I’m very very ready for my young adult children to go home now ?

[Goldypants]

Case for the prosecution:

1. LUNCH. My GOD JUST HAVE A SANDWICH. Why can’t young people eat lunch food? Not pasta or bagels or cooked this or that
2. Inability to take the bins out
3. work calls that take up a whole room
4. GLASSES everywhere

I love them obviously. But they can go home now.

(They are any day )

I don’t think they meant an exact geographical location 😂

Completely agree. I don't get all the people saying that sandwiches are unhealthy and lunches from other cultures are far better.

Goldypants and yes to always sending them home with containers of food for their dinner and lunch the next day. Although I have fond memories of this , my mum always over catered and sent us all home with food. She would not have tolerated the random meal times of different people in the house.

Like most of Mumsnet, then? Can't have toast and marmalade for breakfast, or cereal, it has to be a couple of eggs, or a greek yoghurt, or some other protein-heavy food.

I think some of the people who think it’s good that the grown up children cook fancy lunches don’t realise that the mothers (and fathers) still have stuff to do. If the children are in their 20s then chances are the parents are in their 50s and have responsible jobs. The lunches sound great if they don’t cause anyone else any nuisance … but it sounds as though they do.

Hooting @loml97

im back to work tomorrow. Will be bliss

Two of mine only live ten minutes away and I see them most days but youngest moved 200 miles away last year for work and is only home every few weeks. Went back last Wednesday and is so homesick they’re coming back tonight for a few days. Just when you get used to having the house to yourself they’re back 😂. Love them all but love the peace and quiet and having less mess and food to buy when there not here lol

I recently saw a meme describing how visiting their teen/young adult child's bedroom was similar to visiting Ikea. You go in looking for 1 thing but come out with cups, plates, glasses.

Don’t want to worry you but one of my sons returned home after uni for five years 😊

I wish I had those days back again :(

Yes! Gawd I love my kids so much I feel like i could explode. I would do anything for them and husband and I have missed them so much since they left home a few years ago.

By day 4 of the festive break we were hiding in our bedroom bitching about how we were tired of them, we just wanted our house back, we wanted to watch our shows without being ridiculed for watching such drivel, I wanted to find my sink how I left it, not with toothpaste spit all over the place, all the farting, all the food mess, and dear god the skids in the toilets .... would they ever fuck off back to their own homes.

Then they left.

And we were utterly bereft and told them they MUST come back soon, and did they fancy a short holiday with us for their dad's birthday....

Nature intends us to raise our young until they are adults and then boot them out of the nest. Not many parents are getting that luxury anymore, due to 'boomerang kids' ending right back on their doorsteps as soon as Uni has finished/split up with gf/bf or they decide it's more cushy back at mum and dad's, having access to all the nice grub, and clean washing. Most of us parents of adult kids never had that luxury when we were young. I think we are enabling a generation of 'forever children'.

I don't think thats fair @Lavenderblue11.

Most young people are secretly a bit fed up with moving back home but due to the cost of rent many have no choice.

Its not easy being a 20 something these days.

25 year old son just headed back to his flat following Christmas stay. Lunches of chicken thighs/orzo pasta (huge portions), etc, etc then asking what’s for dinner?! He seems to eat a cooked meal twice a day. Even an avocado toast needs meddling with (Tabasco/paprika mixed in mashed Avo). This visit though he did clear up after himself and usually made enough for someone else. Glasses and other stuff still being left everywhere! Do miss him when he’s gone though.

I think I need a Dallas size-type of house.
Where they all have their own wing and join me for pre dinner drinks at an arranged time.
Into the kitchen and have their own fridge.
It's the only solution really.
And they can all have their own pads in the 'city' for when they need to f off.

Lucky or trained them better? Firmer with boundaries/expectations? 😉 Well done you!

ha ha ha! the lunch thing! My DD even gets conflicted about breakfast! FFS! Have a piece of toast! Boil an egg, Bowl of cornflakes... avo on toast if you really need to... it's not that difficult!

Interesting, my 20-somethings are the same and will not eat a sandwich. They also use every pan and pot for dinner too but it is always delicious!

Both mine have gone back now and l've got all the wifi to myself, and most of the towels and the surviving crocks rounded up. All the cats have migrated back to the living room and are snoring in corners. No-one is cooking elaborate snacks at midnight and using all the hot water ...

All in all it's far too quiet and l really fancy some spicy dumplings!

I had DS and wife, baby and toddler stay while their house was being renovated. Wife doesn't cook, DS does but was helping with house. I cooked different food for everyone and ran after them. And painted their house too. It was just before Christmas and they were adamant they were going to be in for Christmas Day but I got stressed because I wasn't buying food. On Christmas Eve I saw DIL taking her duvet out of her bedroom and on inquiring was told they were moving back - and we should come for Christmas dinner. I've never been so relieved, even if I did have to help cook it!

@321user123

But… why?

honest no snark. I really am trying to under this thread.. why does it drive you mad that they eat
a. Something warm
b. They cook it
c. They eat differently than you? 🤔🤔🤔 (I take it the issue is with an and b rather than this, but you never know).

*The reason it drives me nuts is that there ends up being continual washing up!

But also, you'd think I'm starving them if they can't have something hot for lunch!*

Wait till you live with The Next Generation. I have a grandson who asks "what are the breakfast option". Meaning : not a sandwich, not plain cereals.

It’s irritating because it’s like a performance and uses an enormous number of pots and pans and utensils. Don’t get me wrong I am happy that they cook and eat healthily but I don’t need a running commentary , I do need the stuff washed up , not just rinsed or placed in the area of the dishwasher . It’s also expensive , the ingredients cost more than I would usually spend and they absolutely won’t touch anything previously opened , so they use a half an avocado and leave the other half , my fridge is full of half avocados ! Every label has to be scrutinised and commented on, its self indulgent and frankly boring .

all of this is tongue in cheek of course , I love them dearly and miss them when they are not here but honestly what is wrong with simple food prepared quickly using the minimum of utensils and the minimum of power/fuel.

They go on about climate change but think nothing of wanting hot water on tap at all hours of the day and night and using the oven or the hob for three meals a day , my parents ruled the cooker out of bounds in the day , the toaster and kettle fine, soup heated in the microwave was just about acceptable !

Mine are both still at home. The younger one is more likely to cook than the older one, but will not necessarily go for a nutritional lunch, just whatever we have in the freezer, squid, kaarage chicken etc. He doesn’t have as much disposable income as eldest who regularly uses Just Eat, Deliveroo etc - eldest will order in Chinese food and make it last two days. All too frequently for my liking, judging by the detritus. they order from Domino’s, McDonalds or Burger King. Eldest is always on his feet at work, but youngest definitely doesn’t have as trim a waistline as he once did. Hopefully once he’s working, it will change.

We have a few tins of spaghetti hoops they could have on toast if the mood took them. I’ve given up buying bagels and other things they could have for lunch.

We had a trainee at work who was forever pleading poverty and asking for an advance to pay for childcare or rent. Her manager was appalled by the amount of fancy coffees and food deliveries that she had.