Telling each other that we’re… arriving

[Mumfromoutnumbered]

Just for fun really. DP and I have had this discussion before, and it occurred again earlier.

Neither of us are noisy during sex, but as he finishes, he always gives me advance notice and tells me it’s about to happen. He says he’s doing it out of politeness, and that I should do the same.

Politeness!

Frankly the last thing I’m thinking about in that moment is being fucking polite! I never announce it. He says he can’t tell when it happens and wants to know.

Is announcing it a conscious thing? I guess some people say it in the moment or if they don’t want their partner to stop, but surely not whilst thinking ‘Oh I’d better let the other person know so that they won’t think me rude…’

Does he need to know? Am I really being impolite?! I wouldn’t care if he didn’t tell me in advance. The bloody grunt and the fact that he then stops is generally the telltale sign! AIBU?

The whole thing makes me laugh. I never went to Swiss finishing school but I always thought it fairly impolite to be humping away or lying there with my legs in the air in the first place!

@MaryHinges @Galatine aka Bernard Manning and son …. Knobheads

Pretty much totally silent! I’ve never thought that this was unusual until now!

i’m definitely with those who are criticising these ‘jokes’.

Not clever or funny or kind.

This thread has reminded me of “Penetration Man”

DH doesn’t announce but I do sometimes because he likes it.

Theres no bell ringing or bisto celebrations 😁

My vagina just clamped shut harder than a terrier's jaws around a rat.

I'm in awe of the all the women on this thread who can control when their orgasms turn up. Mine are flightier than a nervous bluebottle.

WHAT???!!1 😂

This thread has made me SCREAM!

No, not like that.

With laughter.

I think this is unusual and probably quite disconcerting for the other person. Maybe try being a bit more vocal then the arrival announcement wouldn’t be needed!

This is the best thing I have ever read on Mumsnet

I'm just impressed so many of you arrive.

This is also brilliant 👏

That too. The only thing I ever get from PIV is cystitis.

😂😂😂

A few years back I hooked up with an ex-boyfriend for a night. When we were dating he was totally silent during the journey, but someone had obviously told him that making some noise was a Good Thing in the decade or so that we were apart.

I was , therefore, rather taken aback when he started to describe his whole journey, including stop-offs, diversions, changing carriages and so forth, and requesting that I contribute to the discourse.

As it had become clear that we were not travelling together and I had no chance of arriving at my destination I'm afraid I bald-faced lied and told him I'd arrived already and he was free to disembark at his earliest convenience, which, fortunately, he did.

Never bought a ticket on that ride again.

It is unusual I think hearing each other enjoying it is such a turn on. Also being vocal is quite important if he was doing something I liked or I'm about to come and he stopped because I'm not saying anything or making noise I wouldn't be happy. I don't mean screaming at the top of your lungs so the neighbours can hear but surely most people make noise when having sex. I don't think I could be completely silent even if I tried

I have never felt the need to make an announcement - it is blindingly obvious on both sides! If it is not, then it is hardly worth the effort!

Oh goodness 😂😂

😂

“Darling, I’m afraid to say the train will be arriving at the station two minutes early this evening”

I'm going to shout "I'm arriving" next time to see my dp's reaction 😄

@Devonshiregal I think someone linked something but basically you stop before you’re about to “arrive” so to speak. Like he will do it 3-4 times if I’m lucky sometimes more which is frustrating. it’s kinda fun having someone be in control like that and we do it in a dom/Sub way so I need to ask to be let to. Sounds a bit weird but it’s really good. Very new to me but I like my arrival being delayed 🤣

When we’re actually shagging I’m probably what you would call ‘breathy’ (!). Maybe the odd ‘Yeah’ I suppose, so that he knows I’m generally happy. But this always happens after my orgasm (I’m just going to stop saying ‘arrival’!) which 99% of the time happens during oral beforehand. When oral is happening, I’m silent until I’m coming, at which point I’ll gasp. The gasp is partly because it’s nice to, and partly as a way of letting him know without using the words.

I like DH telling me.
I usually use it as a time to do my kegels so it's more enjoyable.

I mean sometimes I announce my arrival but that’s normally if I want him to change what his doing as I don’t want to arrive yet.

But he can certainly tell piv or not piv the noise for a start, the zig zagging across the road 😂 and if piv feeling the engine pull when you’ve pulled off the line haha

Oh and his only announced rarely normally to try and make sure I’m happy to maybe not arrive as his early. But you can always tell when his about to anyway.