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Sisters nicknames for DD

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Joolea · 20/12/2023 13:59

Sister has called DD “meatloaf” since she was a few months old. They have a very close relationship and DD absolutely adores her. Sister kindly does a lot of our childcare too (by choice, I’ve never asked her to).

Anyway I asked her to stop calling her meatloaf and the numerous variations of it (meat, meaty, bread loaf, dominoes, nut loaf etc etc) after a bit because it wasn’t exactly a compliment but DD was so upset that her auntie had stopped calling her “their” special names that it ended up carrying on.

Now DD started school in September and sister kindly picks her up for me 4 days a week. Last week a teacher took me aside at home time and asked if I was aware of the names my sister calls DD. I said I was and that I didn’t like it but DD gets upset when she stops. Teacher replied “ok, as long as you’re aware”. With a face on.

Now I feel awful like I’m allowing my DD to be called mean names but DD likes them!!

WIBU to put a stop to it knowing that DD will be upset?

ps. name change as very outing to anyone that knows us!

OP posts:
godmum56 · 28/12/2023 18:43

well but good that the teacher checked surely?

Yenifertree · 28/12/2023 18:47

Eeeeh hellfire. What a fuss over nothing!! Perfectly sweet nicknames as long as your daughter likes them. I call my kids the little rats! I screech ‘Rats!! Dinner!!’ every night. Odd thing for the teacher to get worked up about.

Pres11 · 28/12/2023 18:56

I call my 12 year old son ‘chicken wing!’ 😂 always have. I obviously call him by his name mainly but still use chicken wing. Dont worry and your SIL sounds wonderful.

ILoveEYFS · 28/12/2023 19:32

I was a tiny baby with a large belly button so my uncle called me Doughnut. People thought it was rude, that he was calling me stupid. I love it. He didn't call anyone else doughnut. My uncle died 12 years ago and I miss being called Doughnut.

My older brother was Squirt (obvious reason 🤣).
My youngest sister was Beans (I never knew the reason).

What other people think is irrelevant. Let your daughter and her aunt have this special thing 💐

Paws81 · 28/12/2023 19:40

Could be worse, my DS are affectionately nicknamed Spaniel and Lucifer by my DH

VikingLady · 28/12/2023 19:58

I can believe the teacher took issue with it. I got an absolute bollocking from a trainee health visitor once for calling my extremely pfb whom I cuddled and adored "Stinkerbell" when I was changing her nappy. She could develop a complex about it, apparently. I'm not sure how at 6 months.

Although nursery did have to point out she thought her name was The Bambina at 3, which was awkward.

At 11 she's The Bambina, Babs, My Precious Firstborn (you totally pronounce the capitals), Ratbag, Petal, Honeybunch, Spawn, Fruit of my loins, Tweety Pie....

VikingLady · 28/12/2023 20:00

DS8 often wont reply until we use a nickname because it's more special. He's usually some reference to being tiny, because he's enormously tall but still the youngest. Or Ratbag.

My dad called my brother and I Grotbags, Scroggly, Scroggins - I really miss it!

Frances0911 · 28/12/2023 20:46

Can't your sister just call her by her proper name for the few minutes that she's there picking your daughter up. When I picked my nieces up from school I stood by the gate, they just came over to me and we walked to the car and that was it. There was no need to call their names out.

RandomSunday · 28/12/2023 20:52

My DIL calls my GS “Chunky Monkey”. He will be starting school in January. I have a feeling DIL will be called in to explain 😂

Not really… 🙄

Fancyabikky · 28/12/2023 20:54

Oh wow! I called my nephew “stinky butt” for near enough 5 years when he went to school he asked if i was going to tell the teacher his name (nn) i said not if he didn’t want me to. Long story short he’s now known as stink! - btw he doesn’t ever smell he’s one of those children that always smells like laundry and sweet butter biscuits.

ithinkthatmaybeimdreaming · 28/12/2023 21:16

We had a family friend who called me - as an adult - stinky, and when I was a little child another family friend always called me scruffy (because I never was). A nickname is generally affectionate, leave your sister to carry on. If your DD wasn't happy about it that would be different. The teacher sounds odd.

pineapplesundae · 28/12/2023 21:44

I’m with you and the teacher. I would not want my daughter called nutloaf, meatloaf, or any of those other names. Pretty soon the kids will be calling her that. Maybe have your daughter and sister agree to cutie pie!

