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Original poster

Not heard from mum or sister all day - someone talk me down?

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spiralingworry · 30/12/2023 20:50

I’m getting really worried and not sure what I can do. I speak to my mum several times a day, FaceTimed this morning. I’ve been trying to call her hourly since 2pm today and haven’t heard a peep. She was last on WhatsApp just before 2pm. She’s on her phone regularly so this is v out of character. Equally my sister is surgically attached to her phone and I can’t get hold of her either. I’ve spoken to an auntie who said she spoke to her at lunch and hasn’t heard from her since, and agrees it’s unusual for her not to be online.

for info, mum isn’t elderly or unwell or anything that would make her vulnerable. They live over an hour away and I’m home alone with a toddler. Is there anything else I can do? I’m starting to get to panic stations a bit and I know there will probably be a daft explanation… if something bad had happened, surely someone would know?

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spiralingworry · 30/12/2023 20:51

Forgot to say, phone is ringing and messages are being delivered so not a case of dead battery/no signal

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Forgotmylogindetails · 30/12/2023 20:51

I’m the same when mine don’t answer as their glued to theirs …

im sure there’s an explanation xxx

Tillybabs · 30/12/2023 20:52

Maybe they are out somewhere together?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 30/12/2023 20:52

It’s more likely than not that they’re fine.

Browncupboards · 30/12/2023 20:52

Out shopping together?

Popadomorbread · 30/12/2023 20:53

Could they be somewhere they can’t answer their phones, cinema or something?

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spiralingworry · 30/12/2023 20:53

so auntie said that she was out for lunch, likely with my sister and dad, but that was at lunchtime?

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Coyoacan · 30/12/2023 20:53

Maybe there's a problem with the service provider in that area

isthismylifenow · 30/12/2023 20:53

Are you mum and sister out together ?

Gawdimold · 30/12/2023 20:53

Cinema maybe

Mumof2NDers · 30/12/2023 20:54

Do you have the number of a relative or friend that lives by them that you could ask to just pop round?
Im the same if my mum doesn’t answer her phone. I immediately ring my sister to ask if she knows where mum is. Or my sister will ring me if she can’t reach mum.

isthismylifenow · 30/12/2023 20:54

Have you rang your dad?

randomstress · 30/12/2023 20:56

Is your dm housebound?
Does she never go to shops, cinema, out for a walk, a bite to eat etc.
Is the expectation she will be contactable instantaneous throughout the day?
It would seem unsurprising that a normal and well person might be out of contact for several hours in any given day.

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spiralingworry · 30/12/2023 20:57

Dad’s phone is switched off as it always is. No, my mum isn’t housebound but this is very out of character for her not to answer her phone for 7 hours on a Saturday.

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CarrotCake01 · 30/12/2023 20:57

You know, my phones been quirky lately. I don't suppose they're on O2?
My phone keeps dropping all service and won't connect to WiFi. Sometimes I notice my phone has been quiet for too long or I try to make a call and it won't work so I have to do a reset.
It's possible but I get why you're worried.

Do you know a neighbour or someone that could see if the lights are on or if the cars in the drive etc?

Tessisme · 30/12/2023 20:57

I would be worried too. No advice, but hope you hear from your mum soon.

Hiddenvoice · 30/12/2023 20:58

Do you know the neighbours number? Or anyone who lives close to them that you could ask to check in To see if they are okay?

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spiralingworry · 30/12/2023 20:58

She is on o2 actually, but I’m just weirded out that they’re both uncontactable for this length of time. I don’t know any of their neighbours, they haven’t lived where they are for very long so no one I can ask to check. I’m sure it’s fine, I’m just getting myself in a panic.

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Iknowtheyareusefulstorage · 30/12/2023 21:00

I hope your mind is put at rest soon - if anything had happened, I am sure someone would have contacted you by now - for example, I would imagine your dad would have been worried and phoned.

littleteapot86 · 30/12/2023 21:00

i'm with o2 and have had terrible reception for weeks. It's unlikely you're in Glasgow but one of the masts here is down.

CherrySocks · 30/12/2023 21:00

Maybe she left her phone at home by mistake?

mrsbyers · 30/12/2023 21:00

You could ring non urgent police and ask for a welfare check but first I’d check in their local area Facebook group and ask if people are having phone issues or try sending an email to sister

theconfidenceofwho · 30/12/2023 21:00

Deep breaths Op, Im sure they're fine (but do totally understand your worry!)

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spiralingworry · 30/12/2023 21:00

@littleteapot86 they’re in Fife, so not quite but I wonder if it’s something like that.

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