@Walkingwashingmachine
I think the "left" if you can lump it all together these days as the mainstream media do, are more well-off graduates that live in cities and are fanatical about minority issues. Hence the current problem that many of us have as to which party to vote for as none of them represent the normal person minding their own business.
That's certainly true of a section of the left. There is still a rump of Labour voting people in what was called the "red wall", despite the disillusionment of recent years and the disaster that was Corbynism. Much more than Tories would have you believe. And the Tory press seeks to characterise all Labour voters as Islington-based champagne socialists which is not really accurate.
I share your sense of political homelessness as well. None of these parties really speaks for me.
My point is that there's always been a tendency that the Left has to adhere to a much stricter level of personal political "cleanliness" than the Right does. "Left wing" people are excoriated for, for example, sending their children to private school or drinking champagne or going on holiday in Tuscany (and other such tropes).
The Conservative movement is a much broader church but there are still some values which Conservatives are generally thought to espouse, one of which is "family values", yet Conservatives in practice hold up to these at roughly the same level as their more progressive counterparts. Tories seem no more to feel the need to keep their marriage vows or refrain from having children out of wedlock than Labour supporters do.
Yet you rarely hear people saying Tories are not authentic because they have had children out of wedlock or because they have been married multiple times.
I don't really have skin in this game but I do feel that this argument has always been rather one-sided and the Left, for all its faults, is subjected to a rather unfair set of judgements.