1967Kitherly · 28/12/2023 21:49

ILoveEYFS · 28/12/2023 19:32

I was a tiny baby with a large belly button so my uncle called me Doughnut. People thought it was rude, that he was calling me stupid. I love it. He didn't call anyone else doughnut. My uncle died 12 years ago and I miss being called Doughnut.

My older brother was Squirt (obvious reason 🤣).
My youngest sister was Beans (I never knew the reason).

What other people think is irrelevant. Let your daughter and her aunt have this special thing 💐

Aww we call my son Beans, no idea why it just stuck! My auntie calls me Donald (no idea why) Nothing like my real girls name 😂

Theeffingcleaner · 28/12/2023 22:11

This made me laugh to myself😆
I’m in my forties and my nn Nelly growing up is still used by uncle who is 67!!!(my ears stick out so I got the nn as in Nelly the elephant as a baby)
I have nn for all of my children and eldest gets called hers by all family member’s and even had the name on her senior leavers hoodie, she is 23 now and still uses her nn even on her socials accounts.
There is nothing wrong with meatloaf tbh it could be worse. No one else may not like your daughter being called this but would you rather have your daughter upset that her auntie nn is stopped and she loses that special bond with her auntie because she is not allowed a nn!!it’s only a nn and later on in life as your daughter grows, she may choose to not be called it so just correct pp and say she likes to be known by her special aunties nn❤️

Cottagewitch · 29/12/2023 09:48

Aww. I think the names are cute. One of my house rabbits never gets called by her actual name she’s always ‘little loaf’ or variations of (loafy, loaflette, brown loaf). Not that I’m comparing your DD to a rabbit but it’s cute, I especially like nut loaf.

MissingMoominMamma · 29/12/2023 10:36

I’m imagining your daughter with shoulder length wispy hair and a leather jacket…

JMSA · 29/12/2023 10:39

JenJenJenJenJenJen · 20/12/2023 15:18

I probably wouldn’t send your kid in wearing large-collared white shirts under black waistcoats either.

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JMSA · 29/12/2023 10:41

Love reading all your cute nickname stories!
Meatloaf is legendary Smile

JMSA · 29/12/2023 10:43

My 22 year old is known by me as Chunk, due to her gloriously sturdy, adorable, nibbleworthy, beautiful toddler body.
I think maybe I should stop 😭

JMSA · 29/12/2023 10:46

When I was born, the midwives in the hospital called me 'Wee Dainty'.

I wish I had lived up to it, because I'm fat now Grin

Samlewis96 · 29/12/2023 11:07

BranstonPickleandPeanutButter · 20/12/2023 18:06

DS is any version of ratbag. It's a family thing and totally fine.

My eldest daughter was ratfink. Can't remember why now

MumToCrash · 29/12/2023 11:22

Name changed as this is potentially outing...

My DD's nickname is Crash. It began when she was a baby and her older brother couldn't say her name (Carys), he pronounced it Crash instead. The name stuck. She's now almost 18 and still gets called Crash by family. She absolutely does not care - if she did we wouldn't use it.

ellyeth · 29/12/2023 16:30

Your daughter adores her aunt, your daughter likes her nickname and isn't taking offence so I can't see the problem. It will, in my opinion, only become a problem if a big issue is made of it.

I think calling a young girl "princess" (which some parents seem to favour) is a good deal worse.

LovelyIssues · 29/12/2023 22:03

Is your DD chunky by any chance? That's the only way I could find meatloaf offensive

LBFseBrom · 30/12/2023 14:06

Perhaps your daughter makes enthusiastic charges into a room, like a bat out of.......

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