Men using Mumsnet

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Mumsnet was always a safe space to me, a community of women for women and recently I have noticed an influx of husbands on here.
Can't women have anything just for themselves?I t's getting on my nerves!
(I'm not talking about same sex marriage / partners and I believe in equality).

AINBU Men please seek alternative forms 😊
AIBU Men belong here 🙄

There aren’t many men on here but I am glad there are some.

1- because it’s sometimes nice to hear a male’s POV

And 2 - because some posters are man haters and there’s nothing I enjoy more than when an OP is getting lots of support saying their DP is awful, abuse and they should LTB - only to find out that the OP is a man and he’s talking about his wife.
They either go quiet or try and turn it around so it’s still his fault.

Hi, I am one of the few you are talking about - yes I am a man, and yes I use Mumsnet. I am a stay at home hubby and initially found Mumsnet when searching for some housekeeping tips and tricks. I then found the mental health boards, and having bipolar disorder and now being quite stable, I enjoyed passing on my own experiences to others who were struggling too. Inevitably I have progressed to participating in the more gossip content, perhaps because I am a gossip at heart. Sorry if my presence offends some, but nothing sinister is intended, and there isn't a male equivalent of this type of chat, I fortunately. 🙃

You mean the thread where you also bitched at the parent who said being a carer was harder than being a parent because she didn't agree with you?

Sounds like what you want is forum for parents who only think like you, other parents need not apply

I touched a nerve then did I? 🤣

Still, your response is pretty typical of the CFs on here so thanks for providing a pretty good example of what I'm talking about.

It’s an anonymous forum. All the posters could be men.

Yeah that really confused me as well? 🤔

So men are welcome to post as long as they're in a relationship with another man and not a woman?

So what about bisexual men? Are they welcome to post, or do they have to de-register if they split from a male partner and start dating a woman?

There are definitely some posters claiming to be women/men when they’re not.

I think it's more likely the OP has "kindly" decided that if two women are in a relationship they are both free to post here and they don't have to decided which one should take the "male" role...

Don't be ridiculous. I've been here since 2009 and there have always been male posters.

I'm female and I agree with him TBH. The whole idea of a 'safe space' is pretty ludicrous anyway, and even if it wasn't, women are no 'safer' or less offensive than men.

Not at all, I just think your post is lacking in thought and intelligence. It is clear you are not that bright and your post is clearly a reflection of that.

YABU.

Despite the name, MN is, and always has been 'By parents, for parents'. And in fact it's open to non parents as well. There are specific boards which make this clear but of course everyone is welcome on any topic provided they post appropriately within talk guidelines.

It's certainly absolutely appropriate for fathers to be present on a parenting site!

What's unusual and good about MN is that it's majority female.

Jeezus, it's like a 1970s sitcom! 🙈

I do get what you're saying but it doesn't bother Me at all, DH isn't on here but he regularly asks me to share what I'm reading about etc..

Some of those men are going to be single dads due to loss or break up and are looking for advice.

And the internet is in no way a 'safe space'.

YABU.

I don’t even know where to start with unpacking that.

Why do you think that what I said = men are terrible? Do you think the gender pay gap is anti men too? Have you looked at your attitude to women? I’m assuming you’re female. There’s a lot on internalised misogyny there.

Yabu

Have to say I agree with @LeonieSN93 i cannot understand why child free people would come to a forum entitled MUMS-net and bitch about kids!

Especially if their DWs ever visit the LTB Relationship Forum

Why do you think it’s alright to call someone dim? Whether you agree with it or not, whether she’s right or not, it’s hardly that mind blowing a notion to say that, in the main, women find safety with other women. That’s clearly what she meant.

Of course it’s a funny thing to say about a site like MN because there are so many caustic wankers on here. As your post highlighted very well.

OP, I do agree with you. The site is very obviously for women. That same obviousness also extends to it being a site about childrearing. There’ll always be those people that insist on occupying - nay, commandeering - spaces that really aren’t for them though. I take their irrelevant responses on female/mothering matters with a hefty pinch of salt so I’d say you ought to do the same. Take what you need from here and move along with real life.

was literally populated almost exclusively by women until relatively recently.

Untrue. I've been on here donkeys years and there have always been quite a few male posters.

I don't see as many old fashioned misogynists lecturing or 'just asking questions' on the feminism board as there were in the past.

Good lord, get over yourself really. The tone of your sexism is evident all the way through your post.
It’s an online anonymous forum not a changing room. 🙄 If you don’t like it, ignore and read on. MN will always be predominantly female based. We’re not at risk of a male takeover. It’s good that men can get perspective and advice from reading through threads if it benefits the females in their lives. What exactly is it about men having access to Mumsnet that you’re so dead against? You’ve not given any context or reason to your post other than just to whinge for the sake of it. Anyone posting offensive comments, derailing threads or breaking MN guidelines gets their comments removed anyway. Women are guilty of this every single day.

I imagine because kids are part of everyone's life in one way or another?

It's not that hard to fathom.