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Moonshine5 · 2023-12-28T10:12:00+00:00

Mumsnet was always a *safe space* to me, a community of women for women and recently I have noticed an influx of husbands on here. Can't women have anything just for themselves?_I_ _t's getting on my nerves!_ (I'm not talking about same sex marriage / partners and I believe in equality). AINBU Men please seek alternative forms 😊 AIBU Men belong here 🙄

Neitheronethingnortheother · 28/12/2023 12:17

TheChippendenSpook · 28/12/2023 12:03

Funnily enough, I bought a pencil sharpener from a shop in the Trafford Centre, the other week and it's amazing! The only downside is that it doesn't catch the sharpenings.

Let's start a campaign for our own topic 🤣

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Yes let's do it! Pencil sharpener enthusiasts unite

ForTonightGodisaDJ · 28/12/2023 12:18

I personally don't think it's a problem. I don't think there's any issues been caused....that I know of. The few men that I've seen on here are polite and respectful. I sympathize though if you've had a worse experience?

SoupDragon · 28/12/2023 12:20

ErrolTheRednosedDragon · 28/12/2023 12:15

Funnily enough, I bought a pencil sharpener from a shop in the Trafford Centre, the other week and it's amazing! The only downside is that it doesn't catch the sharpenings.

Let's start a campaign for our own topic

There used to be a board called The Stationary Cupboard. Iirc it was mostly pen talk but I'm sure pencil sharpeners would have been on point.

It occasionally got used as a quiet hideaway for other discussions. I think MNHQ lost the key to it when they rationalised the boards a while ago,

You'd think it would be easy to find, what with it being stationary 🤣

ACynicalDad · 28/12/2023 12:21

I find the posts way more interesting and varied than a football form. I make sure it’s clear from my username that it’s clear I’m male but if I called my self yummymummy you’d have no idea, so I guess that’s fine. At times I’ve been thanked for a male perspective. This is not a particularly safe space.

fedupwithbeinghot · 28/12/2023 12:22

"Safe space"??? How can this be a safe space when you are just talking to 10000s of strangers? I think that's incredibly naive and rather dangerous

OneTC · 28/12/2023 12:25

It's the internet, statistically many of your trusted women's perspectives will be coming from men.

Stresa22 · 28/12/2023 12:30

Will no one think of PigletJohn?

WhateverMate · 28/12/2023 12:34

Stresa22 · 28/12/2023 12:30

Will no one think of PigletJohn?

Wouldn't it be scandalous if PigletJohn turned out to be female?! 🤣🤣🤣

LeonieSN93 · 28/12/2023 12:34

@MrsRobinsonsHandprints super, super hoping that you'll be able to provide me with some proof that I said child free people should be completely banned entirely on this site 🤣

If CF people want to use the feminism, travel, beauty etc boards then I fail to see why anyone would have a problem with that. But on the parenting board specifically it's a bit of a waste of time to converse with people who can only theorise about how to handle something (bedtime routines, screen time, etc) as opposed to people who can actually pull from their own experiences. And yet this hasn't stopped a lot of time wasters.

It's frustrating is all. And I welcome any argument that I'm somehow missing something from not wanting to engage with them, but you decided to just scream CUNT at me and nothing more so oh well 🤣

NashvilleQueen · 28/12/2023 12:35

I think the thread has been derailed by the casual use of 'safe space' which clearly doesn't fit anywhere on the internet but I don't disagree with the sentiment of the OP.

I like MN because the vast majority of posters are women and I think a female perspective tends to both resonate more with me and have greater nuance. To be honest I tend to skim over any post stated to be by a man on the assumption that I won't get anything useful from it. No doubt that's harsh on some but having read a number of recent threads where there's a stream of mansplaining posts (especially about police procedures and domestic abuse/rape) as well as their 'helpful' insight on all matters sex I just prefer to scroll past.

Brefugee · 28/12/2023 12:36

LilyMumsnet · 28/12/2023 12:09

Hi all

Popping by to clear something up. We promote our site as being "by parents, for parents" and we'd very much hope that included parents of both genders and of all ages. (It was just that, when we were choosing a name for the site, "parentsnet" didn't really trip off the tongue in the same kind of way.) And, actually, we do have a fair few members who are not parents at all, either because they are pregnant or hoping to become pregnant soon or just because, they are interested in our discussions and wish to reflect their own viewpoint.

"both sexes"

thank you

Bobbotgegrinch · 28/12/2023 12:36

I'm male and I've been here for 15 years. I'm a parent, it's a parenting site with the tagline "By parents, for parents"

I'm not going anywhere, this place is an invaluable tool and I'm a better father and partner because of it.

