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Sisters nicknames for DD

175 replies

Joolea · 20/12/2023 13:59

Sister has called DD “meatloaf” since she was a few months old. They have a very close relationship and DD absolutely adores her. Sister kindly does a lot of our childcare too (by choice, I’ve never asked her to).

Anyway I asked her to stop calling her meatloaf and the numerous variations of it (meat, meaty, bread loaf, dominoes, nut loaf etc etc) after a bit because it wasn’t exactly a compliment but DD was so upset that her auntie had stopped calling her “their” special names that it ended up carrying on.

Now DD started school in September and sister kindly picks her up for me 4 days a week. Last week a teacher took me aside at home time and asked if I was aware of the names my sister calls DD. I said I was and that I didn’t like it but DD gets upset when she stops. Teacher replied “ok, as long as you’re aware”. With a face on.

Now I feel awful like I’m allowing my DD to be called mean names but DD likes them!!

WIBU to put a stop to it knowing that DD will be upset?

ps. name change as very outing to anyone that knows us!

OP posts:
Pinkpinkplonk · 20/12/2023 14:00

Who’s the teacher to judge if she’s happy!

BlueberryVelvet · 20/12/2023 14:01

Good lord is everything offensive nowadays?

Your DD will be fine, everything will be fine, it’s a bonding thing for them and your DD has already shown her feelings about it.

Sirzy · 20/12/2023 14:01

your daughter is happy that’s what matters

EmotionSickness · 20/12/2023 14:02

I think that’s really odd of the teacher 😕 Meatloaf might have some negative connotations but it’s not exactly offensive if your daughter doesn’t mind!

Sugarfree23 · 20/12/2023 14:03

It's only mean if its meant meanly.

WhatsTheUseOfWorrying · 20/12/2023 14:03

Is ‘meatloaf’ worse than ‘pumpkin’ or ‘sausage’?

I particularly like ‘nut loaf’. I might borrow that.

Original poster
Joolea · 20/12/2023 14:04

WhatsTheUseOfWorrying · 20/12/2023 14:03

Is ‘meatloaf’ worse than ‘pumpkin’ or ‘sausage’?

I particularly like ‘nut loaf’. I might borrow that.

Nutloaf was one of the examples the teacher used which I thought was the least offensive of the lot! 😂

OP posts:
GilesRupert · 20/12/2023 14:06

Nut loaf and bread loaf are cute

JenJenJenJenJenJen · 20/12/2023 14:07

Your sister sounds incredible.

Original poster
Joolea · 20/12/2023 14:09

JenJenJenJenJenJen · 20/12/2023 14:07

Your sister sounds incredible.

She is, she’s an absolute godsend bless her. Just has a quirky sense of humour!

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Cheepcheepcheep · 20/12/2023 14:10

My DS is known affectionately in the family as ‘pudding’ (DD is ‘poppet’ so quite often it’s ’Pop and Pud’). If he ever asked me to stop I would maybe not if he was being a particularly obnoxious teenager) but since your DD is happy then it really isn’t any of the teacher’s business.

Nutloaf is an excellent nickname btw Grin

Xmasisoffsantahascovid · 20/12/2023 14:12

Nursery called me in many years ago to double check dd's middle name really was cucumber... It isn't but was part of a nn she had.. She has another nn still at 16...prob seems mean to some but it's her nn. She doesn't see it as mean to all. One of my dd's has ginger hair and had been affectionately known as Ginge. Never been a negative nn.. A name is how it's used ime. If dd is loved as Meatloaf then so bloody be it... Imo.

RaisingTheBets · 20/12/2023 14:15

Oh my, some of the things you read on here 🤣🤣

flowerchild2000 · 20/12/2023 14:16

It sounds like a very cute dynamic. Family nicknames are a normal part of life. It's the teacher who is out of line.

BrimfulOfMash · 20/12/2023 14:17

Maybe suggest it evolves into Loafy Lo Lo, and then just LoLo?

Personally I would feel a bit uncomfortable with names referencing things that sound chunky or hefty as ‘meaty’ generally means. However quite soon your Dd may well demand that nicknames are not used.

We were banned on pain of Child Furiousness from using our baby nicknames for Dc once they were about 6 or 7. Especially in front of their friends.

WishIMite · 20/12/2023 14:18

Why is it at all offensive?

HappyHamsters · 20/12/2023 14:19

I think it's really cute and your dd is happy with it, it's not meant in a bad or nasty way at all. Does your dd gave a name for your sister.

HappyHamsters · 20/12/2023 14:22

The teacher may well find our string bean nickname offensive too

flowerchild2000 · 20/12/2023 14:23

I hope some version of Meatloaf sticks, it's just so adorable. I know a full grown man whom everyone calls 'Binky'. It's had to have been about 40 years since he used a pacifier. I don't even know his real name. My DD13 calls DD1 'Goofy' which has now turned into just 'Goof'. I did want to say something about that but I held it in.

5128gap · 20/12/2023 14:25

I imagine the teacher was incorrectly associating nut loaf with other nut related names that would be offensive. Let them get on with it OP. They have their own relationship, and this is part of it.

Mariposistaa · 20/12/2023 14:26

If your kid likes it you need to stop fussing.
Would you be making such a big deal if the nickname was ‘Fluffy pops?’ Hahahaha

WhenWereYouUnderMe · 20/12/2023 14:27

Good lord, I call my kids whatever comes into my stupid mind!

This morning my son got 'poopface' which he thought was very amusing. Sometimes it's sausage, pieface, poopsicle, literally whatever word I think of in the moment.

I think it's nice that you daughter and sister have this fun relationship; the teacher's opinion does not count here.

Workway · 20/12/2023 14:29

My brother calls me snotface. Has done since I was a kid. I'd be upset if he stopped.

Let it go.

Katela18 · 20/12/2023 14:33

It's affectionate! Teacher needs to wind her neck in frankly.

My little boy is called Hamish and my daughter calls him Hamburger and many variations (Hammy the Hamburger, Burger Boy, Ham Sandwich). It's cute! If one day he says he doesn't like it we will ask her to stop but he currently doesn't bat an eyelid

ManateeFair · 20/12/2023 14:37

I'm sorry but Meatloaf is a BRILLIANT nickname for a child and your daughter clearly understands that it's entirely affectionate! Her teacher needs to keep her beak out.

Your sister sounds like an absolute legend.