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WIBU to think we should get the best room?

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TwoCoffeesPlease · 31/12/2023 09:21

Haven’t raised this and highly possibly I won’t as I don’t like confrontation especially not with friends at the expense of a good time but canvassing to see if my expectations are reasonable or not.

Going away for new years for two nights with a group of friends. Was originally supposed to be 3 couples and one single man but one of the couples has split up so it is now 2 couples and 2 single men.

Rooms available are:
1x single
1x twin
1x double
1x double with en suite

all in a lodge type thing.

I found the accommodation (which was not easy as there were various requirements that needed to be met), paid for it on my credit card (everyone has paid me back), have organised an activity for this evening for everyone and generally corralled everyone together to facilitate the trip.

AIBU to think the en suite room should be offered up to me and my DH? It is it fairer to flip a coin between the two couples?

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DitheringBlidiot · 31/12/2023 09:38

TwoCoffeesPlease · 31/12/2023 09:29

@Coconutter24 well it would be crazy for the single people to have the double en suite when one of the other options is a single room!

But they've paid the same amount as you, so why do you get the en-suite?

Bax765 · 31/12/2023 09:38

It's only 2 nights - just figure it out when you arrive! (Or try to get there first and unpack in the room you want)

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TwoCoffeesPlease · 31/12/2023 09:38

@JingleSnowmanTree i don’t think he HAS paid double. When I asked him about it was was told that she owed him loads of other money anyway so they were going to write the whole thing off…but that was a few weeks ago so don’t know if anything changed

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MistressWeatherwax1 · 31/12/2023 09:38

Our group always have the rule whoever books it on their card gets first choice as it's them taking the risk of anything gets damaged as the booking is in their name (even though we'd all pay for anything that accidently got damaged).

So yeah, as you've booked and organised I'd say you and DH get the en suite.

2024i · 31/12/2023 09:39

OP, out of interest do you think the others will arrive before you?

if so, you’ll have to sort this beforehand because otherwise they will have all their stuff in the en-suite by the time you get there, and it would be more awkward to ask them to move. They might have even christened the bed lol

Whereas letting know beforehand sets the expectations for everyone and is less drama though you’ll have to be explicit that you want the en-suite

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TwoCoffeesPlease · 31/12/2023 09:39

@DitheringBlidiot because it is a DOUBLE room

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TwoCoffeesPlease · 31/12/2023 09:40

@2024i we are driving in convoy so should theoretically arrive together

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JingleSnowmanTree · 31/12/2023 09:40

TwoCoffeesPlease · 31/12/2023 09:26

@MadamVastra perhaps that is the way!

No it's not because then you risk one of the singles having one of the doubles & a couple having the twin or single rooms.

you organised it, I wouldn't see it as something to offer you, I'd just assume you'd have the first choice of room.

bookfit24 · 31/12/2023 09:40

Completely irrelevant but also, how many other bathrooms are there (are four of them expected to share one).

2024i · 31/12/2023 09:41

Do you have a floor plan ie could you make a beeline for the exact room as soon as you get in?

EveryKneeShallBow · 31/12/2023 09:42

2024i · 31/12/2023 09:39

OP, out of interest do you think the others will arrive before you?

if so, you’ll have to sort this beforehand because otherwise they will have all their stuff in the en-suite by the time you get there, and it would be more awkward to ask them to move. They might have even christened the bed lol

Whereas letting know beforehand sets the expectations for everyone and is less drama though you’ll have to be explicit that you want the en-suite

In my experience it’s always those who arrive first that nab the best room. Some deliberately arrive early for this very reason.

Allinadayswork80 · 31/12/2023 09:43

In this scenario with my friends - the organiser would get the ES, however it’s made clear that this is pretty much used as a communal extra bathroom anyway (apart from during the night obvs). So people just use whichever one is free/preference. Maybe suggest that?

