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Wedding invite with baby

150 replies

Loopylambs · 31/12/2023 11:11

Extended family have been invited to a wedding , baby in our party will be nearly 1 . We found out from bride there will be no high chairs available. We contacted venue and they have agreed to now supply 3 high chairs .We told the bride , expecting her to let us have one of the high chairs as we had sorted but a few hours later she rang to say she’s allocated to other babies attending. AIBU to think as we sorted high chairs with venue we should be able to use one?

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chompargh · 31/12/2023 11:12

Stop interfering.

ConflictedCheetah · 31/12/2023 11:13

chompargh · 31/12/2023 11:12

Stop interfering.

Yeah, this.
Also when bride said none were available it may have been because she knew they had three but she'd already allocated them to other families so they weren't available to you.

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 31/12/2023 11:13

Or she just doesn’t t want this baby there?

chompargh · 31/12/2023 11:14

ConflictedCheetah · 31/12/2023 11:13

Yeah, this.
Also when bride said none were available it may have been because she knew they had three but she'd already allocated them to other families so they weren't available to you.

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Exactly.

You're meddling. Just don't go if it bothers you. Your baby isn't a priority.

WhateverMate · 31/12/2023 11:16

Oh God you've basically told her you didn't believe her so you rang to check! 🤦‍♀️

See if you can get a travel high chair, or just feed the baby in the buggy/on your knee.

chompargh · 31/12/2023 11:16

WhateverMate · 31/12/2023 11:16

Oh God you've basically told her you didn't believe her so you rang to check! 🤦‍♀️

See if you can get a travel high chair, or just feed the baby in the buggy/on your knee.

I know. It's embarrassing 😳

Original poster
Loopylambs · 31/12/2023 11:17

Sorry just to clarify . Bride said venue could not provide any high chairs at all . We contacted venue and they confirmed they had no high chairs but then agreed to purchase 3 for wedding and future events.

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chompargh · 31/12/2023 11:18

Loopylambs · 31/12/2023 11:17

Sorry just to clarify . Bride said venue could not provide any high chairs at all . We contacted venue and they confirmed they had no high chairs but then agreed to purchase 3 for wedding and future events.

For their wedding not for you

Haydenn · 31/12/2023 11:18

What do you expect the other parents to do? Maybe you should just do that?

BonnieIou · 31/12/2023 11:18

Can you take your own? It's shitty of the bride to know you've sorted 3 and she's allocated them elsewhere.

OrangeSlices998 · 31/12/2023 11:19

What a heinous crime, asking a venue to provide seat for babies. You absolute cow OP 🙄 I would have expected you to be given the highchair, if that’s not the case look at travel ones that attach to the chair?

BonnieIou · 31/12/2023 11:20

I know I can't believe the shitty childish comments you are getting, people have gone mad.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 31/12/2023 11:20

If there were only three and she knew that then she hasn't allocated you one, or if she didn't know and still hasn't, she is kind of saying your baby doesn't matter to her in guest terms.

If this was my wedding I would arrange for you to have a highchair, simple. Some people have really zero idea how to host. Imagine inviting someone and saying there is no seat for them, absurd.

SleepingStandingUp · 31/12/2023 11:21

Op whether you would have called or not aside, it is rather snarky to allocate them elsewhere unless your child's was of an age where they could sit alone. Obv yours can't but could it be the other babies are younger? How immediate family are you?

Is she allocating baby a seat and meal at all or just expecting her to eat off your lap off your plate?

WhateverMate · 31/12/2023 11:21

OP, is the baby even yours?

It's not clear.

snowlady4 · 31/12/2023 11:21

In what context did she say none were available? Did she mean you just need to bring your own?
Don't overthink it.. your one year old won't want the dinner at dinner time anyway!- chances are they'll (hopefully,) be asleep!
Enjoy the day and don't keep contacting the bride about this minor issue!- bring your own or just manage without one..it's only one meal and a relatively small part of the day to be honest.

KateyCuckoo · 31/12/2023 11:22

Gosh this reminds me of a hen's afternoon tea I went to. Another guest had contacted the venue and changed the menu for the children invited. I was so embarrassed on her behalf.

MrsDoylesDoily · 31/12/2023 11:23

Perhaps the highchairs have been given to babies younger than a year old?

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Loopylambs · 31/12/2023 11:24

Not my baby but I will be looking after as her Mother is bridesmaid and will be busy/ sitting at top table

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BonnieIou · 31/12/2023 11:24

KateyCuckoo · 31/12/2023 11:22

Gosh this reminds me of a hen's afternoon tea I went to. Another guest had contacted the venue and changed the menu for the children invited. I was so embarrassed on her behalf.

When in reality it's nothing like changing a menu, it's simply sorting a highchair out.

EmptyYoghurtPot · 31/12/2023 11:25

How close are you to the bride? I’d be a bit annoyed if some distant relation started phoning my wedding venue to be honest. Doesn’t everyone have a travel high chair? How old is baby?

DonnaBanana · 31/12/2023 11:27

Loopylambs · 31/12/2023 11:24

Not my baby but I will be looking after as her Mother is bridesmaid and will be busy/ sitting at top table

In that case you definitely need one. You are doing a huge favour to the wedding party! Why isn’t mum/bridesmaid getting involved in this?

EmptyYoghurtPot · 31/12/2023 11:27

Loopylambs · 31/12/2023 11:24

Not my baby but I will be looking after as her Mother is bridesmaid and will be busy/ sitting at top table

Did baby’s mum ask you to call the venue?

SecondUsername4me · 31/12/2023 11:27

So this isn't even your child? I think you are overstepping. Why didn't you just say to the baby's mum (bridesmaid) can she make sure there's a high chair at the table.

rubywoooooo · 31/12/2023 11:28

You’re overstepping.