Out of interest, I wonder how the host would have reacted had OP said that she had recently become vegan, and so could she please ask her not to consume or provide any dairy whilst she was there?
I think the extremely short notice is the problem here, and her ‘drip feed’. She suggested an Indian takeaway, so of course OP envisaged eating an Indian takeaway meal that she liked. If the host had said at first that they could get a takeaway BUT it would have to be vegetarian, that would have enabled OP to make an informed choice or suggest an alternative.
Everyone saying they love veggie curry appears to be missing the point. The OP, doesn’t like it. She even ordered , paid for, and ate it and still doesn’t like it.
It doesn’t matter if everyone else in the blooming world loves it, because she doesn’t.
Yes, this entirely.
You are being ridiculous the veg in a meat curry tastes the same , it doesn't become inedible once there is no meat with it.
If you’re an omnivore – and having a planned rare treat – you will quite probably want meat AND accompaniments. I love a good carvery – most of which is delicious vegetables – but that doesn’t mean I’d want to just have the vegetables and no meat. I’d still enjoy it, but it wouldn’t have been the proper full meal that I’d been looking forward to (just as it wouldn’t have been if I’d somehow only been given meat and no vegetables).
It's perfectly fine if people choose to limit their own diets for whatever reason - nobody should try to force or coerce you to eat what you don't want to - but you can't be genuinely surprised if other people don't want to limit/tailor their own diets in the exact same way as you.