Telling each other that we’re… arriving

[Mumfromoutnumbered]

Just for fun really. DP and I have had this discussion before, and it occurred again earlier.

Neither of us are noisy during sex, but as he finishes, he always gives me advance notice and tells me it’s about to happen. He says he’s doing it out of politeness, and that I should do the same.

Politeness!

Frankly the last thing I’m thinking about in that moment is being fucking polite! I never announce it. He says he can’t tell when it happens and wants to know.

Is announcing it a conscious thing? I guess some people say it in the moment or if they don’t want their partner to stop, but surely not whilst thinking ‘Oh I’d better let the other person know so that they won’t think me rude…’

Does he need to know? Am I really being impolite?! I wouldn’t care if he didn’t tell me in advance. The bloody grunt and the fact that he then stops is generally the telltale sign! AIBU?

The whole thing makes me laugh. I never went to Swiss finishing school but I always thought it fairly impolite to be humping away or lying there with my legs in the air in the first place!

You could say “I’m on my way” just to make sure he didn’t halt the journey?

My husband announces if I’m doing the work. I think it’s politeness or so I won’t stop. If he’s on top, he doesn’t announce, but he has numerous ‘tells’ it’s imminent.

I rarely say anything. I don’t think I could speak at that point anyway. But he has no doubt when it happens.

i’ve had two guys who would tell me when they were building to orgasm. They were basically asking for permission and wanting me to ok them coming before they did.
I do prefer guys who don’t do this. I find it sort of breaks the moment. It’s obvious a guy is building and I like watching it. I don’t need a ‘call and response’ moment.

I would not like to announce when I am building as it can slip away again. And once I am past the point of no return, I can’t speak anyway. It’s obvious I am coming so there is no doubt for anyone.
i do say thank you afterwards though!

I think men just want reassurance/bigging up. Ex BF was well aware when I had arrived as I was quite noisy (generally, and when holidaying 😁) so he'd ask afterwards "and did you enjoy that?" Fgs

And on the build up of arriving he started making a chugging sound like a steam train with a triumphant “CHOO CHOO” when he arrived at his destination 😐

"Please mind the gap"....

Please mind the gap

LOL

With an ex he wanted me to tell him when i was about to ' arrive' so we could orgasm together .We could feel eachothers , it was incredibly strong and beautiful and I could feel him intensely shooting his load in me. But with another partner I was so confused because I just could not feel him orgasm at all, even though he said he had I couldn't feel a thing !
Think it's weird to say being polite lol might be a turn on to hear you say it

I once had to dump a fairly nice man as he would shout I'm the Guvner who am I I'm the Guvner. Put me right off.

I say it so he knows and he says it so I know. That way you can arrive together! It makes it better IMO

I'm absolutely baffled along here 🙈🙈
I get that not everyone is verbal but how can blokes not tell by the physical sides ?? Like a bit of a downpour before landing ? Definitely a bit of turbulence body contortionist. Would kill the mood to have to say I'm arriving 🫨

@Tontostitis omg that's both hilarious and just awful too , how off putting!

I think it's polite to tell someone when you're arriving, having my DH walk in unexpectedly when I'm cuming always ruins the climax.

I always take it as a heads up so I can arrive at the same time (after a number of stations on the way)

If he doesn’t turn up on time - I’m not waiting around.

Oh my, so many replies! Thanks everyone! Some of these are hilarious.

I once read about a man who shouted ‘Ah! Bisto!’ At the crucial moment. What a guy! 😳

I’m surprised that so many people are convinced that their man can feel it when they… arrive (I can’t stop using this word now! Just to be clear, I obviously don’t in real life!). I’m not sure mine would be able to, and he says he can’t. It’s definitely happening though!

Maybe it’s because I tend to arrive at…er… Tongue Junction? His normal destination is PIV Central!

But surely he should still know? I’m quiet but I still gasp a bit for his benefit. I can be totally silent if I want to (my tiny teenage box room and thin-walled work hotels have taught me well!). But under normal circumstances surely he should be able to get the message without me telling him that the Night Train To Happiness is pulling in!

I’m not telling you op lol

Oh, and to the lady who said that she always thanks him afterwards… Yes! I do this too! Now that is politeness!

Edging: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/edging-orgasm-control @Devonshiregal

I had a boyfriend who’d start talking about himself in the third person when he was close to arrival. “Oh yeah! Greg’s coming! Oh yeah! He’s nearly there! HERE HE COMES!”

It was pretty offputting.

Totally agree. Can’t believe in 2024 people think it’s ok to start making Essex girl jokes again. It’s been a good 10 years since I last heard one.

@Mumfromoutnumbered I make a little bit of noise and move about a bit. I still gasp a bit for his benefit.

That sounds like me when I have ingestion 🤔if this is you arriving how quiet is the rest of the journey?

Didn't realise chubby brown had a MN account.

About as funny as a case of the clap.

😂😂😂

These are both stupid. And shit. Jokes 🙄

I have a FWB, I like it when he tells me to wait before I cum so that we can do it together.
I am very vocal so he can tell easily when I’m getting close.