To think they should have cancelled?

[Madwife123]

We invite DSIL and family for Christmas every year. They arrive Christmas Eve morning and stay until Boxing Day as they travel 3 hours to us.

We both have children, similar age and it works well for us as we have the bigger house to put them up and they enjoy not having the cooking etc.

Anyway, they arrived this morning as planned but nearly 2 hours late. Apologised for being late and explained they had to keep pulling over as nephew has a vomiting bug and was being sick.

Why on earth did they still come!!

I have expressed I’m not happy they still came and their response was, they have no Xmas food in as they had planned to come to us and they can’t just cancel Christmas.

I think it’s really selfish to come and infect all my household and am pretty pissed off. Partner thinks I’m overreacting and it will be fine.

You would soon change your mind in a few days when you all catch it

Also agree with this. We're seeing this in our area, too.

Your SIL and BIL are c*nts, and I do not use that word lightly. Ever.

They could have shopped today , disgusting behaviour .

At the VERY least they should have alerted you before they left. But probably knowing you would say know they chose not to as it’s much harder to say no after they’ve driven 3 hours!

Your partner is an idiot too

What appalling behaviour to not only drag a vomiting child in a car for hours but then turn up at someone’s house and expect to stay.

Get your DP to send them packing to the nearest Premier Inn etc. I’d never host them again for Christmas either. Their Christmas doesn’t trump yours.

I can't believe they put a sick child in the car for 3-5hrs and think that's ok. bIL could have easily gone to supermarket today to pull together food for then. Presume they have presents sorted so it's really a no brainer that they should have cancelled.

Bloody hell that's awful.

Can you confirm them all to bedrooms?

The shops are still open they could have got some good and stayed home.

Well if your DH thinks it's fine then when your DCs come down with it he can look after them, can't he (and I don't care if he's also ill at the same time).

I'd tell them they need to leave. Harsh but it was their choice to travel without discussing it with you first.

OP’s family are possibly already infected. Why send the grimsters to the Premier Inn, where they would infect the cleaning staff and probably all the other guests as they are undoubtedly the type who would let their virus ridden child loose on the breakfast buffet?

If they have to go anywhere, it should be home without stopping anywhere they might ruin anyone else’s Christmas holiday.

How selfish of them. Send them off home!

Trust me if I knew beforehand I would have told them not to come!

They were already through the door before I knew anything about it and as partner doesn’t agree that they are selfish idiots and wants them to stay, and this is DP’s sister, I can’t really send them packing. Plus poor nephew would have ANOTHER 3 hour journey home vomiting.

I fully expect we’ve already been exposed to it and will all be ill. There will be strong words had after this and I will NOT be inviting them next year! I literally can’t relax now, feel like I’m just waiting for the inevitable of us all coming down with it.

Oh that is properly rubbish and selfish and she had time to go to the super market today and buy the basics for Christmas lunch. What the actual fuck does she think is going to happen if her and her husband start vomiting in your house?? That you’ll look after their vomity kids? Do you have enough bathrooms that you can separate your family adm theirs as they are likely infectious now and you don’t want to share a bathroom.

but fucking hell, she shouldn’t have come or at least given you the choice. He’s infectious for 48hours still, that’s if they all don’t start spewing.

I would be sending them home

That’s horrible.
I literally can’t believe that people are like this! It’s so selfish but I do know one or two people who are the same and it drives me crazy!

Completely unacceptable. Shops are open and full of food. They should have stayed home to not spread it, and also to avoid their poor child being dragged on a long car journey when he should have been at home being looked after.

That's terrible! Tell them to go home as you are a vulnerable household and are feeling a bit Peaky yourself😓

Make up some things ready for if you all come down with it. SIL and your DH understands if another one of them starts vomiting they leave, even if it takes a car 8 hours and full of spew, you are not looking after them. Agree no more hosting. Ask DH is he going to look after them when they get ill?

hopefully you’ll have Christmas morning and Christmas lunch first.

but bloody hell that’s shit. And I didn’t mean that!

They 100% should have cancelled - I've had this happen from family before and it was incredibly poor form

You're not overreacting..... the rest of their family is probably infected and then it will come along to your family

Unbelievable. I would be fuming and not even make an attempt to hide it either. They will all catch it having been stuck in the car with the vomiting child for that long If it’s any type of contagious thing and it’s probably already passed to at least one of your family.
Who drags their sick child out in the car for 3 hours Christmas or not, terrible terrible parenting. Poor kid.

If BIL and SIL become ill during their stay, how are they planning to get back home again? They must not think they'll catch it. Or possibly they're incredibly stupid.

@Moonshine5 The whole family has been exposed to the bug both prior and during the car journey. They’re likely all carrying it now and will become ill in the next 24-48 hours.

Then the OP’s family will go down with it. It was incredibly selfish not to stay at home.

That is some weapons-grade selfishness. I would be livid.

Your husband sounds a bit pathetic tbh.

I feel really sorry for the little boy, what an awful car journey for him.