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To think there's too much left wing dissonance

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LefthandRight · 31/12/2023 00:19

Feminist but support women hating philosophies and cultures
LGBT friendly except for the L part
Want to make minorities feel safe except for the Jewish community
Believe in the NHS but go private when needed
Think we should continue atoning for colonialism but mention Germany and WW2 and its like....move on already
Hate unearned privilege but it's handy I'll be left a property
Applaud multiculturalism but seek out monoculturalism in my holidays
Avoid palm oil as it kills trees but I must have a Christmas tree
Eat vegan because factory farming is disgusting....except the stuff that goes into my rescue cat food
Believe women shouldn't kneel to the standards and demands of the patriarchy, but I still remove my body hair, its my choice after all

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itsgettingweird · 31/12/2023 10:04

pointythings · 31/12/2023 08:42

I think you're suffering from an extreme of black and white simplistic thinking, OP.

Feminist but support women hating philosophies and cultures
Feminism is more than just being anti trans - having watch this government make moves which disproportionately disadvantage women across the board, I'm prioritising the bigger picture.

LGBT friendly except for the L part
What does that even mean? That if you aren't 100% gender critical you are anti lesbians? What nonsense.
Want to make minorities feel safe except for the Jewish community
It's prefectly possible to criticise the actions of the Israeli government in Gaza and also oppose antisemitism. It's perfectly possible to utterly condemn what was done on 7/10 and also utterly condemn the wholesale killing of civilians in Gaza.
Believe in the NHS but go private when needed
If the NHS were in a fit state, I'd agree. It isn't, and if someone is in pain and facing a 2 year waiting list and can afford it, I don't see why they should suffer.
Think we should continue atoning for colonialism but mention Germany and WW2 and its like....move on already
I've never heard anyone say that. However, the legacy of colonialism is still affecting millions of people today in many ways - the rabid persecution of LGBT people in Uganda is but one example.
Hate unearned privilege but it's handy I'll be left a property
I agree with this one.
Applaud multiculturalism but seek out monoculturalism in my holidays
What does that even mean?
Avoid palm oil as it kills trees but I must have a Christmas tree
You have a point here. I don't have a Christmas tree.
Eat vegan because factory farming is disgusting....except the stuff that goes into my rescue cat food
So we should just euthanise all cats that don't have a home, or be banned from keeping cats? They're obligate carnivores and not everyone can afford super premium cat food.
Believe women shouldn't kneel to the standards and demands of the patriarchy, but I still remove my body hair, its my choice after all
This is where you've completely lost it. The whole point is that we should be allowed to look however we want - and that includes hair removal if that's what we're comfortable with.

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Walkingwashingmachine · 31/12/2023 10:07

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2023 09:52

Exactly.

It's somehow acceptable to be rampantly selfish if you're a Conservative but if you vote Labour or show sympathy with any left-wing cause you are expected to live a hair shirt existence giving half your income to Amnesty International or the Party and eschewing anything with a vague association with wealth. Any Labour voter or supporter of any left wing cause is considered a hypocrite if they aren't basically a communist.

God forbid you should ever drink champagne.

Not sure that's not just some trope that you've picked up from the Guardian. I think conservatism essentially (or as it should be) is the kinder way forward. Small state, lower corresponding taxation and proper support for those that need it. Encouraging everyone (if they are able) to make their own worthwhile lives and earn money through working(if they are able). Focus on your own lives and helping your locality. You will make a bigger positive difference if you're a smaller space. Rather than spreading yourself thinly and trying to cancel worldwide oil production or going on marches about another country and a religious war. None of which will make any difference or improve anyone's lives. Mind your own business (by that I mean your own life and the local area). Eg I am in the North East. I am not going to be going on any Palestinian marches because I like to spend my time doing something that is helpful. That's conservatism. In my opinion. And that's My Truth so therefore cannot be questioned.

itsgettingweird · 31/12/2023 10:09

Do you believe that TW should be allowed to compete in women’s sports?

This has changed massively in sport without government leadership. Most sports now have male/open and female categories and female is female sex at birth.

The issue is still banded about but my son has been competing internationally under male/open since September when the new policies came about in his sport.

itsgettingweird · 31/12/2023 10:11

LefthandRight · 31/12/2023 09:11

I see "monocultural holiday" has caused some confusion. I guess what I mean is you get people waxing lyrical over multiculturalism but when they go on holiday they want to have eg a 100% Italian experience in Italy, or a "taste of authentic France" and basically live like its the 50s in some kind of monocultural idyll

But that's plenty of people. I know those who vote both sides of the centre who want those things. It's just semantics really.