DitheringBlidiot · 31/12/2023 09:43

Presumably one couple was always going to have to take the twin room, so I think the person that paid for the single gets the single and everyone else draws straws.

Unless of course, they turn up and say "I'll take the twin"

Coolblur · 31/12/2023 09:43

So newly single guy has paid double then if ex still owes him loads of money?
Don't assume he'll be happy with a single bed, or indeed that the other couple want a double bed, some prefer twin beds. Either discuss it beforehand in the chat group, or get there first and claim the room you want. This isn't worth spoiling your holiday over.

JingleSnowmanTree · 31/12/2023 09:43

TwoCoffeesPlease · 31/12/2023 09:26

@Cmonluv we paid per person but it’s awkward because one of those people isn’t coming anymore (they were in the split up couple). I left them to sort out their own finances.

It was badly split in the first place, with so much difference between the 3 'couples' rooms. Which couple was going to have the twin room? It would have been better to split the cost by room type.

thecatsthecats · 31/12/2023 09:44

Depends how many bathrooms there are for sharing en suite.

It puts everyone out if there's a single person taking 50% of the available showers between 6 people.

Stopandlook · 31/12/2023 09:44

Stop worrying about the room and have a good time with your friends is my advice. Don’t sweat it!

Lemonyfuckit · 31/12/2023 09:46

Just arrange to arrive first OP that's what I would do Grin

I get it, I think you 'should' have the en suite. We do a big group trip sometimes with a large bunch of friends and the couple who does the most organising gets the best room, whoever gets there first actually reserves it for them. But I don't know what your friends are like, and also not sure the scenario where they 'offer' it to you would necessarily arise, so this runs the risk of slightly backfiring and therefore leaving you feeling resentful and spoil what should otherwise be a really fun get together. So I would just change travel plans - could put it down to something like you need to pick up the keys or something, arrange to definitely arrive first and just put your stuff in that room. Then yes if you care enough about it say 'you've put' the other couple in the other double (madness for the couples not to have the two doubles) and the two singles can figure the other two rooms out between them.

Alicewinn · 31/12/2023 09:48

Yep, you are totally entitled to the best room and I would be saying so or arriving first to nab it!!

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TwoCoffeesPlease · 31/12/2023 09:48

@Coolblur no that’s not right - they both paid separately for the trip with their own money. She owes him money for other things that have nothing to do with this trip.

Tbh the bank transfer came from her account so I am only assuming he paid his half to begin with!

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JingleSnowmanTree · 31/12/2023 09:48

Whataretheodds · 31/12/2023 09:27

Ok so unless he's now paying the same as the other single guy he gets the twin room

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@Whataretheodds I'd let him choose. He might be happier in the single room instead of having an empty bed where his partner should have been.

Ejismyf · 31/12/2023 09:51

Personally I wouldn't care for the sake of two days. I'd just be looking forward to two nights away with my friends and wouldn't be letting whether I go an ensuite overshadow it. If there's only one bathroom and one en suite surely youl need to let others use it anyway. Four people can't be expected to use the one bathroom whilst two have the sole use of one for showers etc. Wer just back a family holiday and the en suite shower wasn't ever warm anyway so all used the main shower.

JingleSnowmanTree · 31/12/2023 09:52

Coconutter24 · 31/12/2023 09:28

If everyone has paid the same amount then the flip of a coin should involve everyone not just the couples. Do you just want the en suite is that why you’re suggesting just the couples? The only fair way is everyone is included in coin flip

@Coconutter24 that would be daft, the couples could end up in the single/twin.

The half the couple should choose between the single/twin & the original single has the other. The couples have 2 paying people in each room so they get the double rooms as they're sharing.

Munchyseeds2 · 31/12/2023 09:53

Of course the couples get the double rooms - flip of a coin is the fairest way to sort it out..
I just wonder how you ever planned to sort it with 3 couples???

TheGoogleMum · 31/12/2023 09:53

"Is it OK if we take the en suite room? Thanks"

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