Are you bothered by going to other peoples weddings?

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AIBU to think that most people see going to a wedding as an expensive chore

Finding something to wear. Potential time off work. Childcare arrangements. Wedding gifts. Possible hotel and travel costs. Money for drinks on the day. Time taken for ceremony and all that comes with the day.

Yes it's lovely and all but aside from the couple that are getting married, others can't really be that bothered can they.

On the above basis - would you be tempted to do an elopement wedding, thinking that you would both save yourself loads of money on the wedding and save friends and family the time and expense of attending?

TBH, I fucking hate weddings. Going as an evening guest is not so bad, as it is essentially just a party... but being there all day is boring.

I also stress about finding an outfit, photographers trying to get snaps of me, having to gush over the bride's dress when it gives her back tits etc.

Elope, avoid the stress, and have a party when you get home. So much easier.

I like going to a wedding of a family member or someone I know well, where there's lots of people going I know, as it's lovely sociable opportunity to see people. But the last one we went to was a friends child, turned out we knew no-one except the parents, who understandably were busy seeing everyone, and we ended up chatting to people we hardly knew which got a bit boring after a while

I did elope, (Gretna Green) and never regretted doing it that way. I can’t stand going to weddings and I didn’t want one myself. (Too much hassle and expense.) I’ve managed to swerve most of them over the years, even booking a holiday to avoid one wedding! Best wedding I went to was for a close friend who married into a different culture so it was very interesting and different. Traditional white weddings bore me.

A great wedding is glorious, but that doesn't mean just throwing loads of cash at it. It just means a bit of careful and considerate planning.

Some of the best weddings I've been to have been quite modest, but the general vibe was so warm and inclusive it felt amazing.

I've also been to some 500+ weddings that were so ridiculously impersonal that we left early.

I love going to weddings I actually eloped so didn’t have wedding guests but I get really happy when I’m invited to weddings. There’s only been one wedding which I attended that wasn’t so great, it started at 9am and ceremony was miles aways from the outdoor marquee reception , no food was given until 7pm so everyone was tired, cold and hungry.

Yes! I don’t like weddings- you’ve been to one you’ve been to them all! And am still to go to a wedding where the marriage lasts more than 10 years so I’m going more and more begrudgingly. I’m invited to a close friend’s third wedding in less than a decade this year🥴

We had less than 50 people, ceremony then resturant meal for everyone

I have been to similar weddings and love all these

I won't go to multi event epic saga weddings where it is a performance nor destination ones, I will wish them well and quietly decline

But I don't get this 'it is their wedding but it is all about me'

I don't assume anything and if I have questions I ask

I love them. Haven’t been to one in a few years, need to wait for the kids in DH’s family to grow up before we’ll get to go to any more.

I don't see how this is a ' simplistic ' question.
Every Couple and every Wedding is UNIQUE in relation to people around them. Just like every child is unique. It's all about personal choice - surely..??????? Also depends on financial situation of the couple. And it's a beautiful , devine thing.

I love a wedding! Well only really a family wedding or one where you know lots of the guests otherwise it’s not so fun.

But for me it’s a chance to dress up, 3 course meal, free champagne, a good band/DJ, CAKE and then there’s evening food 😮

I’m having the best time 🤣

You sound miserable, everyone loves weddings. Don’t go, the couple would definitely rather pay all that money for someone else to come and enjoy themselves rather than someone who won’t.

I love being in my 50s, i get to say yay or nay and nobody cares. Weddings are a faff, cost too much money and are not worth days of my time and are often as boring as hell. The only weddings i will attend are those of my children or Grandchildren in the future.

Gosh you sounds miserable and jelous

I think it depends on who's it is. If it's someone I'm not very close to I won't be overly fussed about going but if it's someone I'm close to I'll figure out finances as much as I can to be there with them.

@Anderson2018 "everyone loves weddings" is a ridiculous thing to say.
The 4 I have been to have been among the 4 most boring events of my life. Oh and one of those 4 was my own wedding 😂

I love weddings. I shamelessly wear the same outfit every time haha

I love a wedding. I do understand we all like different things but when you've got good food, drinks and good company I can't see much to not like. Unless you have really boring family or friends I suppose 🤷‍♀️

I love a wedding, prefer child free personally. Not a fan of requests for cash as a gift.

I love a wedding as I don't often get to see my extended family 😊 and I love going to friends' weddings too! I'm a very sociable person and don't get out often enough these days 🤣
I don't understand it when people insist on child-free weddings. I've never been invited to one myself but I think that's not very fair on invitees. Weddings are often far away, so it's impractical to find childcare!!

We eloped and we had the BEST few days and a lovely hassle free day, free of expectations. Also, we spent less than 1000 on everything, including three nights in a hotel for us and our friends (witnesses).

I'm ambivalent tbh.

Some are great. Some aren't.

We went to one last week. Had a good time but cost around £1k to attend. Adore the couple though so didn't begrudge this.

@TooMuchPinkyPonkJuice yes but one persons "nice food and drink" is never going to be the same as another persons.
Personally a "formal" style meal is on my list of things I really cannot stand.
I just hate it.
You say "what's not to like?" - but there's your answer.

I could care less, expensive weekend, would rather go on holiday, I'm happy for the couple but even happier if they elope. My nicec is getting married this year l was happy when she appolegictly said would be a small wedding and l would l be upset if l wasn't invited. I'm much happier to stay home and send her a wedding gift😂

I love a wedding, or any other social function.
It's a great excuse to buy a new outfit and have a fab time.
Big or small, I love them all.

No I love weddings, wish I got invited to more. I like dressing up, like choosing a gift, like socialising and having fun. They can be a bit boring whilst the photos are being done.