Walkingwashingmachine · 31/12/2023 10:11

Walkingwashingmachine · 31/12/2023 10:07

Not sure that's not just some trope that you've picked up from the Guardian. I think conservatism essentially (or as it should be) is the kinder way forward. Small state, lower corresponding taxation and proper support for those that need it. Encouraging everyone (if they are able) to make their own worthwhile lives and earn money through working(if they are able). Focus on your own lives and helping your locality. You will make a bigger positive difference if you're a smaller space. Rather than spreading yourself thinly and trying to cancel worldwide oil production or going on marches about another country and a religious war. None of which will make any difference or improve anyone's lives. Mind your own business (by that I mean your own life and the local area). Eg I am in the North East. I am not going to be going on any Palestinian marches because I like to spend my time doing something that is helpful. That's conservatism. In my opinion. And that's My Truth so therefore cannot be questioned.

I'd also like to say that is also the old left way. It's universal. People are people no matter what party you vote for. Conservatives with a small c aren't any more cruel than anyone else.

AwfullyWeeBillyBigchin · 31/12/2023 10:11

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · 31/12/2023 01:07

Not all of these opinions are ‘dissonance’ though, are they? I’m a vegetarian but my (rescue) cat is an obligate carnivore. I have to buy her meat or she will die. Of course there’s the argument that cats shouldn’t be pets, but she exists and needed someone to care for her. I do remove my body hair a lot of the time because I prefer my skin to be hair free - but I don’t think I - or anyone else - should dictate what do you with your leg hair. It’s even possible to condemn Hamas and 7/10 and also believe that innocent Palestinians shouldn’t have the shit bombed out of them in retaliation. It’s possible to think further than your own nose, OP! The world can be more complex than it might seem at first glance.

This ☝️ in spades.

Trying to pigeonhole people in to left or right is an exercise in foolishness.

TheKeatingFive · 31/12/2023 10:14

Part of the problem is this bizarre hierarchy of 'most to least oppressed' that some of the progressive left subscribe to these days. There appears to be no nuance or tailoring applied to this hierarchy at all and causes are championed according to perceived oppression levels.

We've seen this played out recently with groups whose oppression the left don't properly recognise and therefore have no concerns about firing under the bus. With women's spaces, trans rights apparently trump women's. In the Middle East, Arabs are the 'more oppressed' compared to Jews. The thinking, for some, appears to stop there. I'm not sure where this came from, it's incredibly simplistic and juvenile.

Alcyoneus · 31/12/2023 10:16

It is quite stark how the left displays the most noticeable forms of corruption, stealing from the poor, racism, sexism and the list goes on. it’s not even dissonance anymore, it’s satire.

The far left are the most corrupt, brazen thieves, stealing directly from the poor. Just google BLM and charity scandal. Frankly, you’d have to be stupid to donate to BLM knowing what goes on.

Out and out racism towards non-white people who dare to not lean to the left.

Disgusting misogyny and siding with misogynists and defending them. Dudes dressed up as women attacking gender critical women at rallies or threatening to attack them, inciting violence towards women. And that’s ok because the left does it?

Follow the science is another gem. Until the science tells you that biological sex is immutable.

The climate clowns bring some comedy to the dark goings on that that racists and misogynists indulge in. Tarquin turns up to a climate March, causes criminal damage, happens to be unlucky enough because the local mickey muse police force actually lock him up for a day that time. And he misses his flight to the Caribbean the next day when his family are off on their holidays.

COP28 in an oil state where all the world leaders flew in on private jet. Thousands of middle class attendees flew in for an holiday in the name of activism And the organizers were doing oil deals on the side and actually got caught doing so. You couldn’t make this shit up.

The list goes on and on and on and on.

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2023 10:18

@Walkingwashingmachine

Not sure that's not just some trope that you've picked up from the Guardian. I think conservatism essentially (or as it should be) is the kinder way forward.

You've just fallen into the trap of being like the subject of this thread. I don't read the Guardian - I won't have it in the house. And I have no problem with conservatism per se (though I intensely dislike the current flavour).

What I'm talking about is a set of assumptions that people make that if you are to espouse any left of centre views at all you have to be a) poor b) boring and c) sanctimonious. My point is that this is a stricture not extended to people on the right.

pointythings · 31/12/2023 10:19

It is quite stark how the left displays the most noticeable forms of corruption, stealing from the poor, racism, sexism and the list goes on. it’s not even dissonance anymore, it’s satire.

