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AIBU about ds main present

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 11:20

My DS who is 4 mentioned he wanted a bike a month or two ago. My parents said they would get him one for Xmas. I said ok.

Fast forward to December he met Santa and told Santa he wanted a bike for Xmas even though he hadn't talked about it since the first time in say October

Today all he's talking about is how Santa is bringing him a bike tomorrow

My parents are coming to ours for dinner and they said they will bring the bike with them late morning. I've asked them could we not have it now for him to walk downstairs in the morning. They said no as they want to be the one to give it to him.

For context ds only has a few things from Santa and the rest he knows are from other people. I've offer to swap the value of the bike in presents we have for him. My mum lost it with me and said they want to see his face when he gets it

I'm annoyed. Who's right?

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JanglingJack · 24/12/2023 18:25

I don't think you are unreasonable. If I'd bought my granddaughter main present, I'd want her to see it first thing. That's the magic of Christmas and Santa came! It's all a bit selfish this - I bought it, therefore... I'd be happy just to see her face when she tells me Santa brought me a bike!!

Are they even going to wrap it? Well not wrap but at least some bows or something.

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 18:34

@howdoesyourgardengrowinmay it's my sons fantasies but thank you all the same

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 18:35

Gnomegnomegnome · 24/12/2023 17:55

One day you’ll look back on this and laugh at yourself

So wise aren't you

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 18:36

@Bumblebeestiltskin yes it is a gift from my parents but they have told them Santa is bringing it for him but delivering it to their house so actually they don't want credit either

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Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter · 24/12/2023 18:43

ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 11:25

I don't want any credit for the bike! It's a gift from Santa not me

It's not from Santa though, it's from your parents.

DappledThings · 24/12/2023 18:46

ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 18:36

@Bumblebeestiltskin yes it is a gift from my parents but they have told them Santa is bringing it for him but delivering it to their house so actually they don't want credit either

People really do like to overcomplicate Christmas.

howdoesyourgardengrowinmay · 24/12/2023 18:50

ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 18:34

@howdoesyourgardengrowinmay it's my sons fantasies but thank you all the same

But you created the mad fantasies.

Good luck with the teenage years 😆

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 18:50

@Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter for the 10th time... my parents have told my son the bike will be from Santa. Only he is delivering to their house not his

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 18:51

@howdoesyourgardengrowinmay aww thank you. Luckily I have a teenager who is absolutely fine and doesn't believe in Santa by the way.

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Rubyupbeat · 24/12/2023 18:55

What we used to fo is say Santa knew Nan or aunt had already bought it so he brought other presents.

howdoesyourgardengrowinmay · 24/12/2023 18:58

ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 18:51

@howdoesyourgardengrowinmay aww thank you. Luckily I have a teenager who is absolutely fine and doesn't believe in Santa by the way.

Phew, good to see you have it all under control. 'Santa' will be relieved.

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 19:09

@howdoesyourgardengrowinmay I know! Honestly I surprise myself

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IAmAnIdiot123 · 24/12/2023 19:25

Santa just does stockings here and this is why.

Good luck op! I'm sure your ds won't care once he's stuck into his other gifts and it will be a nice surprise when your parents get there in the afternoon.

My 3 year old son told me he wanted earrings and holes for Christmas as he has taken a liking to mine. Needless to say, santa ain't bringing a piercing gun.

Loafbeginsat60 · 24/12/2023 19:38

ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 11:25

I don't want any credit for the bike! It's a gift from Santa not me

No it's not. It's from his grandparents

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 19:48

@Loafbeginsat60 my parents have told him Santa is bringing jt

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ivfbabymomma1 · 24/12/2023 19:48

IAmAnIdiot123 · 24/12/2023 19:25

Santa just does stockings here and this is why.

Good luck op! I'm sure your ds won't care once he's stuck into his other gifts and it will be a nice surprise when your parents get there in the afternoon.

My 3 year old son told me he wanted earrings and holes for Christmas as he has taken a liking to mine. Needless to say, santa ain't bringing a piercing gun.

🤣🤣

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ITSSSSCHRISTMASSS · 24/12/2023 19:58

macaronicheezepleeze · 24/12/2023 13:11

My 2 year old has asked Santa for a ride on fire engine. He has talked about it all December. When you ask him what he wants from Santa he says "big fire engine" without fail every time.

My parents bought it for him and wrapped it in Santa wrapping paper with a message from Santa on it and snuck it to our house last night.

They don't care that they won't be there to see him get it on Christmas morning. We will take photos of him opening it and they are simply overjoyed to be part of the magic for him. They have some other little presents for him to open when we visit their house later on.

I think you're not being unreasonable but I would simply tell your son that Santa knew his gran and grandad were getting him the bike so he sent all these other presents instead. Maybe make a card from Santa with a picture of a bike on it that says something along the lines of there being a big surprise to come later today.

And next year don't let anyone else buy his request to Santa 🎅🏻

Your DS would love it around here, our local fire station dose a Santa experience, Santa arrives in a fire truck, all the kids love it and all the proceeds go to charity.

mottytotty · 24/12/2023 21:02

ITSSSSCHRISTMASSS · 24/12/2023 12:42

Agree, grown ups complaining they won’t get the credit for gift giving is ridiculous and childish.

When my DDs were younger my in-laws always made sure that the presents they bought were at our house in time for Christmas morning even though they live over an hour away. They would turn up later with a few small gifts, they never ever wanted credit for everything else they bought to make sure our DDs had everything on their Santa lists. In the early days we would never have been able to get the main Santa gifts if it wasn’t for my in-laws.

My parents, ones a narcissist the other an enabler and it was all about them having credit, which is why I never ever told them what my DDs wanted from Santa as it would be comments about how much better than Santa they were or they would suddenly tell us Christmas Day they decided not to get what my DDs wanted.

I think your parents are being childish @ivfbabymomma1 , but there isn’t much you can do, just remember in future to make sure you manage the Santa lists. I’d tell DS Christmas morning (if he asks) that there are still presents to come. We’ve always done the whole Santa and families work together thing, so it’s not over yet.

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They’re not Santa gifts, they’re gifts from the grandparents.

mondaytosunday · 24/12/2023 23:26

He asked Santa for the bike but Santa knew he was getting it from his grandparents so got him something else. Really overthinking this - surely most kids ask Santa for things they are not realistically going to get? And he IS getting it!

Terrrence · 24/12/2023 23:35

But they bought the bike. You can't put gifts from other people in the Santa pile.

VanityDiesHard · 24/12/2023 23:58

Fancycheese · 24/12/2023 12:31

I seem to be in the minority here, but I think your mother is being extremely selfish and childish. In future years just try and lock in the Santa present earlier!

I'm right there with you. The grandparents clearly want to be seen to be being generous, rather than actually being generous IYSWIM. I think they are being really petty!

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ivfbabymomma1 · 25/12/2023 18:30

A happy outcome.

Merry Xmas everyone

AIBU about ds main present
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JanglingJack · 25/12/2023 23:28

Ah that's lovely OP.

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ivfbabymomma1 · 26/12/2023 19:00

JanglingJack · 25/12/2023 23:28

Ah that's lovely OP.

Thank you :) x

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