Telling each other that we’re… arriving

[Mumfromoutnumbered]

Just for fun really. DP and I have had this discussion before, and it occurred again earlier.

Neither of us are noisy during sex, but as he finishes, he always gives me advance notice and tells me it’s about to happen. He says he’s doing it out of politeness, and that I should do the same.

Politeness!

Frankly the last thing I’m thinking about in that moment is being fucking polite! I never announce it. He says he can’t tell when it happens and wants to know.

Is announcing it a conscious thing? I guess some people say it in the moment or if they don’t want their partner to stop, but surely not whilst thinking ‘Oh I’d better let the other person know so that they won’t think me rude…’

Does he need to know? Am I really being impolite?! I wouldn’t care if he didn’t tell me in advance. The bloody grunt and the fact that he then stops is generally the telltale sign! AIBU?

The whole thing makes me laugh. I never went to Swiss finishing school but I always thought it fairly impolite to be humping away or lying there with my legs in the air in the first place!

Had the same thought unique. Especially arriving together!

Dear reader, I guffawed.

Same! I'd hate for the arrival to be interrupted or delayed due to a change of speed/rhythm!

Tbh I like to know. I love making lots if noise to. Sounds like your husband is mot very good in bed. You rarely move only a bit and make no noise. Are u actually even achieving climax

Right. When u orgasm through oral. I presume you shake and clamp their head with your legs? He certainly knows then.

I'm loving the descriptions.
But agree with others , some of us have to be content with enjoying the journey.
And I so relate to this
in awe of the all the women on this thread who can control when their orgasms turn up. Mine are flightier than a nervous bluebottle.

No…? There’s not either of those things! Argh. Oh God. The more I read here, the more I think he’s right and I’m wrong!

I once dated someone who arrived completely silently, it was weird. I like an announcement, personally.

I had a lover who would ask every time "do you mind if I cum?"

So I don’t announce it but then my whole body gets like tenses and I get some uncontrollable jerks I suppose you would call them so it’s really obvious. But then I also make sounds lol not loud as we have a child but can’t imagine being completely silent!
However on the few occasions I’ve buggered it up for myself trying to not let it happen because I’m having fun and want to last longer I tell him it’s not going to happen. This lets him then know he’s free to do his bit as soon as he likes without trying to hold out till I’ve been pleasured.

Can you feel any contractions OP?

What does happen when you come?

I don't have to announce anything, I make a series of involuntary squeaks!

I once dated a chap who would inform me he had reached his destination by shouting 'Ohhh.. tremendous!'...

I soon educated him out of that, because it put me RIGHT off my own journey.

I think some feedback is useful, I've had partners who gave no indication whatsoever and that is disconcerting - but it doesn't have to be a full minute by minute audio narration of events.

Has penetration man made an appearance already? I think he deserves a courtesy mention on such a thread.

Yes, I feel contractions.

I’m definitely coming - wave of intense pleasure, then contractions, then relaxed afterwards with the urge gone etc. It’s an obvious change from ‘Ah, this is lovely’ to ‘THIS IS HEAVEN!’ but I just don’t vocalise it!

I’ve always been very quiet. A hangover from teenage masturbation, I suspect. It’s had its uses over the years!

Maybe I’ll try next time. I guess if I can do it without it affecting my enjoyment then there’s no harm. I just hope I’m not self conscious. There is still that thing in the back of my mind about sex/orgasm being not something to shout about (metaphorically and literally) even though I’m a grown woman and it’s absolutely fine and normal.

Ooh this has all gone suddenly serious.

Right, back to thinking about Choo Choo man and the bloke who came in the third person! Ha!

Oh my god 😆

Oh my god

That could work too!!

@Mumfromoutnumbered I think if you are quiet and not very demonstrative your DH is probably being truthful when he says he can’t tell and needs you to tell him. Don’t start doubting yourself not every man would care whether you arrive or not.

I come like a steam train, noisy, groaning and grinding to a stop following a bit of a bumpy ride, maybe you are more akin to the smoother electric, quiet and more comfortable models.

Brilliant thread 😂

Ugh. This thread reminds me of a guy who would insist on referring to it as 'arriver' complete with bad French accent (think Del Boy)... such a passion-killer.

I’ve never clamped his head with my thighs, that sound hilarious, I will give it a go!

Lots of squirming, gasping, quivering, occasional profanity and pillow biting here.

Re him, it’s more exciting - for me at least, when the tells are strong, words are not necessary for that though, usually facial expression is a give away!

Back to locomotion analogies! Sometimes the train arrives at the destination but continues on without stopping (A through train? A runaway??). For my pleasure I think, which is very considerate, and quite rare?? but without wanting to be ungrateful I do prefer a more obvious final destination.

Good grief. Very off putting , like some awful footballer has barged into your private moment..

"Mange tout, mange tout Rodney" - those French girls are clear and concise.

when I clicked on this thread I thought it was going to be a complaint about people who insist on sending you a text saying "with you in 2 min" just before they walk through the door....

😂😂😂