Has it escaped your notice that we have a right wing government who have been stealing from the poor for 14 years now? You go on about cognitive dissonance on the left but you haven't noticed the beam in your own eye.

CurlewKate · 31/12/2023 10:20

Incidentally, the very word "socialist" is a bit of a dog whistle. See also "communist" and "Marxist"

Halfemptyhalfling · 31/12/2023 10:22

Better to have a mosaic than right wing actions: giving away the country's assets to rich people at rock bottom prices whilst trashing the environment

AwfullyWeeBillyBigchin · 31/12/2023 10:22

LefthandRight · 31/12/2023 00:19

Feminist but support women hating philosophies and cultures
LGBT friendly except for the L part
Want to make minorities feel safe except for the Jewish community
Believe in the NHS but go private when needed
Think we should continue atoning for colonialism but mention Germany and WW2 and its like....move on already
Hate unearned privilege but it's handy I'll be left a property
Applaud multiculturalism but seek out monoculturalism in my holidays
Avoid palm oil as it kills trees but I must have a Christmas tree
Eat vegan because factory farming is disgusting....except the stuff that goes into my rescue cat food
Believe women shouldn't kneel to the standards and demands of the patriarchy, but I still remove my body hair, its my choice after all

Essentially you're presenting a false dichotomy. Left Vs Right is a scale, and within that scale are issues/ideals that also fall on a scale. Additionally it is possible to recognise problems that may seem contradictory.

For example, it is possible to recognise that what Hamas did was deplorable, but it is equally possible to recognise that in no way justified what Israel is now doing in Palestine.

Walkingwashingmachine · 31/12/2023 10:23

Thepeopleversuswork · 31/12/2023 10:18

@Walkingwashingmachine

Not sure that's not just some trope that you've picked up from the Guardian. I think conservatism essentially (or as it should be) is the kinder way forward.

You've just fallen into the trap of being like the subject of this thread. I don't read the Guardian - I won't have it in the house. And I have no problem with conservatism per se (though I intensely dislike the current flavour).

What I'm talking about is a set of assumptions that people make that if you are to espouse any left of centre views at all you have to be a) poor b) boring and c) sanctimonious. My point is that this is a stricture not extended to people on the right.

Ok I didn't realise there were traps. I just thought we were all having a chat.

I don't think the poor lefty applies any more actually (although sanctimonius does)That's why the Red Wall fell (will be extremely interesting to see what happens to it in the next election). I think the "left" if you can lump it all together these days as the mainstream media do, are more well-off graduates that live in cities and are fanatical about minority issues. Hence the current problem that many of us have as to which party to vote for as none of them represent the normal person minding their own business.

AwfullyWeeBillyBigchin · 31/12/2023 10:28

Follow the science is another gem. Until the science tells you that biological sex is immutable.

Yikes. You really seem to have drunk the koolaid 🤦‍♂️ picking the above section out, in particular, as science says no such thing 🤣

Your post reads like someone who either reads the Mail/Express/Sun, or surrounds themselves with people who do 👀

Froodwithatowel · 31/12/2023 10:30

TheKeatingFive · 31/12/2023 10:14

Part of the problem is this bizarre hierarchy of 'most to least oppressed' that some of the progressive left subscribe to these days. There appears to be no nuance or tailoring applied to this hierarchy at all and causes are championed according to perceived oppression levels.

We've seen this played out recently with groups whose oppression the left don't properly recognise and therefore have no concerns about firing under the bus. With women's spaces, trans rights apparently trump women's. In the Middle East, Arabs are the 'more oppressed' compared to Jews. The thinking, for some, appears to stop there. I'm not sure where this came from, it's incredibly simplistic and juvenile.

And the oppressed being championed had damned well better stay in their meek box being grateful and not voice anything inconvenient to their champion. When they do, suddenly the lid tends to come off and quite staggering racism, homophobia, religious intolerance and sexism pours everywhere.

Walkingwashingmachine · 31/12/2023 10:31

AwfullyWeeBillyBigchin · 31/12/2023 10:28

Follow the science is another gem. Until the science tells you that biological sex is immutable.

