Insisting on getting dressed every day in school holidays

[Haggisfish3]

Hello
I am curious about what the consensus is on this. I am happy to sit in pjs all day if im
not going anywhere and so am happy for dc to also do this. But I’m aware my ex and his family get dressed every single day without fail, regardless of whether they are going out or not. We are always clean and showered etc. just not dressed for the outside world.

so yabu-people should get dressed every day, regardless of activity
Or yanbu -you agree with me and are happy to spend the odd day (s!) in pjs if staying in.

My daughter stays in pjs on the weekends if not going out. I see nothing wrong with it though I'd be we had gif away with it when I was young. I do it very rarely as I have dogs to walk! So only if it's pouring with rain and a Sunday or something. But I do feel kinda weird.

I know loads of people in their 80’s and 90’s in the community. They shop, go fir walks, holiday and garden. Never seen them in PJ’s always look tidy with hair done etc.
I think there’s something to be said for getting in the habit of making an effort.

Not for me! I’ll get dressed everyday usually after breakfast and exercise daily mostly outdoors as well as dog walk. My DC will also get dressed and go out every day. The only time I stayed in my pjs all day was when I had Covid and was pretty ill.

Don't you work? Or have kids to take out?

always get dressed unless ill. In proper clothes. Leave the house pretty much every day.

if pj days are a regular thing I don’t know how you’d be active enough to be normal 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you can't lounge around in your PJs in the Christmas holidays, then when can you?

I love it.

I usually get dressed every day, and in proper clothes, not jogging bottoms and hoodies or the like.

But sometimes I just clean my teeth and hang out in pyjamas all day and I'm surprised so few people do it. If I'm feeling unwell, or down, then I have a duvet day basically.

I work from home and both my children are at home for different reasons, so it's completely normal for us to have days when we don't go outside.

I guess we just have a different life to the majority posting on this thread.

I think posters ought to be very careful about slinging out insults such as neglect- which is actually an awful thing to see when a justified accusation exists. The advice is actually that children don’t need daily baths once toilet trained and in fact it isn’t particularly good for their skin. I was told by our paediatrician it would be better to stop bathing dcs daily. I have continued to do so, but he did direct me to several sources of advice on this.

I personally prefer to shower and get in clean clothes (usually lounge wear or leggings and a hoodie) at home. I don't know why I just wouldn't want to be in my pjs all day and I find getting dressed is good for my mental health, no idea why but it just is. Same as making my bed every morning etc

I also love my evening routine of doing my skincare and getting into my pjs then, but each to their own!

Not having daily baths - fine.

Being left in the same clothes for multiple days in a row, sleeping in them as well, without changing or washing their bodies - really not OK. It's a failure to provide basic care. It's also a failure to teach your children the basic self care skills which they are going to need as adults.

When the weather is dreadful I'll leave dc in his pj's til bath time if he's happy playing. Usually joggers myself but not every time.
(If he gets a bit cabin fevery bath time might be 10am to sort of reset though, then he'll get dressed)

If it's bad again the next day we'll go somewhere and I'll put up with the moaning about rain, but I don't think 24 hours indoors is going to do any harm. Especially with all the new stuff from Xmas to play with!

I’m assuming it means not changing underwear as well if they’re not taking clothes off for days. That’s absolutely grim and utterly negligent.

I get dressed every day.

However, sometimes dressed is, washed, and leggings and a hoodie and a messy bun, bit of tinted moisturiser of I'm feeling it. I certainly don't wear outside clothes like jeans etc inside... That's mental to me! The rough fabric of the jeans and the studs etc around the pockets would surely wear down my sofa right!?

I also have certain sets of leggins / hoodies that are classed as inside only. Like I'd never wear them in the grim elements of outside the front door and pollute them with germs 😂.

Yes. I'm odd.

I don't like wearing a bra at home, and it feels more comfy to do that in jammies than in jeans and a jumper, or a shirt. The bra is the first thing I want to sling off when I get home, closely followed by cleansing and toning my makeup off and sticking my hair in a ponytail.

I'm making the most of it while off on leave. I will have to dress when I am back in work next week though I may or may not sometimes be guilty of throwing a jumper over my jammies on a Teams call....

I shower and put clean clothes on daily. Shoot me...!

I only wear regular clothes when I have to leave the house or someone is coming over. We all have sensory issues in this house so hate clothes. My youngest is often completely starkers or just wearing a hooded blanket. There’s no right or wrong. Some people are snobby and think it’s lazy to wear pjs, which I think is inaccurate, I get plenty of things done in the house and we all shower regularly etc. we just like comfies. I think for going to their dads maybe tell them to wear loungewear type clothes that can be seen as day time clothes-joggers for example.

Also absolutely not wearing a bra at home. I hate the things.

Slightly tongue in cheek. they get clean underwear daily and a bath every 2-3 nights, but yes I will put the same clothes back on if clean and they will sometimes keep them on overnight too. One still naps in the day and the other did until recently so I don't see the difference with overnight sleep. Excessive laundry is not good for the planet.

Exactly!

It's not clear whether they're leaving the house or not. If they aren't, that's appalling as children shouldn't be confined to the house for several days (unless ill), but if they are leaving the house then they are going out in public in the clothes and underwear they've slept a couple of nights in. On what planet is this not neglect?

I get the impression MNers think that neglect is confined to poor people, but it really isn't.

Fuck the “current advice”. It’s quicker to get in the shower than piss about washing bits and pieces of your body.

We don't get any visitors to our house (yep a bit reclusive) so kids often stay in pjs if having indoor day and me too. Usually shower before teatime and put on clean pjs

The poster who said this said this was when their clothes are not grubby. You have supplied the “ smelly and dirty.” It may be that in bathing our DCs daily you and I are in fact further from the advice than this poster. I also mostly give them completely fresh changes of clothes including pyjamas which in fact is probably bad for the environment . None of us get the balance spot on, so don’t be so unkind.

I'm usually in pjs as soon as I get in from work and only change when i go out. I change them regularly and shower daily. Love nothing more than whipping my bra off and getting into slouchy pjs.

I can’t explain why, definitely not my upbringing or any current peer influence, but I have to get dressed before lunch, and I have to get back in pjs when it goes dark (if not before!). I literally feel itchy and anxious when I don’t, and try and sit with my uncomfortableness but I can’t do it !

I don’t care what other people do though, and it makes no difference if I’m going out or not- I’m weird I know !

I wouldn’t stay in pyjamas all day unless I was ill and in and out of bed.

Apart from anything else I need warmer stuff on. I’m not paying to heat the house to nightwear warmth because I can’t be arsed to get dressed.

And I wouldn’t like cooking in my pyjamas.

I have comfortable warm clothing. And don’t want to wear bed wear round the house, cooking, eating etc and then wear that in my clean bed.

Also I answer the door (weird I know). I don’t want the Amazon guy / my neighbour etc to see me in my pyjamas. Way too intimate.

In the winter, no pyjamas I own would be warm enough to wear around the house without something on top anyway.