Christmas Present from In-Laws?

[PurpleRayne89]

Tell me if im being an asshole or not. We spent over £100 on in-laws this year. They got me a £7.25 present. How would you take this?

In that case, I'd be getting them a box of biscuits between the 2 of them next year (unless they'd hosted for Christmas dinner or something, in which case I would continue with what I considered to be a decent present)

That is a pretty shit gift to be fair. Get them something similar next year. Are they usually more generous?

I spent £150 on my mum and her husband. They bought for my kids but didn't get me or DH anything. We've never really discussed it but I wouldn't expect anything. I hadn't even thought about it until I read your post.

MIL on the other hand buys me loads and I struggle to give her ideas (in September when she starts asking). It's lovely to receive things from her but I don't expect it. She (and FIL although he has no clue what the presents are) spoils the kids too.

Check the date on the kitkat and regift...

We spent similar amounts on SIL and her family and MIL. We did not even receive a Christmas card and my DP is yet to be texted happy Christmas or new year (I no longer have their numbers….thankfully). Next year we are doing nothing as niece will be an adult by then and we’ve had years of this.

How much do you both usually spend?

My friend messaged me a
Few days before Christmas a couple of years ago to drop off a present for DS. I had to rush out and buy something for her DS; spent about £15. She'd spent £50 on DS, which was probably about what I had spent on him.

She now has 2 kids and I have had to distance myself because I am too embarrassed to tell her I can't afford to buy Christmas presents for her kids.

@Flippinec i think getting nothing for the adults and something for the kids is fine tbf. This I understand. However, it’s the type of gift it was. They have loads of money as well. They’re very far from struggling.

😱 Could this be like a parking thread where we MUST have a picture? 😂😂
Tbh that is a bit naff! I love getting bargains and unique gifts for people - but think things like personalised notebooks, wooden hanging birthday calendar reminders, that short of thing x
How about re gifting them on their birthdays 😉😆

@Kwasi i understand. However, your circumstances sound very different to my in-laws. With kids and friends buying my child something, I’m not fussy as people with young children tend to not have much money in some cases.

Well it’s a sign you can downgrade what you spend and tbh it would be wise to do you don’t feel resentment

maybe they are over gift giving. I know I am!

A kitkat? Landed! Hope it was 4 finger?

Why not just text her and say thanks again for the present it was very generous, but you wanted to let her know that you're not doing any presents anymore to make things simpler, so instead of exchanging presents it would be great to just catch up over a coffee next time.

@RandomButtons no, thee Christmas edition snowman shaped one. Size of a freddo. Lol

Mil bought decent gifts for my dc. Nothing for our joint dc - her actual dgc...

Flip. That’s not even a proper kitkat.

buy them a mini box of smarties next year.

Same present for them next year

Sorry, ignore me, wrong thread!

@PurpleRayne89 keep the socks and the tea light candle and add a smaller kitkat for your gift to MIL next year!

Just came on to ask if it was a 2 or 4 finger 🤣

What did you get them last year? What did they get you last year?

More fool you for spending so much on them

Christmas isn’t a competition 🙄

Stop going on about their income and mortgage that's nothing to do with it. Just spend less next year.

Buy them a £5 gift next year znd see how they like it.

That KitKat gift is just crying out for a return airport Toblerone for the in-laws next year!