I'll generally steer clear of threads where my input probably wouldn't be appreciated and on the two occasions I've got it wrong and been told by an OP that they don't want a man's opinion, I've apologised and butted straight out.

IvorTheEngineDriver · 28/12/2023 12:37

No public site which allows anonymous posting is a "safe space".

IMustDoMoreExercise · 28/12/2023 12:38

I would also prefer it if it was only women posting but it would be impossible to police unless everyone had to register with ID (and them what happens with trans people?)

But I am happy that men read MN as hopefully they will learn how to behave if they are so inclined so that their partners don't leave them.

TheChippendenSpook · 28/12/2023 12:43

ErrolTheRednosedDragon · 28/12/2023 12:15

Funnily enough, I bought a pencil sharpener from a shop in the Trafford Centre, the other week and it's amazing! The only downside is that it doesn't catch the sharpenings.

Let's start a campaign for our own topic

There used to be a board called The Stationary Cupboard. Iirc it was mostly pen talk but I'm sure pencil sharpeners would have been on point.

It occasionally got used as a quiet hideaway for other discussions. I think MNHQ lost the key to it when they rationalised the boards a while ago,

I thought there was one! Sad times now that it is no more.

OMGitsnotgood · 28/12/2023 12:55

I tend to skim over any post stated to be by a man on the assumption that I won't get anything useful from it.

That is a shockingly small minded view

Brefugee · 28/12/2023 12:57

OTOH we know from experience that many many men find it totally reasonable to ignore women all the time.

YabbaDabbaDooooo · 28/12/2023 12:58

NashvilleQueen · 28/12/2023 12:35

I think the thread has been derailed by the casual use of 'safe space' which clearly doesn't fit anywhere on the internet but I don't disagree with the sentiment of the OP.

I like MN because the vast majority of posters are women and I think a female perspective tends to both resonate more with me and have greater nuance. To be honest I tend to skim over any post stated to be by a man on the assumption that I won't get anything useful from it. No doubt that's harsh on some but having read a number of recent threads where there's a stream of mansplaining posts (especially about police procedures and domestic abuse/rape) as well as their 'helpful' insight on all matters sex I just prefer to scroll past.

To be honest I tend to skim over any post stated to be by a man on the assumption that I won't get anything useful from it.

Yet no doubt you've got lots of useful things from male posts, they just haven't stated their sex 🤷‍♂️

You're the very epitome of prejudiced.

In the same way if someone was racist and stated they'd scroll past any posts made by a black person or a traveller, on the assumption they wouldn't get anything useful from them, they'd probably be shocked to find out they unknowingly had.

Shocking but this thread makes it clear they walk among us.

Brefugee · 28/12/2023 13:04

and again: we KNOW there are racists who will do exactly that in RL. Ignore things that black women say. Or women. Or travellers. Or someone from Bangladesh, China, the USA.

The only difference here is people have to identify as something before anyone else knows.

Fieldofbrokenpromises · 28/12/2023 13:05

happy that men read MN as hopefully they will learn how to behave

😂

Shiningout · 28/12/2023 13:07

The sex board is full of blokes which I find a bit seedy, so I just don't really post on there. As long as men on here are respectful then I don't really care about them posting, a lot of the women on here are awful to people so it's not always the most supportive place anyway.

CommonSenze · 28/12/2023 13:10

Fieldofbrokenpromises · 28/12/2023 13:05

happy that men read MN as hopefully they will learn how to behave

😂

Pretty sure the ones who need to are exactly the men who would never visit.

WhateverMate · 28/12/2023 13:12

Brefugee · 28/12/2023 13:04

and again: we KNOW there are racists who will do exactly that in RL. Ignore things that black women say. Or women. Or travellers. Or someone from Bangladesh, China, the USA.

The only difference here is people have to identify as something before anyone else knows.

Well yes, there are cunts everywhere including Mumsnet.

It takes a special type of cowardly cunt though to be sexist/racist/ableist from behind a screen.

Original poster

Moonshine5 · 28/12/2023 13:32

Thanks for all your responses, I know in my heart of hearts when I post on Mumsnet I'm looking for communication from women otherwise I would be on parentsmail, etc. Peace out one and all.

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JingleSnowmanTree · 28/12/2023 13:33

WhateverMate · 28/12/2023 11:00

@LeonieSN93 childfree MNetters don't come with a big red warning label.

You've probably had just as much meaningful advice from them without knowing they're childfree.

The same as the OP has probably had many a meaningful chat with men on here without knowing, because it's irrelevant.

@LeonieSN93

@WhateverMate

explained it nicely & politely.

ive been on MN since it first started. I don't have children because I was unable to have them. Not because I didn't want them.

im not boring everyone else with my life story, but you are being offensive.