/01/2024 21:52

No cash gift.

@DisforDarkChocolate £90k household income and mortgage free.

In that case, I'd be getting them a box of biscuits between the 2 of them next year (unless they'd hosted for Christmas dinner or something, in which case I would continue with what I considered to be a decent present)

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