Yikes. You really seem to have drunk the koolaid 🤦‍♂️ picking the above section out, in particular, as science says no such thing 🤣

Your post reads like someone who either reads the Mail/Express/Sun, or surrounds themselves with people who do 👀

Continue explaining your thoughts disagreeing with sex being immutable please. Always much more useful to provide a bit of background and your workings as you how you reached that conclusion so we can all learn, rather than being rude about a poster's newspaper choice.

mollyfolk · 31/12/2023 10:32

LefthandRight · 31/12/2023 09:16

I think it's because if the NHS was our only option and was as fucked as it is now, we would see much more action and turmoil across society that could create change.
As it is those of us lucky enough to be able to go private can just bitch about the NHS while paying to get things sorted and saying "it's important to keep as a concept" and so nothing really changes for the people who don't actually have a choice

I kind of agree with you here. It’s a tricky one - a majority of people in the UK don’t have private healthcare but it’s likely that the ones in power do.

here in Ireland almost 50% of people have private healthcare creating a mad two tiered system that only works well for half the population and I give out about this all the time but also have private healthcare as I know it can save your life and your long term health here.

I’m not sure if the world is as black and white as you think. Most people can’t be neatly divided between left and right. Even if people agree multiculturalism is generally a good thing - your going to find lots of disagreements about what a successful multicultural society looks like in reality.

VanityDiesHard · 31/12/2023 10:41

kikisparks · 31/12/2023 08:24

Most left wing people aren’t vegan but there’s not a lot of dissonance between being against killing animals but feeding an obligate carnivore who exists with animals- the alternative is to starve/ kill the cat, which is not ethical either. It’s uncomfortable but it’s not the same as humans who can thrive on a plant based diet. Most vegans are however in favour of the end of all pet breeding, and lab grown meat could ultimately feed rescue cats.

I see far more dissonance between those horrified at the idea of killing a healthy dog but happily eat the bodies of pigs who screamed as they were gassed.

This human cannot 'thrive on a plant based diet'.

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 10:44

CurlewKate · 31/12/2023 09:49

@Walkingwashingmachine "Because people don't seem to think there's a contradiction
with using private education and healthcare as a socialist."

Don't they? Personally, I don't know anyone who is committed to a left wing ideology who does either of those things.

I do. Particularly health care.

daliesque · 31/12/2023 10:46

pillof · 31/12/2023 08:51

I think left-wing ideology is inherently contradictory, due to its tendencies towards idealism, magical thinking and unrealistic visions of utopia.

Right-wing ideology/conservatism is more honest and pragmatic. More in tune with reality and human nature, therefore less scope for the epic hypocrisy we see with left-wing thought.

Bollocks.

It's a straight choice at the ballot box, nothing to do with ideology.

Do we want to,vote back in this corrupt shower of Tory arseholes? No? Vote labour or vote tactically.

Most of,us choose whether we are right or left wing depending on which political party we want in power and will take the,good and bad,bits of that party in order to get them in govt.

CranfordScones · 31/12/2023 10:47

The near silence of the left on the treatment of Israeli women is almost deafening and certainly sickening.

The topics on which the Left doesn't speak up (and there are many) tells you much more about their true thinking.

Every woman should be concerned about this. Starmer wants everyone to believe that Labour has changed (but won't actually admit any of the faults of the past). He's adopted saying nothing as a core strategy.

My prediction is that the Labour manifesto will be paper-thin and very light on detail so as not to scare anyone. Ask yourself: what are they hiding?

TheKeatingFive · 31/12/2023 10:48

Yikes. You really seem to have drunk the koolaid 🤦‍♂️ picking the above section out, in particular, as science says no such thing 🤣

Well perhaps you can clear it up then. Why would changing gender (whatever that means, but we'll park that for now) give people access to opposite sex spaces?

BIossomtoes · 31/12/2023 10:49

My prediction is that the Labour manifesto will be paper-thin and very light on detail so as not to scare anyone. Ask yourself: what are they hiding?

My prediction is that it will make the Tories’ manifesto look like the Beano. This very serious crop of Labour MPs is very determined to get into power.

Luddite26 · 31/12/2023 10:54

I count myself as very left of centre and I have 4 teeth left on my bottom row I will soon have none (some strange part of long COVID/inflammation).
Do I stay looking like a Victorian hag or do I keep selling everything I have on vinted to pay for a set of false. No NHS dentist in our area for years now. Shifted all patients to private. And it's bloody painful till they drop out. What sort of hypocrite does this make me.
Also had a real Xmas tree yet again which I grew in my own garden and planted another in its place but those damn multi nationals dragging down and burning ancient forests.

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