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I’m very very ready for my young adult children to go home now ?

424 replies

Goldypants · 02/01/2024 17:36

Case for the prosecution:

  1. LUNCH. My GOD JUST HAVE A SANDWICH. Why can’t young people eat lunch food? Not pasta or bagels or cooked this or that
  2. Inability to take the bins out
  3. work calls that take up a whole room
  4. GLASSES everywhere
I love them obviously. But they can go home now.

(They are any day )

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FreshWinterMorning · 02/01/2024 23:39

@moomoomoo27 : My theory is that parents love their kids less the older they get. They try to justify every single stage as a difficult stage and it'll pass. Then they're older and hate their grown up children even more, because they're never good enough in one way or another. Then they look back and think the younger years weren't so bad after all, even though they hated the stages at the time. It's sad really.

Yeah, my 2 are nearly 30, and I fucking loathe them. Wish they'd sod off and leave me alone. Like, just don't contact me at all. Urgh kids.. BLEURGH!!!! Confused

#sarcasm #joking

FreshWinterMorning · 02/01/2024 23:39

Tryingtokeepcalmandcarryon · 02/01/2024 21:08

Oh dear god, I’ve just realised my partner of many years and father to our 2 children is attempting to impersonate a 20ish year old student!

Working from home full time, Pjs, Glasses everywhere, Lunch has to be a proper meal, Pans everywhere, no time to wash up, complains fridge is empty, I have to get the food, def no sandwiches. At least yours leaves after a few weeks he’s here permanently haha

😆

tachetastic · 03/01/2024 00:07

Tryingtokeepcalmandcarryon · 02/01/2024 21:08

Oh dear god, I’ve just realised my partner of many years and father to our 2 children is attempting to impersonate a 20ish year old student!

Working from home full time, Pjs, Glasses everywhere, Lunch has to be a proper meal, Pans everywhere, no time to wash up, complains fridge is empty, I have to get the food, def no sandwiches. At least yours leaves after a few weeks he’s here permanently haha

I'm with him!!!

I'm approaching 50 and always thought that a mid-life crisis required me to have an affair with someone much younger and buy a sports car. Frankly I haven't got the energy for either!

After reading this thread I'm thinking that all day spent in PJs and my job is done. Result! That said, I also don't know if I can be bothered to cook anything beyond a toastie for lunch. Does that mean I'm thrown out out of the club???

Pinkwallsandfloors · 03/01/2024 00:18

katepilar · 02/01/2024 23:02

This is a very weird and sad thread for me. I cant help thinking that parenting has gone somewhat wrong at lot of places if the children behave this badly in their parents' homes. (I dont mean the need for proper meal for lunch which I consider normal.)

Omg don't take it so seriously!

Doteycat · 03/01/2024 00:58

Pinkwallsandfloors · 03/01/2024 00:18

Omg don't take it so seriously!

God you're so right.
I mean, my 3, and one fiance, travelled by boat, plane, car and bus, through the night, to be here for xmas. To spend time with me and dh. To crawl into their childhood beds with their Xmas duvets on. They came laden with gifts for us, especially me as I'm just out of hospital. I had to stop them coming early when I was ill.

I defo consider them not picking up their dirty mugs much much worse than anything good they have done. Utterly selfish bastards.
Clearly I'm an utter failure.
Ora maybe you just haven't a clue what you are on about.

YearofDNGAF · 03/01/2024 01:13

@sweetpickle23 I think it is implied that the bagel is a sandwich with airs and graces

Goldypants · 03/01/2024 01:54

I think we all agree we love our kids and having them home for christs sake. This was quite explicit.

any relationship becomes with moments of annoyance, and this is one of them

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Goldypants · 03/01/2024 01:56

Pinkwallsandfloors · 02/01/2024 22:46

I love this thread, it's like a proper old mnet thread from years ago. I can relate to every single post (apart from the two snarky ones).

Gaming until 4am is becoming a bit trying now I must say, them and their mates hollering into their headsets, calling each other penises and commie bastards, does make me laugh though

That’s because I am a very very old mumsnetter. ;)

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Goldypants · 03/01/2024 01:57

Lolol at protein.

we have a bag of it sitting on the kitchen floor. And those whisk-y shake cups . Giant

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Lavenderandbrown · 03/01/2024 02:06
cecily strong snl GIF by Saturday Night Live

Visit YouTube for SNL back home baller…to see how truly universal this all is. My DS 22 spent 15$ on 2 bunches of asparagus tonite. And 11$ on kabuchi.

verdantverdure · 03/01/2024 02:21

It could be worse. Next door's have had Deliveroo pretty much every single day they've been home.

