Men using Mumsnet

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Mumsnet was always a safe space to me, a community of women for women and recently I have noticed an influx of husbands on here.
Can't women have anything just for themselves?I t's getting on my nerves!
(I'm not talking about same sex marriage / partners and I believe in equality).

AINBU Men please seek alternative forms 😊
AIBU Men belong here 🙄

Better start your own forum then and start inspecting your member's genitals.

Well said Lily (other than the use of 'gender' rather than 'sex')

I'm appalled by the small-minded prejudiced posts from some women here.

I agree.

And whilst it is called 'Mumsnet', it's meant for both mums and dad's. I can't stand when hateful childless/child free people use the site to drop bitchy comments about how great their life choice has worked out and how shit babies/children are🙄.

I have no problem at all with those childfree/ childless who don't do this. I enjoy the diversity of people. But those bitter Betty's can F off.

I generally assume everyone is female here and enjoy that. When a man pops up, as long as he reads the room and no mansplaining, I don’t mind. More of them have been the mansplaining variety unfortunately, usually advertising themselves as ‘feminists’ 🙄

What I've noticed is that you don't very often see the men, for example, in general discussion, TV programmes, and recipes. However, relationships and dating threads they're all over them in comparatively large numbers explaining about the poor men's points of view and/or looking for dates.

See I don't get the problem with that.

If it's how they feel about kids and not having them, why does their opinion bother you?

Some people really don't like kids and that's ok 🤷‍♂️

It doesn't bother me at all, l know a lone widowed dad with three children , he needs all support he can get, this forum may be helpful for him.

You probably do see them a lot but perhaps their sex is more relevant to mention in some topics?

I mean if I was a Midwife I'd probably mention it on a thread about childbirth, but no so much in a thread about Coronation Street.

If it's how they feel about kids and not having them, why does their opinion bother you?

Exactly. If you're happy with your choice to have DC (as I am) why would either of us be bothered by someone else's view about children?

Your terminology is pretty disparaging too. 'Bitter Bettys'? Why are they bitter for articulating a different life choice?

If 'Bitter Bettys' bothered MNetters the site would be empty!

There are waaaaaaay more threads slagging off men and being disparaging about disabled people etc, than there are anti-child posts.

They don't always mention their sex @YabbaDabbaDooooo but they stand out a mile, especially the incels and the MRAs. They're fond of PMing people and derailing threads.

The usually can’t help themselves and are quick to point out that all shall be put right now we have a man’s opinion

I wouldn’t worry op there are too many intelligent women in this site to deal with them

and it’s not safe the prejudice hidden behind what is thought of clever discussions on here at times is shocking

It's the internet - best to assume that it isn't safe and that no one cares what you think.

I thought the comparison with Reddit by a PP was interesting - I've only been a user of Reddit for a short while and I'm sure it varies wildly between subs, but I've been struck by how positive it generally is. People seem mainly kind and unkind comments get heavily downvoted. I find Mumsnet much "meaner" for want of a better word - people seem to take pleasure in being vicious here sometimes.

Given that this forum is still predominantly female, and given how much it's constantly trolled, I'd say there's a very good chance there are more female trolls than male.

So how would you know if they're standing out a mile because they're male, or if they're standing out a mile because someone wants people to believe that's what they are?

It's the internet and it'll always be a head fuck 🤷‍♂️

I de-railed this thread slightly about stationery and I'm not a man. Not that it would matter if I was one.

As an aside, I've asked about reopening the stationery cupboard!

I honestly don't understand how I miss all these man hating posts.

What i really dislike is people using AITA? instead of AIBU?

Know your audience, this isn't Reddit!

I agree with this!

It's more the context. Moreso when someone posts something about really struggling with their newborn, really opening up about being on their knees. Someone will come along saying "this is exactly why I chose to be childfree".

It's VERY mean spirited and unhelpful, especially as the site was designed for parents. Why even post on that particular thread with a comment like that?

Bias probably.

For example you must have read really racist posts and then seen a few others defending them and saying they're not racist?

For you to be missing so many when there's such an abundance, it's very probably some sort of bias.

Yes, to do that specific thing is absolutely awful.

A bit like when someone is in pieces over their abusive husband and some twat pipes up with, "This has just reminded me why I love being single".

If we are banning men, I'd also like to ban the hard left wing, blue haired, tattoo brigade who have no intention of ever being a Mum.

Or the classic one when someone is talking about their clearly abusive parents and someone pipes up with "my mum died last year and I would do anything to have one more day with them so you should be nicer to your mum" when the mum has just done something really vile like assault them etc

What i really dislike is people using AITA? instead of AIBU?

Know your audience, this isn't Reddit!
I agree with this!

I suspect headings with AITA is going to be pretty normal on here before long.
I don't like it though.

It's the internet and it'll always be a head fuck 🤷‍♂️

Fair point!