To think they should have cancelled?

[Madwife123]

We invite DSIL and family for Christmas every year. They arrive Christmas Eve morning and stay until Boxing Day as they travel 3 hours to us.

We both have children, similar age and it works well for us as we have the bigger house to put them up and they enjoy not having the cooking etc.

Anyway, they arrived this morning as planned but nearly 2 hours late. Apologised for being late and explained they had to keep pulling over as nephew has a vomiting bug and was being sick.

Why on earth did they still come!!

I have expressed I’m not happy they still came and their response was, they have no Xmas food in as they had planned to come to us and they can’t just cancel Christmas.

I think it’s really selfish to come and infect all my household and am pretty pissed off. Partner thinks I’m overreacting and it will be fine.

As you can't get rid of them now, I'd be confining the sick child to their room until 48hrs clear and ideally confine them to their own bathroom/toilet if you have more than one. Give SIL all the cleaning products and make sure to religiously clean door handles etc. Keep your own children away and I'd be trying to get out of the house as much as possible to limit risk of infection, leave DP at home to deal with SIL.

Your dp needs to grow some balls and tell his sister to go home and how cross he is that she has possibly given you all a sickness bug

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Selfish morons.

Totally selfish! I'd be fuming!

One Xmas we went to see some of my DHs family on Boxing Day. A bit of a tradition but not a biggie. We always took my mum with us, who was very elderly. This particular year after we had arrived and the kids were playing with the little one ( about 1 years old) after about 30 minutes we were then told the little one had been ill with D&V!!! I was so pissed off. Obviously one by one we all came down with this bug including my mum who was ill for days! I will never understand why they didn't just cancel us!

I would be absolutely fuming!!!! Hopefully DP gets it , then he might change his mind!

I was in my surgery on friday. Saw little ones with runny noses ,coughs ,flu ,diarrhoea and an adult with COVID !!
I hope the world doesnt crash !!😂

They should at least have given you the choice.

I would be LIVID op, and as an emetophobe, I would be riddled with anxiety. This would definitely ruin my Christmas and probably theirs too because I am incapable of socialising normally in these situations.

I have come a long way with my emetophobia as I can now cope with people being sick e.g., through too much booze but a sickness bug in my house is my worst nightmare.

Do they honestly think you are going to be sitting around the table playing monopoly while they are actively shedding norovirus into the air? There is no way I would have allowed them to cross the threshold, especially not at Christmas!!

@Madwife123 make sure you fully ventilate the house and open every window! If they feel cold then tough sh*t!!

If they've spent 3 hours in the car with him and its contagious then they've likely caught it themselves so you need to ventilate the entire house and ideally keep them in a different room!

I'd be feeding them Xmas Dinner on a tray upstairs!

I’d be LIVID and making it clear DH HAS to tell them to leave! He’s being a prick too by making out it’s not a big deal. Let me guess it won’t be him off and cleaning up child sick and poo will it? It will all fall on you? I’m raging on your behalf and wouldn’t be able to hide it, Id want them GONE. I’d never ever invite them again and that’s on them. Trust is broken. Ffs they are so selfish! And their excuse is shit as I just did my Christmas shop!

Also OP norovirus landed me and and my toddler in the hospital very very unwell last time we had it! Why is your DH not protecting your children?!

What on earth is your point? You CHOSE that. OP didn’t choose these selfish pricks to be in her home.

OP can you go elsewhere? To your family? I’m so fucked off on your behalf and I’d be seeing red with my partner too! Wtaf is wrong with him?!

What a selfish decision. Poor boy must have felt awful in the car.

YaNBU

This is my idea of hell (emetaphobic).
It's Christmas Eve, they could stayed at home, got food from shops that are still open and you could have had a post-Christmas get together.
Being ill in someone else's hone is horrid, own bed and bathroom is much comfy.

I feel for you. I'd not relax at all.

Jesus christ, high chance both the adults will be harbouring it too and are about to come down with it.

They were incredibly selfish to come to you and to have taken a sick child in a car for so long when he should have been in bed.

They should have sucked it up and had a takeaway for christmas.

Heck there was still time to go to the supermarket and get things for Christmas dinner today.

Those aren’t as miserable as a severe vomiting bug.
There’s a reason people are asked to stay away from others with suspected Norovirus type illness.
Especially hospitals.
No one wants D&V , especially not over Christmas when they have to cook &c.

It is very unreasonable for them to do this to a) their child and b) your family. Had they called early in the morning and warned you, then you could have saved them the bother of travelling and yourselves the trauma of accomodating sick guests. The morning they spent travelling could easily have been spent getting food without sick child in tow

I am very panicky and anxious about vomiting, and while I still say they are very very unreasonable for not cancelling, its not a forgone conclusion that everyone will be ill. My DC have had many a sick bug that neither DH or I caught.

What selfish twats

Super inconsiderate of them, keep the sick kid segregated as much as possible and ideally tell them to go home

@Dontsayanything I was in my surgery on friday. Saw little ones with runny noses ,coughs ,flu ,diarrhoea and an adult with COVID !!
I hope the world doesnt crash !!😂

What on earth do you mean by this??

There is a massive difference between spending a short time in a GP surgery and someone spending 3 days in your house actively vomiting. Not to mention that it is likely that the ILs are already incubating the illness as they have been previously expose.

It is immensely selfish of them to have come, terrible parenting on their part to make an unwell child suffer in that way and if my partner complained about me sending them away he would going home to their house with them.

I’ll be honest even being dh’s sister I’d of told
her to piss off. He could have gone with her to catch the bug too if he wanted.

Its a complete lack of care for their own child to of dragged him out like that and zero respect for you and your children to bring such a bug to your house.

very selfish they could have gone out today and got some basics its jsut a roast dinner essentially

Congratulations on your christmas present xx