I complain about my lot getting through a jar of marmite in a week on after school toast but it could be worse. Grin

MrsHughesPinny · 03/01/2024 04:15

I always eat ‘cooked food’ for lunch because I don’t like cold food. Never have. Food is food, what difference does it make?

I love that my teen DC cook and that they enjoy a wide variety of foods from all over the world. Far better than when I was in uni and we existed on chip butties and 25p Tesco Value pasta by the pound!

MrsHughesPinny · 03/01/2024 04:28

@LuckySantangelo35 I have cooked food at lunch time but I meal prep and/or batch cook at the weekends and WFH two days a week. Cooking and food is one of my main interests, we spend $130 (~£100) a week on the food shop for three of us, which doesn’t seem extraordinarily expensive to me. Cleaning up is mostly when I do the meal prep so happens all at once, then it’s usually just one pan and a plate or two which gets put in the dishwasher after lunch if there’s time or after work if there’s not!

northerngirls · 03/01/2024 05:29

Yes mine never seem to have a cold lunch such as a sandwich, unless it's sushi!

It's always something like noodles with eggs, ie the sort of thing you get in Wagamama (miso, ramen, kimchi)!

Drives me nuts!

rochethenut · 03/01/2024 05:55

HarrietPoole · 02/01/2024 21:30

What? I don’t think @rochethenut was asking for an address.

indeed

@Goldypants seriously??

rochethenut · 03/01/2024 05:57

rochethenut · 02/01/2024 17:44

where do they usually live?

you assumed i was interested in knowing the exact address of your children Op rather than if they were students at uni or lived in their own home? 😂

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 03/01/2024 06:17

There's a silver lining I never thought of with my Autistic DC. No elaborate meals, it hardly seems worthwhile teaching them to cook when everything they'll eat is raw or can be done in the airfyer. The boys love sandwiches and DD loves wraps, no elaborate lunches here, but their young so maybe they'll grow into the elaborate lunch phase.

rochethenut · 03/01/2024 06:27

LuckySantangelo35 · 02/01/2024 21:05

“How do people have time to prepare, eat and clear up elaborate meals in the middle of the day? Don't they have other things to do? Not to mention all the shopping. And the cost.”

THIS!! Can anyone shed any light?!

get off mumsnet so much and you’ll find you have loads more time available @LuckySantangelo35 !

ThePoshUns · 03/01/2024 07:20

Agree this has been a great 'old school' thread. Like the olden days.

Mamabear2424 · 03/01/2024 07:59

The people saying this thread is weird , or sad, just you wait till you have young adults,.....explains why animals eat their young

Ginseng1 · 03/01/2024 08:09

Protein shakes and smoothies with every different type of frozen fruit done in my ninja soup maker couple times a day and not washed out properly. And dropping lumps of frozen berries on kitchen floor to defrost & be trodden on.

cyclamenqueen · 03/01/2024 08:29

ThePoshUns · 03/01/2024 07:20

Agree this has been a great 'old school' thread. Like the olden days.

That’s because post of us here are the old’ uns ! My eldest is not much younger than I was when I first posted in mumsnet almost at the beginning 😮

EdithStourton · 03/01/2024 08:38

I've remembered the cheese and the eggs.

When the youngest is home, she gets through boxes of eggs and blocks of cheddar without either DH or I actually seeing what happens.

It's some sort of magic: you open the fridge and there you see plenty of cheddar (one and a half blocks) and a dozen eggs.
Close the door, step away for 30 secs.
Then you reopen the door and POOF, a token ounce of cheddar and 3 eggs (in two boxes, obvs) remain

If I ate eggs and cheddar in those quantities, I'd be shaped like a barrage balloon. DD however has a teeny tiny waist.

Goldypants · 03/01/2024 08:46

My biggun (17 stone sportsman) doesn’t like “raw cheese” so i don’t suffer the greater issues.

I first joined Mumsnet when he wouldn’t sleep through the night, so there’s some perspective

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Shangrilalala · 03/01/2024 09:25

A staple of lunch for ours is the baked bacon and (grated) cheese croissant. Not only do we suffer the inevitable cheesy confetti floor but I’m going through croissants more quickly than a Parisian bakery on a Sunday morning.

Still ten days more until uni return for one…