Insisting on getting dressed every day in school holidays

[Haggisfish3]

Hello
I am curious about what the consensus is on this. I am happy to sit in pjs all day if im
not going anywhere and so am happy for dc to also do this. But I’m aware my ex and his family get dressed every single day without fail, regardless of whether they are going out or not. We are always clean and showered etc. just not dressed for the outside world.

so yabu-people should get dressed every day, regardless of activity
Or yanbu -you agree with me and are happy to spend the odd day (s!) in pjs if staying in.

I don’t sleep in pyjamas but if I’m not going anywhere during the day then I will throw on PJ bottoms, a tshirt and usually a hoodie. If the postman knocks on the door then he sees me in that, hasn’t died of shock yet. I’m also one of those people that gets changed out of their “outside” clothes as soon as they get home into loungewear/pjs, much more comfortable, the dye off of dark jeans doesn’t transfer onto the sofa, and I don’t feel like I’m spreading grime from the wider world all over the house! This seems quite the norm in my friendship group though so genuinely surprised by people who have to be dressed in proper clothes by lunchtime!

That's still really gross, they're carrying all their germs and grime from their day into their bed.

Once or twice my youngest has fallen asleep on the way home from something and I've put her down if just in leggings and a t shirt rather than wake and upset her, even then she still wakes at night and when she wakes we put a clean pull up on and pop pyjamas on. If she slept all night in her clothes from the day before no way I'd then expect her to do another day in them.

We do it on the regular think we've been dress a handful of times since Xmas eve, why creat more washing.

Calm down, their underwear is clean daily!
Hygiene standards can vary without it being grim.
My children are definitely not smelly or dirty.
They have a bath every 2-3 days.
They are preschool age, one of them is still napping in the day. Would you put pyjamas on a 2 year old for every nap? Their clothes are leggings and tops, basically pyjamas anyway. And I did say I change their clothes if they get dirty. Often they get through several sets per day and other times by fluke they last a few days.

I work from home. I actually do have to leave the house every day to walk the dogs but I do it in PJs/loungewear/joggers. When I didn’t have dogs I just didn’t see the point of getting dressed if I didn’t have anywhere to go 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Haggisfish3

why on earth wouldn’t you just get dressed op?!

Another vote for pjs.

I mentioned it on another thread, but I have a 'pj wardrobe'. Sleeping pjs, lounging pjs to wear when it's 'just us', and lounging pjs to wear when certain friends and family come for a visit. I don't sleep in my lounging pjs and I don't lounge in my sleeping pjs. The 2nd two categories are comprised of various pj bottoms in different materials, and various tshirts and tunic tops. The 1st category is just, well, pjs. Sleeping pjs are worn with dressing gowns, 'lounging' pjs with a warm cardigan.

Life is too short to get dressed every day.

I always get dressed as we have animals that need to be seen to, kids love the odd PJ day though.

Actually putting clothes back on a few days if not dirty is not the issue.

It's the going to bed sleeping in them, which presumably means you're not changing underwear before bed? So they're sleeping in clothes and day old pants and then in the morning all you do is change over pants and put the clothes back on.

Changing to pyjamas and leaving a visibly clean pair fo jeans for the next day on a chair or whatever airing overnight then popping back on in the morning is not the same as sleeping in clothes

Also do they sleep well like that? Mine need the wind down and familiarly of a bedtime routine, wash, teeth, into PJs, into bed

Blimey! They sleep in their clothes??

I'm amazed by how uncomfortable people seem to find what to me are the usual casual clothes I'd wear around the house, e.g. jeans. I definitely think some of you need to buy new jeans!

I really dislike the feeling of not showering within an hour or so of getting up and it would never occur to me to shower but not get dressed. But I also would never go all day without leaving the house unless I was really ill.

Fair enough, each to their own, I don't mind a bit of dirt and grime. It is good for our immune systems. The human species evolved to cope with much dirtier conditions than we currently live in. Daily baths for children are a recent thing. It's a matter of personal preference to be changing clothes daily and bathing daily, not a matter of health or well being. No one was doing that in the days before washing machines and gas fired boilers.

Also unless you wash your child's hair every night they will still have grime on their pillow anyway? so not really getting the logic of that one.

Getting dressed changes my mental framework I'm ready to do things and get on if I stay in PJ's I waste the day and feel sluggish and generally shit.
Why shower and not dress? Why not want to go outside?

Daily baths for children are a recent thing. It's a matter of personal preference to be changing clothes daily and bathing daily, not a matter of health or well being. No one was doing that in the days before washing machines and gas fired boilers

I was a child in the 1950s. A daily bath at bedtime was a thing then.

It's the small amount on their hair versus the whole body grime. Also you aren't washing them either.

The 'weve coexisted with germs forever' thing is a nonsense too, improved hygiene and regular washing is one fo the things credited with reduced childhood mortality etc.

That aside though, serious do they sleep well straight from the day to bed, no change or wash in between?

Ha love the pj wardrobe. What do your smarter ones look like?

And while daily baths are perhaps more recent, growing up in the 80s we still hand hands, faces and backsides washed and changed from day clothes into pyjamas every night. That bits not new or recent at all.

Daily baths for children are a recent thing.

What do you mean by recent? They were totally normal when I was in primary school 30 years ago.

Whatever suits you, but I don’t think I could keep same clothing/pjs on for all day and then go back to bed in them

I don’t think I’ve ever stayed in pjs all day except possibly in hospital. It feels depressing to me. If I want to wear some comfy at-home clothes I’ll put on some leggings and a jersey dress.

Well, they still have a bedtime routine, yes. Including tooth brushing and stories. Just doesn't always include baths or changing clothes. They sleep well and don't seem affected by having a bath/shower some nights and not others.

I’m a similar age to you and grew up with baths once a week pre-puberty

I meant recent in the context of the evolution of our species. But certainly within the last 100 years for most people

I know lots of children who had baths two or three times a week in the 80’s ( normally Wednesday and Sunday). I particularly remember it as I hated baths and was desperately envious.